Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes
I hear this!! And then there's a whole new set of issues!
This is true. Thanks for this. I needed to be reminded!
AHHH it's preschool not daycare. LOL. I just have to say it b/c so many of the schools I toured were glorified daycares, and this is DEF school. LOL. Ok, now that that's out of my system, I hope eventually to nap while she's at school. This week was rough for both of us. Drop offs were hard, there were lots of tears. I was so worried about her while she was there I couldn't stop watching on the cameras. I barely got the living room vacuumed each day let alone relaxed. Plus I did some christmas shopping while she was there. I'm hoping to adjust Finn's naps so that he goes down at 3, and then I'll get a nap during the day.
She's just been coming into my bed. That's the only solution I have. She calls for me, I either get up if I can (if I'm not nursing) or she comes to my room and climbs in bed. She sleeps fine with with me. It's just....I'm so mad about it b/c how many nights did I lay with her, heavily pg, trying to move her to her own room? It KILLS me that I worked SO HARD for something that actually was working for 3 months, and now it's all coming undone. I'm so angry and it bleeds over into how I feel about everything else.
Plus DH is then sleeping on the couch and he's getting moody about it. I have NO SYMPATHY b/c I slept on the couch nursing Finn for over 3 months. He can seriously bite me. Seriously.
And we haven't had sex in MONTHS. It's making him irritable. I want to tell him to go fuck himself, but I don't think that'll go over well.
Kids. Good thing they're cute!!
Has she been coming in before preschool or this is new this week? Either way, with all the adjustments/changes lately, it is normal. Regression after a new baby isn't often instant, it often can be really delayed. 3 months out is the prefect time for it, it is when they realize just how much things have changed and this little person is not going anywhere and really isn't that much fun. Remember the saying two steps forward, one step back? I think with children is is more like one forward and 2 back and with children, sleep is almost always involved in the steps back. All the hard work getting her in her room for nothing, yeah, that can leave you bitter if you let it. So don't. Easier said then done but just keep reminding your self that she is 3, she is still a big baby really. When you have a 3y and a baby, the 3y seem SOO big in comparison, but she really isn't. She sees that mommy is snuggling with baby, baby is sleeping with baby, mommy is holding baby, baby is crying, mommy is feeding baby. Baby, baby, baby. It is a lot on a small child. Of course she sleeps hard and better when she is in your bed, she feels safe and secure. The world and especially night time is scary for them. They sleep so soundly when they know their mom is right there, Mommy is here to protect me. They can sleep in their own rooms, it just isn't always the easy option. Hang in there, it will get easier some day. Someday she will be sleeping in her own, someday Finn will sleep better. Until then it just what ever you have to do to survive.
And your DH is a big boy. My feelings on the matter have always been firm, he can take care of himself, they can't, this is only for such a short time and eventually he will be back in the bed with you. And as far as the other matter goes, he has two hands, correct? Talk to him about it, you would like to sleep with him but this is what they need for now, it won't be forever. This is what is allows you get to most sleep possible right now. Often men just need to know that they aren't being shunned, that you still find them important. They are kind of like big babies aren't they? Sometimes I think it is to bad that I wasn't born a lesbian.