This pregnancy is FLYING! How is this possible??
Anyone else feeling like this pregnancy is zooming by? I think maybe it's because I'm keeping up after two kids all day or something, I'm just so busy I'm barely noticing the time flying right by.
In a month I'll be half way through....geez, I seriously feel like I'm going to wake up and this peanut is going to be a one year old! ACK!
Eek, I'm 12 weeks along, but I agree, my pregnancy is going fast. In my case I think it's because it's not actually my baby. With my first pregnancy, we were so anxious to have our baby and meet her. This time I'm sure it will be amazing to meet her, but I'm not taking her home so it's not as life-altering. So I'm not as impatient. :)
I'm a couple of weeks behind you, but I've been thinking the same thing; thinking about how fast the last few months have gone and how much faster the months to come will likely go!
Slightly terrifying, but also nice.
I heard a newborn cry in the grocery store the other day and was like "wow, that's the first itty-bitty baby cry I've heard in a looong time"....but here we go again!
It will be here before we know it....though I'm sure I'll be singing a different tune @38 weeks! lol
I know, I keep thinking that myself. It feels so fast right now...but I'm already SOOOOO ready to give birth, I can't WAIT for birth....and I keep reminding myself to "cool it" and not get in that place...15 weeks is WAY too early to be anxious like that! 38 weeks it going to be sheer torture if I let myself get "itchy" this early!! haha.
Besides, I look at these kids and can't BELIEVE it's been three and two years since their births. It feels like yesterday. I just know I'm going to blink and my oldest is going to be five and my son 3.5 and my little one will be a year old and I'll probably be thinking wistfully "oh, to be pregnant again!" - hahah. That's just how it goes. I saw a dress hanging on the rack today and thought "the last time I wore that dress was the spring before B was born, I was 16 weeks pregnant with him!" Then I was thinking about the fact that it was 2.5 years ago that I was wearing that dress, 16 weeks pregnant with my son. It just blows my mind how fast time flies once you start having kids. It's like entering into a time warp!
Yeah, KSDoula, that makes a lot of sense to me. It wouldn't be the same, not taking the baby home. How are you feeling, so far, about that? Is this your first time as a surrogate? I was actually "negotiating" (the worst word EVER for what I mean, but I can't think of a better word right now) with a close family friend about being a surrogate for her when I found out about this "oopsie" baby. I felt so rotten, but she's the best lady ever and was so totally loving with me and sincerely understood that it wasn't intentional at all. She was really far off from knowing exactly what she needed anyway, we were still trying to figure out if she needed an egg donor, if her eggs would work, etc...so it wasn't like, a finalized thing or anything.....but my mind keeps being drawn to it, I can't help but think about this pregnancy and wonder how it might feel different if it were her baby inside of me right now, you know? I may still be open to doing this for her after this baby is born, if my body isn't too banged up in this pregnancy and it would be really interesting to hear your thoughts, how this is for you, etc.
Yes, it does seem hard to believe it is almost the 1/2 way point. Life has been sooooo busy. With my first there was lots of time to spend napping, dreaming, and planning (and spending hours on MDC). This time there is so much to get in order before I can even start turning my attention to the baby prep. I haven't even been able to stay up to date on our DDC over the past three weeks.... so I know that I'm really too busy. LOL.
On the other hand, feeling sick and generally yucky seems to have gone on FOREVER. Now that I'm feeling better I'm ready to start enjoying the pregnancy. I'm sure once I'm actually enjoying it, it will go even faster. My first went so slowly, it seems almost painful. I'm actually happy to feel this one is going by faster. I can't wait to see those little baby fingers and toes!
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Yeah, KSDoula, that makes a lot of sense to me. It wouldn't be the same, not taking the baby home. How are you feeling, so far, about that? Is this your first time as a surrogate? I was actually "negotiating" (the worst word EVER for what I mean, but I can't think of a better word right now) with a close family friend about being a surrogate for her when I found out about this "oopsie" baby. I felt so rotten, but she's the best lady ever and was so totally loving with me and sincerely understood that it wasn't intentional at all. She was really far off from knowing exactly what she needed anyway, we were still trying to figure out if she needed an egg donor, if her eggs would work, etc...so it wasn't like, a finalized thing or anything.....but my mind keeps being drawn to it, I can't help but think about this pregnancy and wonder how it might feel different if it were her baby inside of me right now, you know? I may still be open to doing this for her after this baby is born, if my body isn't too banged up in this pregnancy and it would be really interesting to hear your thoughts, how this is for you, etc.
I do not feel at all like this is my baby. Since I'm a gestational surrogate, it's not my egg. The embryos have been around for far longer than I've been in the picture, so I can't even fathom a way that I could claim the baby as mine. I am very happy for the baby's parents because I know they have been wanting their baby for soooo long. I'm also not at all ready to have another child of our own yet, and I really want my wife to be able to carry our next baby. It's really important for both of us that she have that experience. So the surrogacy thing definitely has a very clear boundary as far as whose baby it is. I feel more connected to the pregnancy than I was the first time, but it is probably because I've been able to experience pregnancy culminating in an actual baby once before. Plus I've seen the embryos under the microscope, gotten 3 ultrasounds so far, and I know the baby is a girl (from genetic testing) and she even has a name. I am in almost constant contact with baby's mama and it is just amazing to see and hear her joy. I'm just happy to be able to help give someone else this experience- I wanted so badly to have a child and having mine has been more amazing than I ever could have imagined. I'm sure it will be interesting after the birth when I have that major hormone shift, but I guess I'll deal with that when it comes. I don't know if I'll feel any sort of loss after I no longer have a baby in me or not. I'll be staying with them for about a month after the birth, so maybe that will make the transition easier. Plus I'll be pumping for their baby (and possibly breastfeeding for a little while,) so I think that will definitely help with the hormones. I hope to get my placenta encapsulated which was a big help after my daughter was born. We'll see.
