Hi all...I don't hardly post, like, ever. THis is my second user account in fact. I have been on MDC for a number of years as a lurker and I am a subscriber of the magazine for nearly a decade. I have a 9 year old. She will be 10 in May. She is starting adolescence all too soon and with it comes the attitude.
I am at a loss on how to handle her demands for attention (as in, when she wants something she wants it now!) I give my children the attention they need and sometimes do far too much for them. What I am having trouble with is the attitude of selfishness that is happening now that DD9 is getting closer to double digits.
The second issue at hand is that I am with my partner and he has never had children, though we are planning a baby in the coming year. He is essentially step-parent to my three children ages 9,6 and 3. I have troubles because for the almost decade I have been a mother, I have parented alone, partner or not. I've essentially been a single mother. I have raised my children in a very gentle manner, but there are situation that come up that I have trouble with...and I TRY so hard not to get frustrated, but when I am frustrated, it doesn't help matters that my DP chimes in with everything I am doing wrong. It's hard to hear because I have been the only one doing it for so long.
So questions are two fold: How do you handle to attitude shift in your pre-adolescent daughter, and for blended families, how do you co-parent without wanting to just throw your hands in the air.
I want to have more babies with this man. I love him more than I've loved any man...I don't want the differences we WILL HAVE and presently have in our ideas of parenting to squash that for us.
My frustrations don't happen often...just when I feel overwhelmed...and the criticism doesn't help.