Hmmm... we haven't heard from Azadehhast today... curiouser and curiouser...
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My mother and I have a pretty good relationship now, but in the last months, she's gotten fed up with her sexually impotent husband and has begun a lot of online, sex-chat relatiionships, that she thinks are secret, but really everyone knows about. In the two days since she's been here, she's nearly constantly been chatting on Skype with these men and goes into her room a few times in the middle of the day to masturbate to them. I'm just really feeling uncomfortable and grossed out by this behaviour! I want to ask her to stop, to at least do it at night so DH and I don't hear her, or else to leave, but I can't even begin to think of how to bring it up. And in the meantime, I feel so uncomfortable to be in my house. Aside from all this, she's being wonderful, she's cooking dinner and shopping for food, and is fun to be around (when she's not chatting), and I really want her to be a part of this......but.....yuck. What to do?
Oh, sorry to hear things have slowed down for you Azadehhast. I wouldn't know where to begin with my mom if that were happening here... I think the only thing I might say is that I was hurt that she was spending so much time on the internet instead of with me (play the needy crazy pregnant lady card!). Or have DH turn the internet off and say the modem is fried and he'll replace it on the weekend. Or start turning the radio on every time she goes into her room and maybe she'll clue in that you've been hearing her. that's a really tough situation to handle, I'm sorry you're having to deal with it!
Our threads are so busy it's hard to keep up! Congratulations to those whose babies have arrived!
Birth energy to those who are waiting for babes to arrive>>
Hugs for those who need them.
Azadehhast, that is one of the strangest situations I've heard of surrounding birth. I don't know what to tell you, but I would be upset, too. My MWs have reminded DP and me that it is very important to be direct and clear with those who will be around during/after birth. Not knowing your mother's personality, I can't offer advice on how to approach her. More hugs for you, though. I'm sorry you're making "reverse" progress.
Rustydaisies: I agree with others who have posted. I second the advice on checking ahead about the carseat. I've never traveled on bus with my kiddos, so I can't speak to that experience. I imagine it could be difficult to maneuver your luggage, the carseat, and the infant at connecting bus stations ... I would ask about that. I can see myself trying to fit everything for the babe and me in a backpack to avoid the trouble of keeping up with extra things.
I have traveled with infants and toddlers and it can be stressful, but well worth it if the destination is somewhere that you can unwind and enjoy. Also, travel is much easier when they are younger because they tend to spend most of the trip sleeping and breastfeeding.
I'm still here, and still pregnant. Ugh. I had contractions for nearly three full days, then my mother came, and everything stopped. We walked 4 1/2 miles today, up a big hill. And DH and I DTD last night (first time in months, and it was so fun!). And today is actually reverse progress--less dilation, higher baby. I'm feeling discouraged. And the reason why I think this is happening is because I'm so uncomfortable with my mom. Can I be honest here, and maybe you mamas can suggest a solution?
Your mom's presence my very well be what is slowing things down. I don't know about the dynamic you 2 have together, but if it were my mom I would be frank and honest, and just ask her to stop- that it makes you uncomfortable.
Correction: right after I posted this I went to the bathroom and had tons more globs of mucus come out.. this time WITH blood!
Now how long does it take? My mw told me as soon as I saw bloody show to go in, but I'm not having regular ctrx yet. Should I call DF home?
Sierra Bella -- I have never had bloody show, just contractions or my water broke. Sounds like things are moving in the right direction! So exciting.
I am hanging out -- very pregnant, very ready, but not much indication that a baby is coming anytime soon. I had the most lovely blessingway with friends last night and I am so in the mood to give birth now. Emotionally, I feel so strong and alive and joyful and just.....ready! Come on baby!
Maybe I'll go for a long walk and enlist dh in some afternoon sex. That ought to get things moving or at least keep me occupied while I wait and wait.
Not sure what's going on here! I'm 37 weeks, 5 days. Lots of irregular contractions for the past 2 days, all day and all night, 7-20 mins apart. Lost mucus plug on Friday. At midwife on Thursday I was 2 cm dilated, 50% effaced.
When it's "time" we are supposed to call FIL so he can drive 6 hours to our house to take care of DS1. Last time the contractions turned into active labor within a day... so I don't know what to think now. I feel like something is definitely happening. Plus I have 2 more weeks of work. Don't want water to break at work!
And our kitty is very sick and may not make it! :( We brought her home from cat hospital yesterday and she won't eat or drink. We're giving her subcutaneous fluids. Very weird timing. Our dog got sick when DS was born and died shortly after. What does that mean?
Rusty, I traveled across the country alone with DS when he was 3 mos, 7 mos. We were flying but the trips were long. He was so little and easy. Breast fed a lot.
We got stuck overnight in Denver due to bad weather/mechanical problems and I had checked the car seat. We ended up at a fancy hotel at the airport because I insisted that I couldn't take a shuttle without a car seat.
