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post #81 of 101


Everyone guesses (but one) that I'm having a boy.  We'll see.
 

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Originally Posted by BubbleMa View Post

I'm due May 7th, and I think she'll come either a week early or sometime that week.

 

 

This is sort of off topic, but EVERY stranger that comments on my belly guesses that I'm having a boy.  Is anyone else finding that strangers are guessing wrong or right?  Just curious. :)



 

post #82 of 101

onemore. I feel like people just think I'm fat too. I've had maybe 3 random people compliment me in total. Its weird...

post #83 of 101

You know what else is weird?  I get tons of comments when I am by myself or with just one of my kids.  If I have 2 or more with me, no one says anything. 

post #84 of 101
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Originally Posted by Just1More View Post

You know what else is weird?  I get tons of comments when I am by myself or with just one of my kids.  If I have 2 or more with me, no one says anything. 



Yes !!! I notice this too. I mentioned it to Hubby just yesterday; when I go to an appointment alone and everyone says " is this your first"...and I hold up 4 fingers instead. the reactions are priceless- some more polite than others. Sometimes it's" you look too young to have (x number) of kids"...which no longer feels as offensive as it did back when I was very young and had children :D Sometimes it's just "oh...wow"

 

 

But the best/worst camefrom a family member that somehow didn't know I was pregnant until last week...." if anyone should be allowed to have as many childen as they want...it should be you" talk about an insult veiled with a compliment :D

 

But I agree--the general public seems much more interested if you are having your first,multiples, or the second, oppostie sex baby of whatever you already have :D

 

post #85 of 101

Another weird thing I've noticed...I get a lot more comments from men than women. 

post #86 of 101


Lol.  I'm appreciating this statement more and more, too.  I even got a, "I'm surprised a woman like you has 5 kids."  What on earth did he mean by that?  Once, a lady at waffle house went on and on and on after demanding to know my age.  I mean, thanks and all, but it does get awkward pretty quickly.
 

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 Sometimes it's" you look too young to have (x number) of kids"...which no longer feels as offensive as it did back when I was very young and had children.

 

 


That is weird.  And would totally creep me out.  When I was due with my first, a big pot-bellied man (that I knew fairly well)  looked at my belly and said something about me being ready to pop.  My hormonal self poked him in the belly and said, "You, too."  I'm still a little embarrassed about that...lol.
 

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Originally Posted by BubbleMa View Post

Another weird thing I've noticed...I get a lot more comments from men than women. 



 

post #87 of 101
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Originally Posted by Just1More View Post


Lol.  I'm appreciating this statement more and more, too.  I even got a, "I'm surprised a woman like you has 5 kids."  What on earth did he mean by that?  Once, a lady at waffle house went on and on and on after demanding to know my age.  I mean, thanks and all, but it does get awkward pretty quickly.
 

 


That is weird.  And would totally creep me out.  When I was due with my first, a big pot-bellied man (that I knew fairly well)  looked at my belly and said something about me being ready to pop.  My hormonal self poked him in the belly and said, "You, too."  I'm still a little embarrassed about that...lol.
 



 


That literally made me LOL!  None of the men have been creepy.  Which kind of makes it even weirder.  A couple have even been young guys, which really took me by surprise.  I don't wear a ring, so maybe they just thought I was easy?  lol  JK.

 

post #88 of 101
Thread Starter 

Sarah, I suppose they know you put out. LOL

post #89 of 101

The thing I've noticed is how much less judgmental people seem now. When I was 21 and having my daughter there was a lot of tongue clicking and tsk-tsking. Now that I'm 30, there's NOTHING.

Though nothing tops the reaction when people ask me which pregnancy number this is... (doctors, nurses, ultrasound techs etc...) Their eyes sort of bug out of their heads, and with the ones who don't ask for the run down, you can see them literally itching to know the whole story...

