Originally Posted by FaithHopeLove29
Thanks ladies, just reread my post and it was pretty unclear, but yeah, he was laid off today. There are a fair number of companies hiring around here, and unemployment's relatively low, so maybe it will be a short term thing, but I think the most stressful thing for me is health insurance, which we have to figure out by the end of the month (I'm a student in MA so I'm legally required to be insured at all times, even if I wanted to risk a month or two without) I'm starting to feel like I didn't overreact today, and DH hasn't been upset that I've been so upset.
I think this time of year sucks for layoffs, but I've known this company for 5 years, and they've only had two layoffs - and both were in December :-/ We'll get through this, and luckily it's just us and the dogs still, so no one will notice a frugal Christmas as I try to scrimp and save as much as possible just in case this takes awhile...
Thanks for the support - very much appreciated!!
You know, DH and I had a Christmas like that, the last Christmas as just us two, before DD was born.
I stopped working two weeks before Christmas. It wasn't quite so traumatic as what just happened to you and your DH, but it was uncharted territory, for sure. We didn't know what it was really going to be like, saying goodbye to my $50k a year plus benefits, so that I could be a full time mama and that Christmas was VERY frugal.
I made a pretty tree and I set about thinking of what to put under it. I took stock of DHs undershirts and socks and boxers, etc. They were getting ratty, so I went out and I found new boxers, socks and teeshirts for him....all the things I knew I'd be buying in the coming months for him anyway, as his supply was getting old and tearing, etc. I wrapped up all of those t-shirts and boxers and socks in the prettiest, most lavish looking papers and tissues and ribbons...they looked so beautiful!
I got some gas cards, fancy nuts and dry goods snacks (things I send him to work with that are kind of expensive, from the whole foods type stores) and all of that stuff I wrapped up too. Anything that I could think of, that I would be buying anyway in the coming weeks, I bought for Christmas, instead.
Well, I snuck into the living room while he was sleeping on Christmas Eve and made a beautiful arrangement. The look in his eyes on Christmas morning was so wonderful...."What have you DONE, babe!! This is too much stuff!! We're too broke for this, we have to save our money!!" blah blah blah...he was so much more stressed than I, about me stopping work. He felt a lot of anxiety about it and was really, really worried about what it was going to be like to cut our monthly income in half AND have to add me to his insurance. So, to see all of those presents under the tree, so lavishly packaged, so many of them....it was freakin' him out!
I was just like "Hey, you sit down and let's open gifts!" He sat down and started tearing at paper, pulling at bows and laughing so hard at the boxers and teeshirts and cashews and dried cranberries the paper gave way to reveal.
He was equipped with all the things he was going to need anyway in the coming months....he had all his snacks and a bunch of gas cards and all sorts of stuff like that, that I was going to be purchasing anyway...but we saved ourselves the future spending and bought things we needed instead of "extra" things.
We had so much joy and the feeling of the day was "this is all going to be okay, we are crafty and we love each other, we can make it through this time with a good attitude and we'll be the happiest poor folks around!" - it really helped my DH to see, that my attitude was good, that I didn't need shiny things or expensive things to be happy...just him.
I think I even bought and wrapped up some tin foil and other things like that I was running low on. Looking at that Christmas tree...you would have thought it was decked out with the most marvelous cache of expensive gifts. It looked so beautiful...and it was so much fun.
You guys can make it through this. Acts of love and shows of commitment will help you to feel comforted....if you stick close to each other, keep your wits about you and remain resourceful, things will be better than alright...they'll be GREAT!