*~*~*2012 Low Income Support Group*~*~* - Page 12

[zebra15]

My own personal update of he!!-

I managed to get DES untangled today.  (see novel in poverty thread)  We should be fine with foodstamps and medical for 6 more months.

My apartment that was meant to be peaceful and quiet is turning into he!!. The people above me can not get along and I refuse to live under domestic violence.  I refuse to move 25 yds and 2 bldgs over.  I still don't have decent work in this town.  I am seriously considering moving back 'home'.  At least I would have access to money there and the job market is soooo much better.

I am seriously sick.  I'm down at least 2 pants sizes from November when I put my 'summer' pants away.  (Winter is November to March here).  The stress of the family above me, not working, no money, my own mental issues are finally taking a toll on me.  I can not tolerate meat anymore, the thought of anything meat makes me want to vomit.  The days I do work, I totally skip breakfast and most likely lunch.  Work/subbing is driving me up a wall.   The pants that I do have look huge on me, all over, think 80's parachute pants.  I don't look sick because I'm overweight to begin with but I can tell something is amiss.  

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[branditopolis]

Zebra, do you know what's going on with you health wise?  I haven't read your story but this doesn't sound good. 

[zebra15]

I honestly do know.  I have an un-dx issue with my hands.  (I get deep sharp pain in my hands only, not my arms, just the hands  The pain can last 2 mins or 2 days, no time limit and no reason.) and no one can figure it out. Not the MD, not the Neurologist and certainly not the Rhumetologist. (the rhum. told me 'well its not RA, bye- gee thanks).  I also have some type of un-dx stomach issue.  I'm on three stomach meds.  Years ago they thought it was an ulcer but ulcers do not last years. However if I stop any of the stomach meds I have such pain that I am literally rolled up in a ball in pain crying.

Now add in the rapid weight loss.

All my PCP seems concerned about is me being anemic. I've been anemic for a decade and its because I refuse to eat meat.

Oh and I go through cycles where my hair falls out. I thought it was a stress thing, but there seems to be no rhyme or reason to this anymore.

I've given up on Dr's at this point.
 

Originally Posted by branditopolis 

Zebra, do you know what's going on with you health wise?  I haven't read your story but this doesn't sound good. 

[maciascl]

Originally Posted by zebra15 

I honestly do know.  I have an un-dx issue with my hands.  (I get deep sharp pain in my hands only, not my arms, just the hands  The pain can last 2 mins or 2 days, no time limit and no reason.) and no one can figure it out. Not the MD, not the Neurologist and certainly not the Rhumetologist. (the rhum. told me 'well its not RA, bye- gee thanks).  I also have some type of un-dx stomach issue.  I'm on three stomach meds.  Years ago they thought it was an ulcer but ulcers do not last years. However if I stop any of the stomach meds I have such pain that I am literally rolled up in a ball in pain crying.

Now add in the rapid weight loss.

All my PCP seems concerned about is me being anemic. I've been anemic for a decade and its because I refuse to eat meat.

Oh and I go through cycles where my hair falls out. I thought it was a stress thing, but there seems to be no rhyme or reason to this anymore.

I've given up on Dr's at this point.
 

Have you had your thyroid checked?
 

[thatgirliknew]

I am not even going to list the negative things going on right now, because there are a TON.

BUT

I have good news. DP and roomie both got jobs today making $10.50 an hour and medical/dental/vision, company paid short and long term disability, company paid life insurance, dependent life insurance, health savings account with company match, 401k with company match for first 5 %, ten paid holidays a year, paid vacations after 6 months, paid jury duty, 3 days paid bereavement leave (I"m just copying the benefits paper, lol).

dp has never worked anywhere with good pay AND benefits!

so, this next week or so will totally suck, but then we'll be fine

[branditopolis]

Originally Posted by zebra15 

I honestly do know.  I have an un-dx issue with my hands.  (I get deep sharp pain in my hands only, not my arms, just the hands  The pain can last 2 mins or 2 days, no time limit and no reason.) and no one can figure it out. Not the MD, not the Neurologist and certainly not the Rhumetologist. (the rhum. told me 'well its not RA, bye- gee thanks).  I also have some type of un-dx stomach issue.  I'm on three stomach meds.  Years ago they thought it was an ulcer but ulcers do not last years. However if I stop any of the stomach meds I have such pain that I am literally rolled up in a ball in pain crying.