 

 

post #90 of 101

I get the, "Wow, you two are sure fertile" remarks when people find out "No, this isn't my first baby, it's my 4th".....but the thing is it is my first with this partner, so it's just me that's fertile, not "you two" LOL  It's just too personal to get into the whole story....yes, I had twins and a single with my ex-husband....and my new man has a 19 year old daughter of his own, etc etc.  I just smile and say "yes, I guess we are" :)

post #91 of 101
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Sarah, I suppose they know you put out. LOL


 

hehe, probably.  ;)  In all seriousness though, they really didn't seem like they were trying to get fresh.  They were nice and polite. 

 

But that reminds me of something that happened when we were still TTC.  I was at the grocery store early one morning to get a pg test.  I was standing in the isle looking at them when some guy came up to me and asked for my number.  When he realized what I was doing he looked really embarrassed, and apologized.  But it was hilarious.  I'd never been hit on in a grocery store before.  Nevermind while buying a pg test.  lol

post #92 of 101
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Originally Posted by BubbleMa View Post

But that reminds me of something that happened when we were still TTC.  I was at the grocery store early one morning to get a pg test.  I was standing in the isle looking at them when some guy came up to me and asked for my number.  When he realized what I was doing he looked really embarrassed, and apologized.  But it was hilarious.  I'd never been hit on in a grocery store before.  Nevermind while buying a pg test.  lol


 

Hahaha, that's awesome! ROTFLMAO.gif

post #93 of 101


I was pregnant with my first at 18, he was born when i was 19...and despite the fact that in high school, everyone always thought I looked older than I was...suddenly everyone thought I looked 16.

I got some seriously ugly comments and looks- including from th doctor who ended up delivering him ( and doing an unneccessary episiotomy....). My husband was deployed, and I was in a very conservative area with no husband to show....yeah. What no one knew was that I had been married for almost 2 years already and had 2+ years of college under my belt. I wasn't quite the story they were imagining me to be just by how I looked..... even if I had been what they thought I was, what I needed was compassion, not judgement. I was 19 years old all alone in a hopsital about to give birth for the first time for crying out loud !?!?!

 

 A relative actually came to the hospital, and while holding my baby said...."they aren't like puppies you know" ?!?!

 

But I learned a whole lot about not judging other people, and it is interesting how much more nicely people respond to me now that I am clearly (at the least) in my mid to late twenties. When they realize this isn't my first, they are a little more shocked, and stupid me, I always feel like I have to justify myself ( though I know I shouldn't) and make sure they understand that maybe I did start having babies as a teenager...but I am also happily married, college-educated, financially stable ( for a single-income family anyhow)....all things that i don't think have to be requirements to be a parent anyway...but I still let society enforce them on me. Geez....we ladies and our guilt complexes :D

 

Hubby on the other hand thinks it is hysterical to just go "yeah, we know how babies are made.....we enjoy it." Stinker :)

 

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Originally Posted by JynxGirl View Post

The thing I've noticed is how much less judgmental people seem now. When I was 21 and having my daughter there was a lot of tongue clicking and tsk-tsking. Now that I'm 30, there's NOTHING.

Though nothing tops the reaction when people ask me which pregnancy number this is... (doctors, nurses, ultrasound techs etc...) Their eyes sort of bug out of their heads, and with the ones who don't ask for the run down, you can see them literally itching to know the whole story...

 

 



 

post #94 of 101
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 A relative actually came to the hospital, and while holding my baby said...."they aren't like puppies you know" ?!?!



Eesh. Not only is that a horrible thing to say, but whenever I hear comments like that I can only assume the person saying it has never actually had a puppy.

 

I'm not saying that kids and pets are alike, but having nursed abandoned neonatal kittens I'm well familiar with the routine of waking up every 2 hours to try to convince a tiny helpless creature to eat something, and then spending the rest of the time cleaning up after it.

 

Those of you who started early will have the last laugh though. You can just smile to yourself when you see those same self-righteous folks struggling with a toddler in a few years, and perhaps if you're a bigger person you'll convince your charming young adult children to lend them a hand.

post #95 of 101

LOL - my 19 year old step-daughter (my guy had her when he was 21) is going to be my doula!  The ultimate "lending a hand" :)  She did an internship at a midwifery clinic in Bali last year....she's a pretty extraordinary 19 year old!!  I feel pretty lucky my SO was a dad so young and now has such an amazing young adult daughter!!
 

