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Toddlers and utlrasounds

post #1 of 13
Thread Starter 

Wondering if any of you have brought/thinking of bringing your older children to your "big" anatomical ultrasound (20 weeks-ish). We've got one booked for Monday and I've been toying around with the idea of bringing my three year old. She is SUPER excited about this baby and talks about it all the time so she definitely gets this whole baby thing. When we were at the midwife last she helped squeeze out the ultrasound gel and "helped" find the heartbeat, and otherwise sat quietly and observed. She's fairly quiet with new people and likes to observe more than participate.

I asked when I booked the appointment if they had policies about other children and the receptionist said as long as they are quiet and not touching things then one child is fine.

 

But would she get it at all? Have any of you had kids in the same age range - she JUST turned three- come to ultrasounds? Did they get it? Could they understand that the grainy black and white image was a baby? Would you do it this time?

I can't decide, and my husband is his usual helpful stuff ("whatever you want to do is fine with me"). 

post #2 of 13

I wouldn't bring her unless your hubby is okay with taking her out and missing the ultrasound. 

 

I took my 18-month-old to my dating ultrasound and she FLIPPED out.  I was shocked as it hadn't even occurred to me that she'd be upset... she had snacks and water and a new toy and daddy and she just didn't want anyone touching me.  It doesn't sound like you'll have the same experience, but in case anyone is wondering about a younger toddler...  lol.

post #3 of 13

I think I would explain what will happen and not say things like, "Do you want to see the baby?" because well... its a grainy image on a TV and not a real baby!

 

But otherwise I think a 3 year-old is fine. She'd probably like the print out image they give you...

 

I think we are going to bring my almost 2 year-old, but my DH is totally prepared to take him out of the room if necessary.  He has zero attention span for TV, so I am not going to really say much to him other then we are going to take mama to the doctor...

 

I hope he isn't too wiggly...

post #4 of 13

We brought DD when we had our 20 week with DS. She was probably 18 months old at the time. I don't know how other offices do it but here, DH and kids aren't allowed in until the last 5-10 mns of the scan. The first 45 minutes are just me and I can't see the screen so it's a little boring. Then the tech goes to the waiting room and brings in my family. We plan on having my mom, DD, DS and DH (of course) there for ours on the 21st. We will be finding out the sex. We have a little issue this time because 5 year old DD does not want to find out at the u/s. She wants to wait until she can bite into a cupcake (filled with either pink or blue icing) at our Reveal Party. There is no way that we will tell our newly 3 year old DS if DD doesn't know so I think that my mom and DH will have to cover their ears and turn them away when the tech makes the announcement. Do some of you have the option of watching the screen during the whole scan? Can your partners be in there the whole time??

post #5 of 13
Thread Starter 

Hmm. Need to talk it over a bit more with my husband and ask if he's willing to leave if DD acts up in the middle. I think that might be a deal-breaker. I don't EXPECT she'd be a problem, but... maybe.

 

Linnie- weird! The whole procedure sounds weird. The ultrasounds I've had for my other pregnancies are maybe 20 minutes total, they have one specific screen pointed towards me so I can see it all (mounted on the ceiling), and there is usually a 1 person limit, and you're allowed that one person for the entire scan.

post #6 of 13

No way!!! I think I like that.. I would love to watch the whole thing. I lay there worried for the first 45 minutes. Are you in Canada? Which province... roughly what area? If you don't want to share that info, I totally TOTALLY understand. I am 45 minutes west of Toronto.

 

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Originally Posted by Astraia View Post

Hmm. Need to talk it over a bit more with my husband and ask if he's willing to leave if DD acts up in the middle. I think that might be a deal-breaker. I don't EXPECT she'd be a problem, but... maybe.

 

Linnie- weird! The whole procedure sounds weird. The ultrasounds I've had for my other pregnancies are maybe 20 minutes total, they have one specific screen pointed towards me so I can see it all (mounted on the ceiling), and there is usually a 1 person limit, and you're allowed that one person for the entire scan.



