I hope I can bring this up with belittling anyone's beliefs. I really do mean it as a special needs question, not spirituality.
YoungSon, 15, dx'ed with PDD-NOS (and other stuff), has a very rigid, black & white view of the world. I am thrilled at the progress he has made in the last couple years - he was really "disabled" years ago, but has come so far. He is an ethical, concerned citizen, volunteers at the Food Bank (his own idea), and has political and moral views and ideas. In so many ways, I am proud of him and he is surpassing my expectations.
But he has become fundamentalist Christian. In a very loud and judgmental way, he believes in the literal interpretation of the Bible, hell's fire and damnation, and that all non-believers will go to hell. He totally (and insultingly) rejects evolution. He is not open to discussing any of this rationally, as he credits the devil whenever I bring up alternative views.
He has become a version of homophobic (awkward to say the least in this relatively queer household) and feels that is supported by the bible. He is loudly pro-military in a pacifist environment, and I think much of that is anti-Islam on a religious basis. He must feel really isolated, as my roommate, and my 16 year old DD and I all share a much different world-view than his. We want to respect his opinions, but the only way we have found is to try to avoid the subject. And most any conversation can lead to Christianity with him. Think of a typical autistic obsession. Most any disagreement can end with, "Well, you're going to hell anyway". I do insist he at least be polite about it, but that leads to him just shutting up, and further isolating himself.
He doesn't attend church. I tried taking him to church I knew to be more inclusive, but he was uncomfortable because he knew I "don't believe". I have suggested some local moderate churches, hoping that he could learn a more mellow version of these beliefs, but he isn't much of a joiner.
Is this a stage he will outgrow? It has been an issue for a year or longer, so I know it isn't going to be a quick one. I am trying to teach him to accept differences, but that doesn't come easily to kids on the Spectrum. I am trying to be open-minded myself, but to me his beliefs seem so judgmental and negative. Is that sort of an autism thing? I would welcome any advice on how to approach this. I like that he has his own opinions and is willing to defend them. But do they have to be so far from mine?