i struggle with this. i love many, many aspects of the waldorf philosophy and have already been practicing a lot of this on my own. a lot of the beliefs really strike a chord with me.
the problem is trying to establish a routine, rhythm with our two year old with other people living in our house. DP and his brother live with us and while they are absolutely wonderful and believe in many of the similar things--they don't practice it.
i work so hard to keep our small tv covered, but it's nearly always on once the guys are home and it's on all evening and weekends. and the things they watch other than sports, are really ridiculous, seedy things like the jersey shore. i know that they work so much and want to unwind when they come home. but i've made it clear that there are so many other ways to unwind and that i really want no media exposure for a hour before DD's bedtime but it seems so hard for them to do that... "but, after this football game..." and it's already 8 pm.
when DD and i are alone, our rhythms are so much more peaceful and it's easier to get her to drift off to sleep at nighttime (when most of the time, it's a two hour struggle to get her to sleep). and we are expecting our second baby by spring and i'm really concerned about DD's sleep.
DP's brother also keeps insisting on buying DD all those toys.... millions of balloons that keep bursting and there are tiny pieces everywhere...plastic noisemakers, little plastic beads everywhere. i can't even count how much trash we've been making with that. DD and i make sure that our interests are all the simple things.. she has always enjoyed playing with kitchen things and things we find outdoors. and DP's brother keeps thinking that she's bored and that we are depriving her because i believe in open-ended toys and creativity. yes, i have been exhausted, but have always made a point to play with her and wish others would help me out and play with her in the same manner rather than plopping her in front of the TV, computer, or the idea of playing with her is to buy all those breakable, cheap, useless toys. i am so tired of picking up tiny pieces scattered all over the house. i'm so tired of DD whining because she saw gummy worms and sweets on the counter. it's gone to the point where i can't go out for a day or evening and be comfortable that DD is being taen care of well. i've been trying to make boundaries, but all that's happened is that they make me feel like i'm controlling.
i've communicated with both of them. DP is a bit more onboard than his brother.. but they both enable each other with laziness and junk food rather than encourage nourishment.
they both agree that media isn't the best thing and that we should be eating healthier and making less trash, but aren't following through. and i really feel like i'm picking up after two big men and a toddler. anyone else have experience with this? insight?