The idea that we have absolute control over out bodies and excecution of the physiological function as well as the state of general health is complete, utter and dangerous delusion. That idea make many people feel as failure for no good reason.
Plenty of vegans get cancer,
Plenty of athletes get heart disease.
Our bodies are nor designed perfectely for anything be it it running, pooping, peeing, birthing or living in general.
Nature is not gentle goddess In a green dress. She is bitch along with her sister Evolution in a grimy lab.
Yes, it is the survival of the fittest, or at leas it was this way until the advent of modern medicine.
The reason species develop is massive reproductive wastage.
Modern obstetrics decreased maternal and perinatal mortality by 90%.
Why should you feel like failure? . Simple physiology not longer dictate our survival. Narrow pelvises and babies born blue no longer means a certain death.
You are the triumph of human evolution. You have the brains and the sense to show the two bitchy sisters, Nature and Evolution who is the boss. You are! You availed yourself to the best what modern medical science has to offer and nowyou are a MOTHER, you infant will group to be an adult. Furthermore, you will have more children and pass on your very smart genes on to the future!