I don't know about a bus, but 4 hrs doesn't seem so long. When DS was 2 mos old we took him on a 3 hr train trip and he did great. Is there a train to where you're going? More freedom to walk around, etc.
I called my doula and she is on her way up. Hopefully this is it, because she lives 1 1/2 hrs away and I would hate for her to drive all the way up here and it not be!
I think today is the day though!! I really do! Please send me labor and birth vibes... I REALLY want today to be the day!
Azadehhast, do whatever you need to do. Seriously! Don't even think twice about it. Take care of yourself!
lotus, that sounds so promising. AND EXCITING!
SB, wow-- you are in the small % of people who give birth on their due date! Woo hooo!!!!! I'll be checking back for your happy update!
It's weird, but while I feel pregnant, I can't even imagine giving birth ever. I always feel this way . . .like it will never happen.
Beautiful labor and birth vibes to all of you!
Lotus~ sorry to hear about your cat, hopefully she pulls through!
Sierra~ that's so exciting! Is your DF home yet? I hope today is your day :D
AFM~ I've been feeling... something. I'm not ready to declare it labour yet, I've had a lot of false labour this time around. I'm having contractions about 5 minutes apart but they're really mild and not picking up a lot.
Hrm, so, I took the diplomatic back-channels to deal with my mother--I kind of exploded into tears the last time she did what she does, and ran outside to call my dad, and he later talked to my mother, and it seems like maybe she is limiting herself. I'm so relieved. Because there have been SO MANY uncomfortable and even scary things happening in the last few days in life generally (not baby-related), I realize I was sending Little Do millions of messages saying "It's not safe out here right now, stay in," even though I so much want it out. Thus the negative progress. But I'm forcing myself really to relax, and I'm working on moving baby back down again. Basically, I'm back at the same place I was a week and a half ago, which is frustrating to think of that much MORE time to go, but I'm feeling more able to relax. So it's good. Baby must come out sometime!
Happy labor and strong mama vibes to all! I hope the lovely full moon is nudging babies out!
Happy birthing to everyone on the brink! I am suddenly more and more exhausted and uncomfortable every day, all i do is eat and sleep and watch movies and accomplish one thing that requires movement each day. iv been drinking so much milk, i drank almost a gallon since last night! it doesnt help i drink out of quart mason jars so i chug a whole lot of liquid at once. We sidecarred our crib today got our bed room all set up, i have to go get some high density foam tomorrow for the crack on the side but other then that we are pretty much ready! still waiting for my diapers to come, and im going to clean out my car from work stuff, and install the car seat. another dentist apt tomorrow, for a deep cleaning and a few random fillings! yay! an easy dentist day, then after tomorrow i only have one more apt (hopefully) to get my permanant crowns cemented into place! oh and i must aquire ergo and infant insert soon : D
Another crazily busy weekend has gone by, but we made some progress. Our bed has been dismantled and re-oriented. The crib has been assembled and turned into a sidecar with bungee cords... Our bedroom is so tiny, it was a big job. I finally have something to post in the baby's space thread.
Friday night I was in panic mode ALL NIGHT because I was having painful contractions that kept waking me. A relaxing bath didn't help, either. I was so nervous it was active labor, and our birth room was full of STUFF, our bedroom was a mess, we won't have our birth pool until my next MW visit, etc. I've been dehydrated and I suspect that I have a UTI, so I've been taking cranberry pills, drinking cranberry juice and LOTS of water and herbal tea. I slept better Sat & last night - no waking with contractions. I'll talk to the MWs about the UTI at tomorrow's visit -- when we'll also pick up our aquadoula. Then baby can come ..
We had our DD's 8th birthday party on Saturday. It was wild, with lots of children running around with the birthday balloons they found on our Christmas tree, giggling and general FUN. DD was beaming with joy throughout the day. I was exhausted afterward, but I am so glad we had her party a week early and I can relax about going into labor. I feel like it's enough that this baby's birth and Christmas are so close to DD's birthday, having me going into labor during her party would have been hard for her to take. DD's actual birthday is Friday, and we'll celebrate with a lasagna dinner and chocolate cake.
I'm hoping this new babe will come in the same time frame as his/her big sisters and wait until after Christmas ... the 28th would be nice.
Anyone else feeling a bit conflicted about the end of pregnancy? I just totally lost it, sobbing, looking at the new baby photo thread. I totally can't wait to meet our little Owen... and at the same time, I'm treasuring these last days of having him all wiggly and squirmy inside me and I'm not ready to let go of them yet. I wanted for so long to get pregnant and have a baby, and it feels (looking back on it) like it just flew by. I'm sure part of it is that I have been very lucky and had an easy time being pregnant, very few complaints and none of them severe. I know I will most likely just get to do this one more time, and I'm not really ready for this one to be over. Is that crazy? And then at the same time, I want to meet Owen and see him and find out what he's like and get to kiss his little fingers and toes and sniff his head and all those amazing things mamas get to do! I'm having a hard time with this.