Now add in the rapid weight loss.

All my PCP seems concerned about is me being anemic. I've been anemic for a decade and its because I refuse to eat meat.

Oh and I go through cycles where my hair falls out. I thought it was a stress thing, but there seems to be no rhyme or reason to this anymore.

I've given up on Dr's at this point.
 

maybe lupus? or fibromialgia?  You poor thing :(  it sounds like you're constantly in pain

[zebra15]

I have work scheduled for 3/29 and 3/30

next week is spring break and while there could be work tomorrow 3/16 I dont think I will take it, Subbing the day before vacation and the day before St patty's day... ugh   FTR, there has been NO WORK this week either...   We are quickly sinking, but I have sanity...

Tonight I'm making banana bread- GO ME!

[maciascl]

Originally Posted by zebra15 

  We are quickly sinking, but I have sanity

I love this! Great way to stay positive!

DH has started his new job and is working for the 6th day in a row today. He will be working tomorrow too but not sure about Monday. He is still in a sales person position but they are working on moving him up to something like an assistant manager that will come with a small raise but we don't know how much yet. They haven't actually said so yet but we think they are prepping him for store management.  They only have 1 manager but are supposed to have 3 different ones (different responsibilities) so that would be awesome.I am still really nervous about our finances since even with the small raise he will be getting it won't be enough to cover all the bills but I am much less stressed than I was before he started working.

I need to figure out a way to bring in a few hundred a month from home. I've tried ChaCha and I am not  working that hard for that little money. It is not worth it to be tied to the computer all the time when my kids need my attention. Hmmm...wish I was crafty and could make things to sell.

[Mom31]

I got a call from an old college contact who came thru town a few months ago and stayed here on business- he wants me to send my resume to him cause he wants me to be his sales rep and event coordinator for the area I live in- hope to hear more about it soon. Sending him the resume on Monday.

It could totally be good for me or at least my resume to get more experience doing something like that.

YAY.

And- I am soooo tired of cleaning houses- I will prob have to still clean but at least it would be added income.

[branditopolis]

Awesome, good luck!!

Originally Posted by Mom31 

I got a call from an old college contact who came thru town a few months ago and stayed here on business- he wants me to send my resume to him cause he wants me to be his sales rep and event coordinator for the area I live in- hope to hear more about it soon. Sending him the resume on Monday.

It could totally be good for me or at least my resume to get more experience doing something like that.

YAY.

And- I am soooo tired of cleaning houses- I will prob have to still clean but at least it would be added income.

[branditopolis]

ooh, poor guy, he's probably exhausted to be working every day like that!

also, what is ChaCha?
 

Originally Posted by maciascl 

I love this! Great way to stay positive!

DH has started his new job and is working for the 6th day in a row today. He will be working tomorrow too but not sure about Monday. He is still in a sales person position but they are working on moving him up to something like an assistant manager that will come with a small raise but we don't know how much yet. They haven't actually said so yet but we think they are prepping him for store management.  They only have 1 manager but are supposed to have 3 different ones (different responsibilities) so that would be awesome.I am still really nervous about our finances since even with the small raise he will be getting it won't be enough to cover all the bills but I am much less stressed than I was before he started working.

I need to figure out a way to bring in a few hundred a month from home. I've tried ChaCha and I am not  working that hard for that little money. It is not worth it to be tied to the computer all the time when my kids need my attention. Hmmm...wish I was crafty and could make things to sell.

[maciascl]

This is ChaCha
 

Originally Posted by branditopolis 

ooh, poor guy, he's probably exhausted to be working every day like that!

also, what is ChaCha?
 

[averysmomma05]

I have been working for ChaCha for 2 years. Took a year break think I am going to start back on it.

[Nature]

Originally Posted by averysmomma05 

I have been working for ChaCha for 2 years. Took a year break think I am going to start back on it.

Me too. considering going back but I'm not sure I can handle the computer time anymore. I want to garden and do other things with my life.

[zebra15]

Things are not no hot here.  We are moving in less than 2 weeks, across the country.   DS has major attitude right now and I'm doing all I can to scrape together enough money to make the trip.  