 

post #7 of 13
Thread Starter 

I'm near Ottawa. Do you go to a hospital or a private clinic? I've done both the "women's ultrasound" style centers and hospitals and they were the same. TV's in the hospital (my screen) is way crappier though!

post #8 of 13

I think I would go crazy if I couldn't see the screen during the ultrasound. At the place I go, they have a screen on the machine itself for the tech, and another one mounted over on the wall for me to see.

 

I was told that the 20 week anatomy scan would take 40-45 minutes. Though my nuchal translucency took about the same amount of time because the baby did not feel like posing.

post #9 of 13

@Astraia- I go to a woman's ultrasound centre. There are several ultrasound places in my city but this is where ALL the pregnant women that I know get sent to. I was sent here with my first two babies and I had a midwife and now my fam dr is sending me to the same place. I just had a breast ultrasound done at an urgent care (not urgent, they just have an ultrasound part) and I didn't see any extra screens in there. I wonder why my city/huge region isn't doing this??? I will be taking this to facebook this afternoon. I need to know if any of the women on my friends list have been able to watch their ultrasounds! If it's available in my area, I want that!!! 

post #10 of 13
Thread Starter 

Hrm, I think I won't bring her. I was goign to bring her for HER benefit because i thought she'd get a kick out of it, but I have childcare available so it doesn't matter.

 

Talked to my hubby and he says he doesn't want to leave, ideally he'd like to stay for the whole thing. And then I looked up some videos on youtube of 20 week ultrasounds and she couldn't identify any part of the picture so I'm not sure there's much point. Even when I pointed things out- see, that's the head and there's baby's arm- she just looked at me like i'm weird and asked to watch one of her shows instead :/ So, nevermind.

post #11 of 13

I've brought DS (newly 2) to both of my ultrasounds so far. The first one was with DH and he was fine. The second one was on short notice (due to bleeding) and DH was out of town, so it was just me and him. He was fine then, too. I didn't think to ask if it was ok, but no one batted an eye and the receptionist gave him a toy from a basket behind the desk, so it must not be unusual. This was an ultrasound center at the women's hospital where I'll deliver. 

 

He'll probably come to my anatomy scan as well, since DH would like to be there. As far as "getting it" - no, I don't guess he does.  At three, though, maybe? It's been more a matter of convenience for us. 

 

 

 

 

post #12 of 13

We took DS (2 yo) to my 12 wk u/s.  We had snacks, juice, toys and the iPad to keep him occupied.  DH would not have left the room with him, he just did his best to keep him entertained.  He totally didn't get it, but we didn't have childcare. 

 

We do get to see the screen - and the 20 week for us is about 45 minutes (we do a Level 2).  When we saw the ped cardio 4 years ago, *I* couldn't see the screen during the hour long scan (DH could though) and I thought I was gonna go insane.  But for the routine u/s, we do get to see them.  Different places do it differently though - the Kaiser hospital who did them with DS just turned the entire machine so I could see it at an angle for some of them.  Some of them they handed me a hand mirror so I could watch in there.   The place we went with this pregnancy is a private practice and they have the machine hooked into a cctv, with a tv mounted high up on the wall next to the ceiling so you can watch. 

 

And it never even occurred to me to ask if my toddler were allowed.  My toddler goes where I go, with the exception of into a bar or other adult only location. 

post #13 of 13

We took our almost 3 year old with us last week. She'll be three in ~ 3 weeks. She knew we were looking at the baby, but she didn't really seem to get it or care. She was much more interested in playing with the lights, opening the blinds, pulling on the machine's cords, et cetera. My husband had to take her out of the room. I don't think he cared much about missing the scan, but he was annoyed at having to try to keep her entertained there. We don't have childcare readily available so it was either we went as a family or my hubby stayed home with our daughter.

 

 

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