Penny, I'm sorry but your post totally had me laughing. Maybe because I can relate?
A few days ago we were visiting DH at work (out of town, so we were in a hotel) and in the middle of lunch, DS stands up in his chair, strips off his pants and underwear, and hops down. I ask him where he is going. He ignores me, climbs up on the (hotel) chair, and starts to pee. This child has been out of diapers since the week of his 2nd birthday. It was so absurd it was almost funny. He also peed on the bathroom floor recently, on purpose. Sigh.
I totally agree about getting some to spend one on one with him. It's been hard lately. YDS has not been napping unless we are in the car or he's in the stroller, which means we miss that time together. DH is away for work for 3 months, and we haven't yet found a sitter here since we just moved. I'm hoping that over the holidays with DH home and more family around we can make it work better.
I did follow this link that I found in another post and while DS is on track as far as motor skills it said he may need help in terms of his socio-emotional behavior. I think it very well could be situational as we haven't had these kind of issues in the past (before our life went into upheaval) but if his behavior continues once we are settled in I plan to seek out help for him so that he can cope better.
dianna, I am sorry your family is going through this and that you haven't been able to get help for your DS (and thus, the rest of your family!) Have you tried seeking the help of an OT? Could it be sensory related?