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post #41 of 50
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Originally Posted by Mummoth View Post

Still too scared. It's totally stupid because she's my third and I'm sure I'm fine and everything... I'm just all self-conscious and stressed out about it. I keep thinking about nasty things XH used to say about my body and the shit his friend used to say about women who have had kids and that XH would laugh like it was the funniest thing. DH wouldn't ever, ever say anything mean to me like that, but I just don't even want him thinking it and he's being so no-pressurey and laid back about the whole thing that I start thinking if it's so easy for him not to ask me to be with him that maybe he really is grossed out by me. I worked up the nerve once to try and start things, but D2 woke up... don't know when or if I'll try again.



Sorry you feel like that :-( I felt really self consious after my first 2....since I am below my pre-preg weight now (I was overweight) I feel ok this time..but I totally get it! My DH has said he doesn;t push me because he knows I'm tired and he knows I need to heal etc....we waited until around 3mos with our boys for that reason.

 

Dumb question...if still bleeding does one need to use a condem (meaning is there a risk of infection if you don't?) I know my MW said to use one if before 6 weeks but I think that was in regards to BC...

 

post #42 of 50
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Originally Posted by LilMomma83 View Post

 

Dumb question...if still bleeding does one need to use a condem (meaning is there a risk of infection if you don't?) I know my MW said to use one if before 6 weeks but I think that was in regards to BC...

 


I think it is because of risk of infection. Not 100% sure though. 

 

post #43 of 50
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Originally Posted by SierraBella View Post


I couldn't do it either, honestly. 

 


Yep, pretty odd, LOL. BUT it kept the babe quiet and the hubby happy at the same time. I think I was more relaxed cause I didn't have to stress about baby waking, crying and interrupting, know what I mean. ;) Might never happen again, but it worked the other day...

 

post #44 of 50
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Originally Posted by LilMomma83 View Post



Sorry you feel like that :-( I felt really self consious after my first 2....since I am below my pre-preg weight now (I was overweight) I feel ok this time..but I totally get it! My DH has said he doesn;t push me because he knows I'm tired and he knows I need to heal etc....we waited until around 3mos with our boys for that reason.

 


Thanks. Congrats on being below your pre-preg weight, me too! I was 256 at my first prenatal appointment and I'm 238 now :D That doesn't really help my confidence though, because XH was the worst to me when I'd lost 50 pounds (I was around 170, the smallest I've been in my adult life) It's so stupid, DH isn't like that at all... he's even dealt with weight issues himself. He keeps saying encouraging things.

 

He was a little surprised at the MW's yesterday because she asked if we'd had intercourse yet and talked about family planning. I got the feeling that if I had told him that was going to happen, he would have made sure we had, LOL!

 

I think I'd have to do the mental check-out/be somewhere else thing to be able to nurse & have sex at the same time... which sort of defeats the purpose. She sleeps from about midnight - 4AM, so Saturday nights are an option, and he wants to try on a day he comes home from work in the morning, because she usually goes back to sleep between nursings until around 11 or 12. Just hearing him say that helped a lot, actually...

post #45 of 50

Glad you are feeling a bit better Mummoth!

 

Yeah....I'm not coordinated to DTD with a baby attached LOL

 

Does anyone think its sexy to have a baby nearby though? DH and I have always felt like that in the past...still haven't DTD sicne this one...maybe tonight if I can find a condem and he's willing lol...for once I am not soooo tired!

post #46 of 50

I was wrong about DH and the midwife... he wasn't embarrassed that we hadn't yet, he needed to hear from an expert that it was really, for sure, okay to do. Last night after supper he told me not to let Stephanie sleep until after the big kids were in bed... she will sleep on him, but she doesn't really have a big sleep on me in the evenings anyway... BUT I gave her a bath and we put the big kids to bed and she slept an hour!! That was long enough and I felt good :) I'm just a little tender one spot inside and on my perineum, but I'm not going to say anything to DH because it's really minor and probably gone by the time we get another chance. I feel a lot better now!

post #47 of 50
So, yesterday being Saturday and DH home, we decided to have a really long, slow lovemaking session. Norah ALWAYS takes a 3-4 hour nap in the afternoon, so I thought we were golden. Can newborns sense when something is going on? She woke up three times! Each time required a feeding and diaper change to get her back to sleep. Our lovemaking was long in the sense that it took allll afternoon... LOL! Oh well. I had to laugh because until yesterday, her long afternoon naps were a guarantee!
post #48 of 50
Thread Starter 

Az, the books we have are by Tana HobanI see them on Amazon, but I got them at a used bookstore. E still loves them!!

post #49 of 50

....so we finally DTD yesterday.... baby is 5 months. My poor hubby. hahaha 

post #50 of 50
Thread Starter 

Well, girl, keep it up! I bet he LOVED it!! ;)

 

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