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post #101 of 333

I just spotted the request for saving on home school stuff. I told people what I needed, and a church donated some. Other home schoolers offered me their used books at low prices. I also got some books from former teachers, and in thrift stores. In the early years, I used many Golden Step Ahead books from the stores, and then erased and reused for the next child. I made up my own quizzes for some books, lots of work but saves money or trying to find the teachers version of a discarded public school book.

 

I hope your kids turn out as well as mine. All three now have jobs, vote, pay taxes. They all have had some educaton beyond 12th grade, but also all know how to learn things on their own for free. They all have many survival skills, even though two choose to ignore some that knowledge.

 

For all homeschool moms, but also for others: Teach your kids how to work. Public school does not teach this, and it is such an advantage after you kid lands his/her first job. With the work ethic, they can keep the job, without it they will prolly get fired or just quit before long. Meanwhile, if your kids help around the house, you will be able to do more to stretch a buck, and it gives the kids self-esteem. Even a tot can do something useful! I started with having them fold washcloths and pair (some of) the socks, and fetch diapering supplies for newest baby. Add other age-appropriate tasks as your child grows. Best of all, kids who have chores to do are much less likely to come whining "I'm bored," because they soon figure out what you will recommend. I made most of the early chores things done where I was, part of what I was doing, so it was easy to supervise, made them feel important, and kept them from getting lonely/bored somewhere else.

post #102 of 333

I sent out some resumes today.  Almost had a nervous break down after Monday's subbing assignment.

 

Does anyone know of a better website than monster (which is a monster to work with) or career builder?  I feel like I know every large company in the metro area but short of going to each company's website daily to see whats posted, I need a much better system.  HELP!

 

I don't feel comfortable looking for a career/job on craigslist.  I live sort'a close to the border and strange things have happened in the area off CL.  Selling old stuff is one thing, a job is totally different.

post #103 of 333

Good thread.  We're losing our house.  Well, we're trying to stay in control of the process so, we're declaring bankruptcy ahead of 'losing' the house.  I hate this.  I won't miss this house, but it's still hard to take.

 

 

post #104 of 333

Zebra15: Indeed.com is amazing! They take job postings from tons of different sites including monster and career builder and put it all in one place. A friend just suggested it yesterday and DH sent out 3 resumes already.

 

Journeymom: We lost our home too and filed bk. I don't miss the house at all but it is a stressful process. We did a shortsale on the house then filed BK.

 

 

Got notice that our FS are being stopped if DH's employer doesn't fill out a form saying he was employed and verify his income last month. The only problem is he is an independent contractor and not an employee. They won't fill it out. I need to call the FS office Monday which should be a nightmare. Hopefully they will give us another option like doing a profit and loss statement instead. I am trying not to stress but it is scarry.

post #105 of 333

subbing.

post #106 of 333
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Got notice that our FS are being stopped if DH's employer doesn't fill out a form saying he was employed and verify his income last month. The only problem is he is an independent contractor and not an employee. They won't fill it out. I need to call the FS office Monday which should be a nightmare. Hopefully they will give us another option like doing a profit and loss statement instead. I am trying not to stress but it is scarry.



Yikes, what a PITA. I hope it goes smoothly for you and you are able to get something worked out!

post #107 of 333
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Journeymom: We lost our home too and filed bk. I don't miss the house at all but it is a stressful process. We did a shortsale on the house then filed BK.

 

 

You sold the house, you didn't loose it!   I'm clinging to that point of view, keeps me from wanting the earth to open up and swallow me.  

 

I know, it's the same as "You can't fire me, I quit!!" 

post #108 of 333

Keep in mind Monday is a Federal Holiday; nothing will be open.

post #109 of 333
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Zebra15: Indeed.com is amazing! They take job postings from tons of different sites including monster and career builder and put it all in one place. A friend just suggested it yesterday and DH sent out 3 resumes already.

 

Journeymom: We lost our home too and filed bk. I don't miss the house at all but it is a stressful process. We did a shortsale on the house then filed BK.

 

 

Got notice that our FS are being stopped if DH's employer doesn't fill out a form saying he was employed and verify his income last month. The only problem is he is an independent contractor and not an employee. They won't fill it out. I need to call the FS office Monday which should be a nightmare. Hopefully they will give us another option like doing a profit and loss statement instead. I am trying not to stress but it is scarry.


If he's an IC then for FS he is considered self-employed. Ask for a self employment form, put his paycheck amounts for the earnings and any expenses under the expenses, and that should make them happy. Remember you can pad the expenses - they get taken off earnings dollar for dollar. I used to have to do the same thing when I worked for ChaCha online. 

 

post #110 of 333

Indeed.com looks amazing.  I will be all over that tonight and this weekend.... what's the saying.... 'like white on rice'?  hehe

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Today is a frustrating day. I am sitting here debating if I have enough gas to make it 6 minutes down the street to a food pantry. Oy. I also need to somehow find enough money to make it to my son's clothing assistance appointment on Tuesday and to make it to walmart on thursday to cash dh's check...
post #113 of 333

Has anyone gone back to school? I am a poor single mom who is cleaning houses.... I have 3 years of college but feel very limited in my job choices as I don't have family support with the kids.  I am wondering if I can go to the community college and see what they can do with my credits If I can take a few classes and get an associates degree?  I think around here they hire a lot of people with those. Any ideas of how to start?

post #114 of 333

journeymom: Very good point! It will be ok. Big hugs to you!!

 

Mar13: Thanks for the reminder. Probably means it will be harder to get ahold of someone on Tuesday. Oh well....