I'm 14 weeks along, and I feel like it's CRAWLING .... maybe it's because I KNEW when I ovulated, and we had sex that week. In other words, I suspected I was pregnant long before I ever took a test.
The other part is, I've felt so puny, so maybe that's why I feel like this is taking forever.
I'm 14 weeks along, and I feel like it's CRAWLING .... maybe it's because I KNEW when I ovulated, and we had sex that week. In other words, I suspected I was pregnant long before I ever took a test.
The other part is, I've felt so puny, so maybe that's why I feel like this is taking forever.
Since I have been feeling better little by little, I've been busier and thus the time has gone by faster. Can't believe I'll be 13 weeks in a few days! Still feeling that 1st trimester nausea (still taking Zofran) and taking afternoon naps with DS (ahhh!). Once the 2nd trimester is in full swing it will be the new year with birthdays, school for DD and I'm sure it will fly by!
Yeah...I think I would feel kind of the way you are. My house is full of children and laughter...I think that would make it easier to give a child up. I wouldn't agree to carrying my egg and her husbands sperm. I couldn't give my own egg away to anyone, you know? A child, related to my own children, grown in my womb and then handed off....I just know I couldn't be okay with that.
To be honest, I can't imagine being able to preform the duties of a surrogate for anyone BUT this friend of mine. I didn't seek out surrogacy, she asked me. It was so strange the way it just felt totally and completely right the moment the words came out of her mouth. She and her husband have tried for SOOOO long. YEARS of ttc naturally, then IUI....then FIVE rounds of IVF. Everything failed. The surrogacy route was kind of their last ditch effort.
They're those kind of people you meet who, when you find out they can't conceive...you're like why THEM!!?? They're just such wonderful people.
I'm so happy that you are giving such a wonderful gift to this mama to be....that's a truly amazing thing to give another mama. <3
I'm 11 weeks and I think the time is just dragging. I feel so icky and I want that part to be done. Plus, I have a close friend who is six weeks ahead of me, so mostly I'm in shock over how fast her weeks seem to be flying by. I feel like a mid-May baby is not that far from a late June baby, but when she says she is 17 weeks, I think she is waaaaaaaay farther along than I am!
Time sure does fly in general though. I just made my 3 year old a calendar for next year with photos of him each year of his life taken during each month. I can't believe there are 4 pictures in each month! (Although the first couple months of '08 are my big old belly!) It's so sweet to see him grow each month. He's going to love the calendar, especially seeing his baby pictures - he's so excited about this new baby.
I'm 15 weeks on Tuesday and yes I feel like time is zooming! This is our third, we were not planning on any more after two, so I'm cherishing the growing belly and the whole pregnancy experience. I am also enjoying our time as a family of four.
Ksdoula, I felt similar with my pregnancy as a surrogate. Pregnancy is a whole lot calmer and less stressful when you don't have to actually prepare for the baby.
It feels like it is dragging on and on!!! im 15w4d, and the constant 24 hr nausea for the last 11 weeks has been very wearing - I've lost 14 kilos - which on is cool because I weigh too much and my dr was really excited that I lost weight and the baby is growing lol.
I look much more pregnant than 3 weeks ago and that is helping make it real, its felt very abstract up until 3 days ago when I heard the heartbeat at the drs office - we heard it at 9 weeks but it was very hard to pick out and the dr had to keep telling us thats it - that the baby, and then this time it was just there and so clear and loud it was amazing - I was almost in tears that my DH missed it due to work! even though I'm growing its still surreal.
I'm slowly starting to feel better and am really hoping to be off the meds this week but its been a bit of a rough stretch and I am so ready to feel better and have this mysterious 2nd tri energy and sex drive I keep reading about!!!!
so far nada but nausea, irritation and fatigue lol
all that being said I'm told that the time is going to fly by and to cherish it so I'm trying! one day at a time
Ksdoula, I felt similar with my pregnancy as a surrogate. Pregnancy is a whole lot calmer and less stressful when you don't have to actually prepare for the baby.
I'd love to hear more about your surrogacy experience if you don't mind sharing. Can I PM you about it?
Nope, it's definitely flying for me. I feel like I haven't even begun to catch up to everything I need to do. My insurance got all messed up, so I haven't even been able to see anyone about prenatal care, which is also kind of strange, and I'm so much bigger than I was with any of my other pregnancies by this point. It just feels like it's all just taking off without me and I'm just along for the ride.
It's interesting to hear from a surrogate, and someone else who was talking about being a surrogate when the surprise pregnancy happened. I was asked to be a surrogate for another family, and while I'd had a few reservations, I was actually considering it. I'll have to see how I feel after this baby's born. One of the reasons I hesitated was my last birth experience being so traumatic. I've got to admit, I'm kind of afraid of this pregnancy racing to the finish so quickly as well. I'm still working through that last experience. Maybe I'll reconsider their request after this baby's born.
I'd love to hear more about your surrogacy experience if you don't mind sharing. Can I PM you about it?
Don't mind at all<:
at first i thought that it was going so slow. 6 weeks, 8 weeks, lalala, lol. then i hit 11 weeks and am staring 12 weeks in the face and i realize that my first trimester will be over. then i felt like it was going too fast.
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