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Eesh. Not only is that a horrible thing to say, but whenever I hear comments like that I can only assume the person saying it has never actually had a puppy.

 

I'm not saying that kids and pets are alike, but having nursed abandoned neonatal kittens I'm well familiar with the routine of waking up every 2 hours to try to convince a tiny helpless creature to eat something, and then spending the rest of the time cleaning up after it.

 

Those of you who started early will have the last laugh though. You can just smile to yourself when you see those same self-righteous folks struggling with a toddler in a few years, and perhaps if you're a bigger person you'll convince your charming young adult children to lend them a hand.



 

post #96 of 101
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Originally Posted by lovingthis View Post


I was pregnant with my first at 18, he was born when i was 19...and despite the fact that in high school, everyone always thought I looked older than I was...suddenly everyone thought I looked 16.

I got some seriously ugly comments and looks- including from th doctor who ended up delivering him ( and doing an unneccessary episiotomy....). My husband was deployed, and I was in a very conservative area with no husband to show....yeah. What no one knew was that I had been married for almost 2 years already and had 2+ years of college under my belt. I wasn't quite the story they were imagining me to be just by how I looked..... even if I had been what they thought I was, what I needed was compassion, not judgement. I was 19 years old all alone in a hopsital about to give birth for the first time for crying out loud !?!?!

 

 A relative actually came to the hospital, and while holding my baby said...."they aren't like puppies you know" ?!?!

 

But I learned a whole lot about not judging other people, and it is interesting how much more nicely people respond to me now that I am clearly (at the least) in my mid to late twenties. When they realize this isn't my first, they are a little more shocked, and stupid me, I always feel like I have to justify myself ( though I know I shouldn't) and make sure they understand that maybe I did start having babies as a teenager...but I am also happily married, college-educated, financially stable ( for a single-income family anyhow)....all things that i don't think have to be requirements to be a parent anyway...but I still let society enforce them on me. Geez....we ladies and our guilt complexes :D

 

Hubby on the other hand thinks it is hysterical to just go "yeah, we know how babies are made.....we enjoy it." Stinker :)



 


I had DD at 20, and I looked even younger.  I got those looks too.  :(  And I was married at the time.  Now I'm 10 years older, and unmarried and I still get those looks.  lol  Although, when SO and I are together people assume we're married so it's not so bad then.  It just gets really annoying to feel judged all the freakin' time!

 



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Originally Posted by KM84 View Post



Eesh. Not only is that a horrible thing to say, but whenever I hear comments like that I can only assume the person saying it has never actually had a puppy.

 

I'm not saying that kids and pets are alike, but having nursed abandoned neonatal kittens I'm well familiar with the routine of waking up every 2 hours to try to convince a tiny helpless creature to eat something, and then spending the rest of the time cleaning up after it.

 

Those of you who started early will have the last laugh though. You can just smile to yourself when you see those same self-righteous folks struggling with a toddler in a few years, and perhaps if you're a bigger person you'll convince your charming young adult children to lend them a hand.


Yeah, I never want a puppy again.  I love them, but they're so much work!  Give me a newborn any day though. lol  At least they don't pee on the floor.  Usually. 

 



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Originally Posted by mlovesj View Post

LOL - my 19 year old step-daughter (my guy had her when he was 21) is going to be my doula!  The ultimate "lending a hand" :)  She did an internship at a midwifery clinic in Bali last year....she's a pretty extraordinary 19 year old!!  I feel pretty lucky my SO was a dad so young and now has such an amazing young adult daughter!!
 



 


Wow, that's pretty incredible!  :)

 

post #97 of 101

Man, I never want another puppy. I'd take a newborn over a puppy any day, and I really don't like the newborn stage much either!