 

frugalmama: I was not aware they had a specific form for self employed people. That gives me hope and makes me feel much calmer. Hmmm....I wonder if I can track down this form online somewhere.

post #115 of 333

Mom31: Dh and I are back in school. I graduated with a bachelor's in 03, but ended up hating the career choice. I'm very naturally minded, and love the "healing arts". There is an excellent massage program at my local community college and I am set to finish next year. It's a 2 yr program, not requiring any of the usual MACRAO agreement classes that I've already completed, so I am literally starting over. However, because I already have a 4-yr degree I am not eligible for much financial assistance. My college has scholarships through the women's resource center for low-income individuals, mother's returning to school, etc., but I'm not eligible. I can't get the pell grant or any other kind of grant. I can only get loans, and there is a lifetime max for undergrad loans, that I am about to hit. I may be finishing this on my own dime (what dime?), or just quitting before I really finish and moving on to my master's in nutrtion I plan to work on next.

 

My student loans and dh's loans and grants help a LOT. They almost double dh's yearly income. Those and our taxes keep us "comfortable" all year round with careful budgeting. W/o them there's no way we could make it. I haven't had a utility shut off since we started school again, we have the money for our van payment every month (we have only one vehicle, which we'll be paying off this year), etc. We're not buying ANYTHING unnecessary (have a crappy old couch, clothes from thrift stores, etc), but we're not constantly stressed sick like most here (and across America).

 

Now, when we're done with school, the hope is dh will be making double what he does now, as the career sites and job listings for his career say, and we'll still be "making it" as well as we do now. While some may say that student loans are just making us comfortable now to make us barely able to live when we're done, and in more debt than we could ever pay off (our only debt after the van is paid off will be student loans and our soon-to-be mortgage). However, even at double dh's current income we would still pay nothing on the SLs under the IBR. And, after 20 yrs of payments, if your loans are not yet paid off they are forgiven (only direct loans from the gov't, though, not private loans). Even if he ends up tripling his income, under IBR or ICR we will not pay more than we can "afford", and with this many children we won't be able to afford a lot.

 

So, we'll be only "comfortable" for the rest of our lives, rather than "rich". Oh well! That's all I've ever really wanted. Travel the world, staying in expensive hotels, buying a half million dollar house, too many designer clothes for my closet, these have never been my goals. I'm all about having a small homestead in the country, eventually completely off the grid. Maybe tracveling the country in a motor home in our retirement. So, Im happy with the choices we've made. Plus, dh will actually finally be happy in his career choice, in going to work every day, and there is WAY too little emphasis put on the importance of being happy at your job. Is it hard for him to go to school full time, and work full time, with 5 kids waiting for him every day? Yes. Does he feel it's worth it? Absolutely!

 

I would just contact the admissions office at your community college and ask where to start. They will put you in with a "counselor" and you can ask all your questions about programs, financial aid, etc. Your school will also have a website on which you can find all the info on fin aid and courses/programs, transferring, etc. Find something you WANT to do, not something you'll make a lot of money in. And don't believe the hype that there's a shortage in teachers (as Zebra can tell you) or nurses. Do what you would love to do even if you weren't being paid for it, and you'll find a way to get paid well for it (generally). I wanted to get into massage because I like it, want to use it on my family even if I never do it for a career, and I could start my own practice on my own terms/schedule. THEN, in one of my classes, someone said to me "Yeah, what other program can you get into, finish in a year, and make a MINIMUM of $20 an hour when you're done? Many make $60-100/hr." That changed my whole outlook on the field! Plus, it's growing SO FAST! Chiropractor's offices are hiring massage therapists like crazy, and it's beginning to be used heavily in physical therapy and hospitals (often as a complimentary therapy for cancer patients). Plus, the classes are so fun! You get a full body massage in every class. That's my kind of college course.

 

And feel free to ask me (or thystle) any questions. We're the only 2 students I KNOW of on this thread (or maybe it's her dh, but she knows everything about it anyway).

post #116 of 333
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Has anyone gone back to school? I am a poor single mom who is cleaning houses.... I have 3 years of college but feel very limited in my job choices as I don't have family support with the kids.  I am wondering if I can go to the community college and see what they can do with my credits If I can take a few classes and get an associates degree?  I think around here they hire a lot of people with those. Any ideas of how to start?


 

I think that's a brilliant idea.  Getting an AA won't guarantee anything, but employers do like to see completed degrees.  Are you close to finishing a particular subject?  Make an appointment with the counseling office at your community college.  This is exactly what they're for.  They'll take a look at what classes you've completed and help you figure out where to go from there.  Ask about grants and scholarships, whatever money that can be found that does not have to be paid back.

 

 

 

post #117 of 333

Also, my women's resource enter has child care for free during your classes for low-income students (I think they train the child development students there). I haven't taken advantage, because I HS so my older kids wouldn't exactly fit there during the day with the toddlers, lol. But, it's something to look into anyway, if yours has one, as they probably have after school care if your kids are in school...

post #118 of 333

Does anyone know of any programs that will assist a single mother with a security deposit? It's practically impossible to save when I'm already paying rent somewhere else and I spend (seriously) $10-15 in gas per day to get to and from work.  I need to find a place closer to my job, away from my mother.

post #119 of 333

A community action agency can sometimes... or catholic churches I believe.  I have gotten rent paid by a community action before.  I also know a lot of people who use their tax money to move to a better location place etc.

post #120 of 333

a tax check would've been great... except I was on disability for 7 whole months this year while I was pregnant :( wont be seeing much this tax check.

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