I am trying to plan a bit of a vacation into the trip and do some things that DS wants to do but his attitude is making me want to cancel the whole dang thing and drive right through.

Fingers crossed for better jobs in the new part of the country.

[frugalmama]

haven't seen anyone post here in a while - is this thread still open?

We're still here, still broke. Still in foreclosure - the bank is giving us the run around on getting it out of foreclosure. I'm strongly thinking of just letting it go to the bank - the roof is getting worse since we've had a lot of rain lately. 

They opened our local section 8 voucher wait list a few days ago, but it's opened by lottery - i.e. even though you do the online application you are not given a spot on the list unless you win one in the lottery. *fingers crossed* we are able to get one, even though it would mean downsizing to a smaller place. I'm working now towards that goal anyways - getting rid of as much stuff as possible in a preemptive move. 

[Mom31]

UGh. I am struggling big time- summer is here and I thought I could get child care to be able to work and the funding is being cut and no one is going to be taking the state paid kids anymore...

My food stamps are going up when I went to recertify I found that they had it down I paid $0 in rent- that is very much not the case at all!!

SO it is going up by 125 a month which will help so much.  I just don't know how we are going to make it to entertain the kids all day every day... I am hoping to take them with me to clean houses... but I don't know how that will go....  I am just stressing...  I wish i had money to send my kids to camps and the like but even the gas to get there is to much.  I feel like a really really bad mom not being able to provide these things for my kids.  I am planning on starting to work in August as soon as they go back to school.... I think I can now my health is better and I really have no more choice.  At all.
UGh.

[zebra15]

We've moved.  It's amazing to me that a totally different section of the country has 180 degrees different employment (so far).  I had close to 4 years of banging my head against the wall in AZ and where we are now, I've been here all of a week, I've had numerous phone calls and TWO interviews scheduled for next week.  (I didn't have 2 interviews all last year).  Hoping that I get an offer soon and we can move out of my mothers house.  My mother has some serious unDX mental issues and we really need our own place.

In bad news the usps lost an entire box of books - the box was open and no one can find the books- what was delivered instead? a plastic beach bag and towel - lovely huh?   Oh well, I said we were starting over and eventually I will get everything straightened out, part of me doesn't even want to deal with the usps for anything.  I want to just cut my losses and rebuild.

Still doing resumes, no less than 10 a day, many days more.  answering phone calls and emails.  Taking DS to the federal park system here almost daily to explore and 'hike'.  We even experienced RAIN.

I'm not letting myself look for apts just yet.  I want to see how these first couple interviews go. (we left everything, no furniture, no housewares, NOTHING_  just 19 boxes of stuff, legos, clothes, and books basically were shipped.)   we are totally starting over and I need a job.

[maciascl]

Frugalmama: Good luck with the house and section 8 if you do need it. We have been on the section 8 list here for almost 3 years and still nothing.

Mom31: I feel the same way. DS1 BEGS me to let him go to 'day camps' or play on a soccer team and it just breaks my heart to always have to say no.

Zebra: Sounds like so far the move has been a good thing. Crossing my fingers that a great job comes to you quickly and you can get out of your mom's house.

DH has been working for about 2 months now and they have been talking about making him a manager. But then they decided to put him in a different store because they needed sales help and he is a better sales person. So for being a better employee he is having to lead the sales team and act as a manager for no more money or an actual manager title. I am so frustrated!! Plus it isn't enough to pay our bills so I am going to have to start looking for something to make ends meet. I don't know what I am going to do. DS1 and DS2 love being homeschooled and would be devistated if I put them in school. Even then I don't know what I would do with DS3. MIL is so busy running my 20 and 13 year old nephews all over the world all day she couldn't take care of him regularly. Plus I have no skills.

I am so stressed and anxious over all of this. The most ironic thing is that DH was offered medical/dental insurance last week and that should have been a huge relief since we haven't had any in 3 years, but we couldn't even afford to accept it. I need to see a dr so bad for my anxiety. I've never wanted to do medication but I just need some relief now. I actually lie awake at night with my heart pounding out of my chest and jump at any little noise because I just know that at any moment someone is going to break in. While this is a real possibitlity I know logically it is not very likely. We are in a decent neighborhood, I am just so consumed by fear I can't control it.