 

I am getting a lot of "it must be a boy!" comments. There seem to be 2 theories- if you carry all out in front then it's a boy, but if your butt gets bigger it's a girl. OR if someone can tell from looking at your back that you're pregnant it's a boy, and if they can't it's a girl. Mysterious. I'm carrying this one differently from my other two and I have a boy and a girl so these old wives tales are totally bunk! lol

 

And yes, I get a lot of "oh is this your first?" comments from strangers. I'm 27, but most people guess my age as 21 and my husband at about the same. I had my first at 24, my second at 25. No one comments or congratulates me or even smiles in a friendly way when I'm with the other two kids. I was at the grocery store solo the other day and kept checking to make sure my shirt was on the right way around because everyone was smiling at me. I don't usually notice that sort of thing, so it must have been really excessive. I finally realized they were smiling at hte belly because I didn't have any other kids with me!

 

I actually had a group of about 5 teenage boys stop me when I was out walking the dog the other day, with both kids and obvious belly, and say things like, "you're such a loser- too stupid for university? You've never heard of things like getting a job?" Nevermind that I'm 27, I have a university degree and have a job. I just happen to be lucky in the fertility department and have no life ambitions that are work related and love my kiddos.

post #98 of 101
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Man, I never want another puppy. I'd take a newborn over a puppy any day, and I really don't like the newborn stage much either!

 

I am getting a lot of "it must be a boy!" comments. There seem to be 2 theories- if you carry all out in front then it's a boy, but if your butt gets bigger it's a girl. OR if someone can tell from looking at your back that you're pregnant it's a boy, and if they can't it's a girl. Mysterious. I'm carrying this one differently from my other two and I have a boy and a girl so these old wives tales are totally bunk! lol

 

And yes, I get a lot of "oh is this your first?" comments from strangers. I'm 27, but most people guess my age as 21 and my husband at about the same. I had my first at 24, my second at 25. No one comments or congratulates me or even smiles in a friendly way when I'm with the other two kids. I was at the grocery store solo the other day and kept checking to make sure my shirt was on the right way around because everyone was smiling at me. I don't usually notice that sort of thing, so it must have been really excessive. I finally realized they were smiling at hte belly because I didn't have any other kids with me!

 

I actually had a group of about 5 teenage boys stop me when I was out walking the dog the other day, with both kids and obvious belly, and say things like, "you're such a loser- too stupid for university? You've never heard of things like getting a job?" Nevermind that I'm 27, I have a university degree and have a job. I just happen to be lucky in the fertility department and have no life ambitions that are work related and love my kiddos.



I've heard that too, but I've heard the italicized part reversed.  If someone can't tell you're pregnant from behind, it's a boy.  That applies to me, and the belly all out in front.  Maybe that's why everyone thinks I'm having a boy.  As much as I would love to have a boy, I'm really hoping this baby doesn't surprise us.  We have nothing for a boy.  Not one single thing.  Everything is pink, purple and/or flowery.  lol 

 

Wow, those teenagers sound awful.  I can't imagine.  :( 

post #99 of 101

I've been having feelings that even though the ultra sound has checked twice, the 'boy' I'm carrying is going to surprise us and be a girl. 

 

Would it be silly if I asked her to check again tuesday at our growth scan?

post #100 of 101

I can so relate to all the weird comments!  I was preggo with my first at 23, had finished college and was working in a professional career.  But I looked *really* young, and am petite.  So people treated me like a 16 and pregnant. Even my parents were really not cool. (even though my dad had his first child even younger then I at 18! )

 

Now that we are having our 5th child--I don't care what other people think or say... After my last little guy was born and I was walking through the super market with all 4 of my kids, and this ugly lady stops and sneers at me and asks if they're "all mine" and then shakes her head at me-- I so wanted to say that she was just jealous because she probably never had sex. LOL But I couldn't in front of my kids.

 

I just decided then that if people say dumb things to me I will either ignore them or just mentally/emotionally not engage. Life is too short to live by some "rule book" that other people impose on us that says what we can and cannot do. 

 

I love my kids, and my kids are awesome!  That is why I have 5 of them.  They're too cool to stop at the 2.5 or whatever. 

 

I *hate* it when people say, "Oh you are about to pop, etc" so rude. 

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