I have been trying to find out what is wrong with my daughter so I can get her some help. She is 13 years old. She always gets A’s and B’s and she’s very responsible when it comes to doing her homework. She has gotten awards twice this year for having the highest grade average in math for her entire grade level. Sometimes she is very smart but sometimes she says things that make me wonder what is wrong with her.
The main thing she does that happens several times a day is she’ll start talking out the blue about something without explaining what she’s talking about.
For example she’ll say “They said the dvd player doesn’t work”
I’ll have to ask her “What are you talking about? Who is THEY?”
Or she’ll ask me a question and go right on talking without waiting for me to answer her question.
She appears to lack empathy- a girl at school was upset because she had broken up with her girlfriend. My daughter said "she'll get over it" and she didn't understand why all the other girls got mad at her for saying that.
The other thing I notice is she doesn’t understand sarcasm very well or tends to take things literally.
She doesn’t show a lot of emotion either. She plays tennis and one day at tennis they had a raffle and she won a brand new tennis racket and tennis bag. She didn’t even smile. She just said oh.
When I give her a hug, she just stands there with her arms at her sides.
I have taken her to a pediatrician who said it was ADHD, but since she’s getting good grades and there were no behavior issues at school it didn’t warrant putting her on medication. So then I met with the school psychiatrist who basically said the same thing, that there isn’t much they will do since she’s getting good grades and there are no behavior issues at school.
But I am worried about her lack of social skills and poor communication skills. She can’t get a job if she can’t interview well, she can’t keep a job if she can’t communicate effectively.
I don’t know how to get her the help she needs. People I have talked to online say it sounds more like Asperger’s to them. I asked the school to evaluate her for autism, ADHD and learning disabilities, finally, after a bit of a battle they agreed, but the school psychiatrist tells me she does not think my daughter will qualify for any kind of services. It seems like they already have their mind made up that nothing is wrong with my daughter.