Originally Posted by tarasue
tulafina i love your pictures, you ladies are amazing. I had a midwife with baby #1, he came early and the midwife wanted me to do a stress test at the hospital, my water broke so i went to see if all was good, i was told i could go home and walk to help contractions start, take my temp to make sure that no infections were taking on, or stay at the hospital, i chose to stay. I do love epiderals, although i try to go without as long at a can.
thanks for the inputs on the diabetes test, i asked on babycenter and couldnt believe all the negative responses i got. also thanks for the book idea, christmas present to me :)
Thanks Tarasue! Have you tried a birth without an epi? Just wondering :) I'm a doula and the few women that have had it both ways, swear that the healing, the birth high, and the pushing were all way better for them without the epi. I personally can't answer the question but it's nice to hear how the experiences differ etc :) Oh yeah..and BC is AWFUL!!! I will not even read stuff posted on there much less ask a question! LOL Everyone seems so angry...
Originally Posted by itsybistyspider
tula- i love your pictures! what cute kids you have!
Thanks Itsy! When they're not destroying my house, I think they're pretty cute too...LOL
Originally Posted by chapluqa
Hi there! I'm also planning a UC for this baby, which is my first. I will be borrowing a birth tub from some friends, I'm not sure which kind it is yet. The plan at the moment is to have DH and my mom there as a support team (mom will come over from California) and also to have one or two friends on-call if I feel I need them. Both have had UCs before and one is studying to be a doula so there's some good wisdom and experience there.
I've read Ina May's Guide to Childbirth and Birthing From Within. I'm also planning to borrow Sarah Buckley's Gentle Birth, Gentle Mothering. I'm also doing a pregnancy/birth yoga class taught by a yoga teacher who is also a doula.
There's a great homebirth support network/forum here in Australia which I've been a part of for the past few years (long before I was even pregnant), and I've learned so much from that. I've also gotten to know some great women from the local homebirthing community so I feel really well supported for pregnancy, birth, and beyond. I feel that having a supportive community of women is vitally important, especially in the early weeks/months for helping with breastfeeding issues and anything else that may come up. Since all of my family (and DH's) is abroad, it's even more important for us to have that support network.
The pictures are lovely, tula -thanks for sharing them. It looks like you had an absolutely beautiful birth.
Yay! Another UC Mama!!! Welcome!!
The book that I love is Heart and Hands by Elizabeth Davis:) Great to have on hand for minor issues etc. She's very hands off and is very thorough in her writing.
And thank you for the compliment!! We did have a lovely birth:) It was quiet and non-eventful...just like I wanted it to be! I'm trying to get my birth video uploaded to my computer because I would love to show it to you gals in this private group. I don't know how comfy I would feel with the world seeing it....but to a supportive audience, I'm totally fine with that!
Originally Posted by wwisdomskr
Beautiful pictures! Thank you! I know it's fundamentally different, but we are always open to the idea of UC. I love our midwives and look forward to their presence and support, but if they didn't make it (not the same, I know) or if they felt somehow obligated to risk us out for something we don't believe to be a concern (breech, for example), then we would not blink an eye about birthing alone. I love being tended to and cared for by midwives, but I don't believe they are essential to the safety of birth. Birth is safe on it's own, and in fact, most complications stem from interference in the process...especially here in the developed world. So, I hope you don't mind me being a supportive lurker!
Welcome! Lurk away!! This is what I did throughout my second birth. I had mw's as well and knew that I was going to call them(mainly for my hubby though)....but secretly I was planning a UC for my third while still pregnant with my second! LOL!
My birth ended up being hands on for no reason at all other than the mw felt the need to DO stuff to me and I had very bad PP mood swings after that birth. I thought they were normal...
I ended up getting prenatal care with the same mw for #3 as we have no other mw's here in my town, but I told her at 33w that I would not be calling her for the birth. She seemed ok with that at first. I told her that she could let me go..I understood that the regulations that she had to abide by would not let her do my care if she wasn't going to be at the birth(and she knew it beforehand..not an accidental UC). She told me that she did not want to let me go just in case I changed my mind. I stayed on with her and had a UC. She came about 40mins after the birth and I could tell she was miffed. She brought anger into the house with her and I wish I had told her to leave as this was not the energy I wanted around me or baby. She really thought I was going to call and in her words, "chicken out". I guess she's never had anyone go through with it in 30 years! Which is shocking to me....does she not suspect that some of the women that had accidental UC's with her did that on purpose??? I would! Anyway, this is what really drove me to UC and my hubby knew I was unhappy with our experience as well so I'm sure he was expecting this :) He's very much on board with a hands off pregnancy and birth...I'm very thankful.
And thank you for your compliment:) xo
Originally Posted by itsybistyspider
tula and all- do you have a fetoscope or doppler? do you plan to use it during labor or just see how it goes? if you have one which one and do you like it?
I use a fetoscope. I bought one for $20 at a midwifery conference about 2 years ago. It works really well after about 25 weeks or so(I'm a bit fluffy...so if you are thin, you can hear it sonner than that). I also have a doppler on hand that I purchased with my first pregnancy. I had no idea about the effects of doppler or u/s at that time(I researched it more with #2 and decided against regular use). I do still have it though...not that I think I really need it...just more because if I really felt the need to hear the HB during labour I would probably just use the doppler instead of taking minutes to find it with the stethescope. I wouldn't want to listen unless I felt that there was something wrong. With my UC last year, we didn't listen at all throughout. Baby was active and labour progressed so quickly that it didn't even cross my mind. I'll do the same this time around as well.
This is the fetoscope that I use:) - http://inhishands.com/Fetal-Stethoscope.4995 It's $25 online
The doppler that I use was pricey to buy...about $225 at the time. Looking back it's not worth it, IMO. Maybe rent one...or borrow if you can???
I'm hoping to have some time today topost my birth supply list....I tried last weekend but with the kids all being sick and miserable, I'd type half of it out and then my computer would log itself out after 15 mins of no use...frustrating. Anyway, talk to you ladies later!!