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post #21 of 29

Marvelous news! Glad you had such encouraging results :)

post #22 of 29
Thread Starter 

Thanks everyone. My dr confirmed the results for me. She said my insurance would probably cover another u/s because of the soft marker so I think I'm going to have another one - something tells me the femur may have grown over the past 1.5 weeks along with my belly which is suddenly enormous ...!

but I will certainly breathe and try to relax in the meantime -- thank you all for support, I love this DDC. :)

post #23 of 29

Great news!  :)

post #24 of 29

I'm so glad the quad screen turned out good.  Let us know how the u/s goes.  Sounds like things are going to be just fine.  yay!

post #25 of 29
Thread Starter 

Ok, so had the ultrasound today. Radiologist said femurs still 1mm short but she emphasized very strongly that they are fully within the normal range. I don't really understand. I probably never will.

 

So... The other thing I learned today -- it's a BOY! I'd been convinced this baby was a girl. I thought I'd be happy learning gender because nothing else is certain - but I am feeling sad-- Is this terrible of me?? I know we only want two kids and this means I'll never have a daughter - I need some perspective on how great brothers are. I'm totally shocked that the baby chloe I thought was in there  has a penis?! Wow. 

 

Im laying off ultrasounds for a while... :)

post #26 of 29
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Originally Posted by rozziemama View Post

Ok, so had the ultrasound today. Radiologist said femurs still 1mm short but she emphasized very strongly that they are fully within the normal range. I don't really understand. I probably never will.

 

So... The other thing I learned today -- it's a BOY! I'd been convinced this baby was a girl. I thought I'd be happy learning gender because nothing else is certain - but I am feeling sad-- Is this terrible of me?? I know we only want two kids and this means I'll never have a daughter - I need some perspective on how great brothers are. I'm totally shocked that the baby chloe I thought was in there  has a penis?! Wow. 

 

Im laying off ultrasounds for a while... :)


It's not a bad thing hon. When I found out my daughter was a girl, I was absolutely miserable. 

Now? I can't imagine having a son first. :)

 

post #27 of 29

Rozzie, I think a lot of us will chime in and say the same thing:  Don't feel guilty for being a bit sad or disillusioned that your baby's gender is not what you had thought.  It's the IDEA of the baby you thought you were carrying you are mourning, not the actual real-life son you will have. I felt the same way after my ultrasound....In fact, at the very beginning of mine I saw clearly that it was a girl, but the tech had not said anything outloud (at that place, they leave gender pronouncements until the very end of the exam), but I immediately began to shake.  That was so not what I was expecting - I felt to my core that I was having a boy and it was so hard to accept that I'd really seen a vagina there.  How could this be a GIRL?!  At the end the tech confirmed, "Yes, that's a girl there" and it did feel surreal.  More than a week later I'm loving that I'm going to have a daughter, but I'm still a little sad about the boy I had imagined...

post #28 of 29
Thread Starter 
Thanks for this wise perspective - obviously makes so much sense - its just been such a harrowing week and a half and I'm dealing with some wild emotions. I've already started to feel better about the gender thing... Playing with boys names in my head and all that - this is doing the job of taking my mind off the fact that he has short femurs or a big head or whatever the story is in there. I need to start regular prenatal yoga ASAP and find some peace of mind for these next 4+ months! Geez Louise.
post #29 of 29


I've got to echo what mlovesj said - don't feel guilty about your feelings at all! Of course it will take a little while for you to get used to the idea of another son, especially since you had felt like it was a girl and know this baby will be your last. It is perfectly okay to feel the way you do right now. No guilt! smile.gif

As for brothers -- they are great! Brothers have such a strong bond. My boys adore each other & have a connection that I just don't think brothers and sisters have. (And my oldest is from a previous relationship and doesn't live with us - but they still have such love for each other!) Ever since DS2 was born, DS1 has been so proud of him...and DS2 looks up to his big brother with such admiration. 

My husband has a brother and a sister and he is much closer to his brother even though he is closer in age to his sister. There is something about the bond between brothers that is just so sweet. 


When I found out that I was having my 3rd boy, I was surprised...and there was a moment where I thought oh gosh, I'll never have a daughter... so I know exactly what you are going through. But those feelings were soon replaced with excitement for my family of boys. And if we ever have a 4th - I'd gladly take a 4th boy. 

 

It is ok to feel sad about not having the girl you'd imagined. Give yourself time to get used to the news & before long you'll be imagining how wonderful life is going to be with two precious sons. 

 

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Originally Posted by rozziemama View Post

So... The other thing I learned today -- it's a BOY! I'd been convinced this baby was a girl. I thought I'd be happy learning gender because nothing else is certain - but I am feeling sad-- Is this terrible of me?? I know we only want two kids and this means I'll never have a daughter - I need some perspective on how great brothers are. I'm totally shocked that the baby chloe I thought was in there  has a penis?! Wow. 



 

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