This makes me feel better about going to the next meeting and possibly volunteering for photographer, thanks :) We do get the planner every day, but the ex often removes all the flyers and newsletters or she takes them and then puts them in the planner days or weeks later so half the stuff has already passed :/ We're still waiting for info about the 6yo being "star student" this week and it's Wednesday (supposedly parents can come in for lunch or snack or something like that when a kid is "star student" We know the ex went on Monday, but when is dad supposed to go?). I should check the site and see if there are email addresses for teachers or if he knows if there is.
My XH actually doesn't have visitation with the kids, but the school gives the kids planners which they write homework into, so whomever the kid goes home with would know what they are to accomplish that night/week. DH or I signs it every day, if XH had the kids every other weekend, I imagine he might pick them up from school on Friday & he'd see their planners then?
My kids school has a website and on it, each of the teachers has an email contact. Your DH could email the kids teachers and request a conference with them at any time... maybe if there isn't a website/email isn't listed it's information he could get by calling the office.
It seems like teachers get a lot of experience dealing with all kinds of families, and are happy to communicate with familiar faces... I've seen a teacher come out to a child's home daycare provider and inform them if the kid has had a particularly bad day... I've had a little talk once or twice with one of my daycare kids teachers (eg: I couldn't find her after school one day & she'd been having trouble making friends that year... the teacher gave me the heads-up that she'd been playing with a certain kid that day so take it easy on her if that's who I find her with & maybe stick around on the playground if I can, because she's establishing a much-needed friendship) There are a few grandmas that volunteer at the school, especially when they're the daycare provider for a working mom. Teachers like to see that their students have a strong support system, and encourage involvement, I'm pretty sure you'd be welcomed into the community, especially since your own kid will be there next year.