Ouch. Double ouch. :((
This is what someone texted to me regarding a family friend's son who was recently dx with autism (he's on the severe end of the spectrum). She knows my son has also just been dx with autism, I know she wasn't talking about MY son, but even if my son isn't as "severe," he is autistic. (We don't know where my son is on the spectrum right now - he's 2.5 years old - but let's just say he has a ton of sensory issues and has a problem regulating himself so we are dealing with a lot of behavior issues, he is also speech delayed).
The girl that wrote that is actually a very nice person, and I wanted to cut her some slack since her dad just died, but I didn't respond to her text. I just didn't know what to say. I was hurt and felt defensive and didn't want to say something rude so I didn't say anything.
What hurts is I am sure people who spend time around my son prob think to themselves "better her than me", you know? Makes me so sad because he is very smart, very fun, and very sweet and loving. He is just extremely hyperactive, speaks a lot of gibberish, and has behaviors that do probably look "weird" to those who don't understand autism. But I love him with all of my heart, and wish people knew how much joy he really brings to us.
How would you have responded? Have any of you SN mamas had any comments like this before?