I really need advice.

[poetaftertruth]

Hey guys,

Thanks for the advice. I talked to him and he was actually very supportive of either decision!  I have an appointment with a counselor through my gynecologist and will have an ultrasound to see if the IUD is still inside.  I wish I could keep the decent responders updated, but will probably not post any additional private info on here. Take care and I will too. 

Edited by poetaftertruth - 12/7/11 at 5:15pm

[pupsnelda]

Congratulations!  You do not have to defend yourself for wanting to keep this baby.

No, it is not bad to keep it.

No, it is not really that crazy.

I think you know what you want to do, so enjoy your pregnancy.

Good luck!

[jess in hawaii]

You have every right to be happy about this pregnancy. Don't worry about if men will want to be with you, you need to focus on your babies, NOT romantic relationships. That being said, honestly, I would not even tell the father, cuz, guess what? He is not leaving his wife, he is not leaving her to be with you just because you are having his baby, he is NOT going to change a damn thing to help you. Sorry honey, that's the truth. SO, I think you should go about your business of having this baby and making all your kiddos #1 priority, regardless of men, friends, anyone else's opinion. Oh, and even tho you are hoping to get a nice chunk of child support, it will not be worth the sacrifice and hassel that comes with it. You have made it this far, better to go to the food bank than hope some cheating rich loser gives you what you want without screwing up your life. Good Luck!

[Cynthia Mosher]

Logical, we do not permit posting behavior such as yours. Your membership is not welcome. 

Logical's attacking post has been removed.

[rubyjune]

Umm you had an iud in, you were taking every responsible move available to you. This baby just really wanted to be here. Treat the baby as a gift from the God(s) and pick your chin up. I wouldn't tell anyone you didn't think would support you until you are showing. Babies are worth more then men ever are.

Only you know about the integrity and personality of the Father. I can tell you though, chances are jess is right on and I wouldn't count on any help. Fighting for it is rarely worth the trouble.

That said, personally I am shacked up with the married guy I left my husband for, expecting a baby..and he hasn't started his divorce yet (because we are paying for mine first) Sometimes life happens out of order.

enjoy your baby

[Imakcerka]

It's not bad to keep the baby.  Just make sure you're doing it for the right reasons.  And you shouldn't be worried about men at this point.  You should also realize it might not fair well if decides he wants to stay with his wife.  Like you said, it's a casual relationship. 

[Adaline'sMama]

If you dont want to have an abortion, dont have an abortion. You already know what it feels like for you and how much it hurts to get over, so dont get bullied into it. Honestly, I cant imagine a man who would want to be with a woman with two kids that would think three is too many. If he loves you, and he wants to be with you regardless of the fact that you have two children, dont you think he will feel the same way if you have three children?

You arent alone. There are other women who have babies all alone:
http://www.mothering.com/community/t/1335493/single-pregnant-again-and-shameless

[jess in hawaii]

Originally Posted by Adaline'sMama 



You arent alone. There are other women who have babies all alone:
http://www.mothering.com/community/t/1335493/single-pregnant-again-and-shameless

Hey I started that thread! Thanks for the mention

I would like it to pick up speed. I think there are more of us on here than is obvious.