this isn't about discipline at all. but its all about gentleness.
pretty soon my son might have a molar in the front of his mouth. top front. Its a supranumery tooth (neither a baby tooth, nor an adult tooth, an extra one, a genetic glitch). One of his incisors has been pulled so that the extra one didn't push a bunch of teeth out of alignment on its way down. Right now it is peaking through the gum and it seriously looks like a molar; at least three cusps, maybe four. although the x-ray made it look much narrower--maybe it turned, like a baby in the birth canal ;-P
It will only be there for three years, four at most. Then his adult tooth will push it out. He is almost 4, all of his teeth have been early, so if we're lucky, it'll only be there two years, maybe a little less. one tiny added complication: his other top front teeth have crowns. so it will "stick out" (visually) even more.
so i'm not emotionally worried, i'm more intellectually worried. it was clear it would be at least asymettrical; not the neat square that we expect of incisors. so i brushed aside mentions of pulling it and putting in a temporary bridge.
but let's just imagine, worst case scenario, he grows a molar in the top front of his mouth, that is perhaps, a little crooked. what is the BEST way to deal with this? what do we tell him to expect? how do we describe it (I'm thinking I should quit it with the "funny looking.") what do we say to his teacher(s)? what do we say when other people ask about it? what do we suggest he says to other kids who bring it up? what do we say if he starts to feel embarrassed by it?
how can i minimize the chances that this leaves even the slightest emotional scar?
how does one handle a MAJOR facial deformity?
he's a pretty secure kid. i was not. so i've got some scars. but i'd rather no one had any, ever.