How to deal w/ mommy attachment in 10 month old DD

[NinasMommy]

hello,

it seems i never have time to read a good solid book on attachment parenting, so i come here a lot to just ask questions.

my dd is almost 10 months. she's been with me a lot, and has become unaccustomed to being with other people. but i really need a break.

dp has agreed to take her for a few hours on wednesday so i can go do something fun. i always tell people, i have my phone on me, please call me if you need me, ie, if she doesn't stop crying because i'm gone.

what should i do? i've been trying to gradually get her used to one care giver or another, but due to circumstances, it's not been a continuous process, and we seem to have failed.

a baby care place near here suggested i start getting her attached to a security object.

what's attachment parenting's philosophy on all this? i just don't know what to do.

should i let her cry herself to sleep w/ dp? he's not as attachment-minded as i am, but i think he will hold her until she falls asleep.

[katelove]

I think it's pretty normal for babies that age to go through an intense mummy-focused time. It doesn't mean they'll be that way forever or that you've done anything wrong.

I think your DP taking her to give you a break with the option of phoning you if it all gets too much for her is a really good idea. I'd do this as often as possible, and if fact we *do* do this nearly every day. It gives me a break and gives LO and DH some valuable together time.

I wouldn't leave your LO to cry to sleep with you DP just because. If you need a break or can't be there at bedtime that's different but I don't think there is any value in doing it as a teaching exercise. This is a developmentally normal stage she is going through and IMO the best way to help her through is with comfort and reassurance.

All the best. It is exhausting when you're the only one they want and it's "mama, mama, mama" all day. Just keep repeating "this too shall pass" over and over to yourself 

[NinasMommy]

thanks katelove! i appreciate your input.

about the "blankie" idea... do you think it's good/ok to have babies attach to an object that stands in for mommy/primary caregiver?