Yeah, she is lucky that he has a great boss who allows him to have flexible hours (so he can skip lunch to make up for time or come in early, etc...). And yes, he has had to take a lot of vacation days and hours in the past because of her and her schedule changes or refusing to do things when she has the kids. I honestly don't care if she keeps her end of the bargain up since I am fine with keeping the kids home with me. We decided she can have first pick of snow days because there are rarely more than 1 or 2 per year anyway. Our main goal is to stop the constant bouncing around from house to house which is why we requested when a kid is sick, they just stay put until evening transfer time no matter where they are and that on early release snow days, the kids go to whichever house they are spending the night out. We still have a long way to go. She still has not defined a vacation day (she seems to think any day we are gone with the kids is a vacation day even if it's a day we normally have them, but for herself, she only counts the days the kids would be with us normally as a vacation day and insists that visit family out of state does not count as a vacation). We also need to sort out how to deal with the schedule change she is requesting in January where she wants the kids to bounce around to 4 different places (school, her house, our house and karate) all within a span of 50 minutes instead of just letting us pick the kids up from school since we have them every Monday night anyway. We also need to contact the teachers and talk about homework issues and see if we can get the ex to do at least 20 minutes of homework with the kids when she has them on days when the 8yo gets an hour's worth of homework because we just don't have the time to do it all with dinner, karate, bath time, etc..and she gets punished at school by being kept in a recess if she doesn't do it all. I don't know how we're going to get through all this, but I will just be happy if we can get through Christmas with the four measly days we want, days my BF is entitled to as their father.
I'm sure that you are both worn out buy it. Situations like these are mentally and emotionally exhausting. Just make sure that he stays on track. Sounds like he is making some great strides as far as staying on point. I doubt she will stick to her end of the bargain about snow days from what you've said. You talk an awful lot about him taking off of work or leaving early during the day. Does he take off that much because she changes plans? That can't be good for his job unless he has an awesome boss and job security. ROFR is the most annoying thing. That is the biggest double standard here because I bet you BF is never allowed to ask who she has watching their children. Ugh. I'm sorry mama. I really hope that he can get this panned out before next week so you all can enjoy the holidays.