I would like to just vent and get thoughts from outside parties on this situation we have at home.
DSS (10) complained to his Mom, that his Dad (I took this to mean both of us) never buys him anything. I believed this stemmed from being out this weekend at the church fair, where I bought DS (15 months) three t-shirts. Honestly I didn't buy anything for DSS cause 1) he was with us (I was trying to Christmas shop) and 2) I did look, but there wasn't really anything that caught my eye. DSS asked for some candy he wanted when we were out and was told no by DH that afternoon (after he already had two treats).
I pointed out to DH that while DSS didn't get an item at the fair, he did get two snacks (separate times) while we were there (DS didn't get any food at the fair, other than a few bites of DH's).
I told DH that DS does get alot of "stuff" cause he is a baby and people like to buy baby gifts, so we are given alot of stuff. I do get lots of hand-me-down clothes for him, from various friends, but it's rare for him to have new clothes. Now it may be true that DS gets more stuff from us, but for example DSS gets birthday/Christmas presents from two sets of parents, plus relatives from both sides. DS only gets from one set of parents, plus my family is small - so he doesn't get alot from my side.
Another thing I pointed out to DH, is while DSS does not get stuff, like toys. DH constantly takes him for a "treat" after school several times a week, ie they go for ice cream, hot dogs, etc.
DH and his ex-wife pay for DSS to play on two in sport leagues, which is over $100 plus the cost of equipment, fund-raising for the teams, and the time/money spent on gas for travel.
IMO - it all works out even in the end. DH said he agrees.
I worry about DSS being jealous of DS and taking it out on him, especially when they get older. Any thoughts on this?