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post #21 of 22

Most of the time for me, I just use the term "home birth" and hope that settles it.  Strangely though, the majority of people go on to ask if there was a midwife there! I always find that odd - I figured it would be an unspoken assumption.  I'm not comfortable with straight lying, and I've done it twice now already, so I do go ahead and answer the questions, but depending on who it is, I tend to hedge and say as little as possible. 

 

It usually ends with them telling me their hospital nightmare stories, and then making me feel like a freak show, as a PP said above.  It's in a good way, with the whole "brave" and "superwoman" nonsense, but still feels like a freak show nonetheless.

 

post #22 of 22

I haven't had my UC yet, but whenever people ask about our plans for birth, I tell them we're homebirthing, and they usually assume it's with a midwife. Sometimes they ask whether we have one, and I have to admit that I have lied and told a few people we have a midwife. 

UC is very controversial over here, and I don't want the negativity and fearful reactions from people. So we are only telling the truth to those who we know will understand. One set of close friends knew we were considering UC (and were quite concerned about it, but also sort of understood) and in the end I told them that we have a midwife but haven't decided if we're going to call her to come to the birth or not.

After the fact, we'll probably tell people that the baby came before the midwife got here. Women in my family tend to have fast labors so it's a plausible explanation.

I really don't like lying but in this situation I think it's justified.

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