So my family has always opposed us since we stopped vaxing (my 6 year old had terrible reactions and now is mildly autistic; we stopped vaxing him at 6 months and my second son has never been vaccinated.) But I was the first to have children. Now that my brother has a child, and has decided that we are dangerous, we've been cut off from my family. My husband is a pilot and rarely around. My inlaws are fair about our choices, but they live far away. We moved to this area because my mother said she would help me with the kids. That obviously no longer holds true.
I'm learning that sticking to my guns in terms of my children is an empowering thing. I won't regret that. But I have to admit being by myself during the holidays is hard. DH is at a new job; he won't hold T-day or Christmas off for many years. My brother recently told me that I'd destroyed our family with my decision to not vaccinate; that until I do so, none of them can accept me or my children. I've always been the pleaser in my family; when he confronts me with "scientific" facts that I know to not be true, I stay silent. It's habit. I have 2000 hours logged in pediatric immunology and vaccine theory, so I am far from ignorant. But no one wants to hear me so I don't bother.
This is where I am. They will not change. So I need to learn to deal with that. But I am incredibly depressed. This is the first time in my life I will be alone for the holidays. My boys do not understand what's going on. I don't even know how to lie to protect their feelings. It's strange, because all my close friends (90% vaccinate fully) understood our decision and didn't give me a hard time in the least. But my own blood have disowned me.
I don't want this to be a pity post, but I'm wondering if there are others on this board who have lost their families because of not vaxing. I could use a little pick me up, I admit. This is a lonely place to be.