I was pregnant with my first at 18, he was born when i was 19...and despite the fact that in high school, everyone always thought I looked older than I was...suddenly everyone thought I looked 16.
I got some seriously ugly comments and looks- including from th doctor who ended up delivering him ( and doing an unneccessary episiotomy....). My husband was deployed, and I was in a very conservative area with no husband to show....yeah. What no one knew was that I had been married for almost 2 years already and had 2+ years of college under my belt. I wasn't quite the story they were imagining me to be just by how I looked..... even if I had been what they thought I was, what I needed was compassion, not judgement. I was 19 years old all alone in a hopsital about to give birth for the first time for crying out loud !?!?!
A relative actually came to the hospital, and while holding my baby said...."they aren't like puppies you know" ?!?!
But I learned a whole lot about not judging other people, and it is interesting how much more nicely people respond to me now that I am clearly (at the least) in my mid to late twenties. When they realize this isn't my first, they are a little more shocked, and stupid me, I always feel like I have to justify myself ( though I know I shouldn't) and make sure they understand that maybe I did start having babies as a teenager...but I am also happily married, college-educated, financially stable ( for a single-income family anyhow)....all things that i don't think have to be requirements to be a parent anyway...but I still let society enforce them on me. Geez....we ladies and our guilt complexes :D
Hubby on the other hand thinks it is hysterical to just go "yeah, we know how babies are made.....we enjoy it." Stinker :)
Originally Posted by JynxGirl
The thing I've noticed is how much less judgmental people seem now. When I was 21 and having my daughter there was a lot of tongue clicking and tsk-tsking. Now that I'm 30, there's NOTHING.
Though nothing tops the reaction when people ask me which pregnancy number this is... (doctors, nurses, ultrasound techs etc...) Their eyes sort of bug out of their heads, and with the ones who don't ask for the run down, you can see them literally itching to know the whole story...