or Connect
Mothering › Groups › August 2011 Birth Club › Discussions › Babywearing BIG Babies

Babywearing BIG Babies

post #1 of 15
Thread Starter 

So Maisie is about 16 pounds now and the stretchy Moby hurts my back.  We were given an older model Ergo which works well if she's asleep and nestled into my chest.  When she's awake, she insists on arching her back out so she can look up at the treetops.  This doesn't seem safe and hurts my back.  I'm thinking about investing in another carrier, but I'm not sure what to get.  Mamas with big babies, have you found carriers that work or am I destined for back pain no matter what carrier I choose?

post #2 of 15

My friend let me borrow her Moby wrap, and I agree, it's not great for big babies. I wore it once for about 20 minutes and it just wasn't working for us. Right now we are rotating through 3 carriers that I use for different things.

 

Ergo: only one DH will use, and I like using it when it's raining while I'm doing errands because it's easiest to get on quick. Now that River can sit in it all the way without any blankets/inserts/etc with his legs out I really like it. But I know he doesn't really like that his head is so low that only his eyes poke out the top.

 

Mei Tie: I have a Kozy carrier brand that I really like. It takes me a minute to tie him up in it, and I haven't figured out a graceful way to tie it without the straps dragging all over the ground, but it's more comfortable for both of us. I can flip down the top piece if he wants to see better, and he can easily look up at me. I know there are a lot of ways you can wear the mei tie that puts pressure on different parts of your body. The ladies on the babywearer.com forum are great help with that. I tried the high back carry twice but got puked on both times in my hair/neck/back (reminded me of getting slimed on You Can't Do That On Television), but I hope to try it again in a few weeks if River gets less refluxy.

 

Ring Sling: I used to only do tummy-to-tummy hold with him, but now he's getting a bit big so I only do that when he's in super-cranky-baby-mode. Otherwise I've been doing the Kangaroo hold and now trying out the hip hold.... but I still need more practice with these.

post #3 of 15

I was asking about this before - Charlie is about 20lbs now.

We're planning to get around to trying this: http://paxbaby.com/zen/the-sling-exchange-c-44.html which I think Stormy recommended. Seems like a great idea.

I was going to try a Boba - I think that's what Carrie rec'd.

post #4 of 15

I really like my Boba.  It's very easy to use in a front carry for DS and he's 18 lbs now.  It's super comfy and perfect for longer walks or errands.  I always take it in the car and use it for shopping, etc.

 

I read that at 20 lbs you can use it as a back carrier.  I want to start practicing b/c while I'm sure I could get him on by myself, I'm stumped on how I would get this floppy infant out and off my back by myself, like in a parking lot.  When DD was 20 lbs, she was about 18 months old, and could help me get her down!

 

I like the Boba b/c it's a great toddler carrier too.  I've never used an Ergo, but they seem very similar.  I like the style of the Boba personally, but the ergo is soooo pretty its tempting!!!

post #5 of 15
Quote:
Originally Posted by cat13 View Post
 I tried the high back carry twice but got puked on both times in my hair/neck/back (reminded me of getting slimed on You Can't Do That On Television), but I hope to try it again in a few weeks if River gets less refluxy.


grossedout.gif  HUGE fear of mine about back carries!!  Blech!!!

 

I find the RS just kills my shoulder.  

 

post #6 of 15
Thread Starter 


I must have missed the earlier thread.  A sling exchange is a brilliant idea!

Quote:
Originally Posted by Beckily View Post

I was asking about this before - Charlie is about 20lbs now.

We're planning to get around to trying this: http://paxbaby.com/zen/the-sling-exchange-c-44.html which I think Stormy recommended. Seems like a great idea.

I was going to try a Boba - I think that's what Carrie rec'd.



 

post #7 of 15
Thread Starter 

Thanks for the recommendations.  I just checked out the Boba on the sling exchange website and it looks great!  I think I'm going to try it.  We live in Boston without a car so a good carrier is a must!

post #8 of 15

I'm another one with a 20 pound baby. I attended a LLL meeting the other night and the leader told me that the Moby would hurt my back with such a a big baby. I'd never heard that before. I told her that I have a ring sling, but don't know how to use it, even though I've seen excellent tutorials. She told me to bring it to the next meeting and she'd show me. Babe seems to like the Moby, though, although depending on what he is wearing, he can get a little hot. I honestly haven't worn him in the Moby long enough to tell if it hurts my back, but then that's because I never go anywhere and it isn't necessarily a good thing. I don't tend to wear him too much around the house, as he's fairly content most of the time and I hold him a lot.

post #9 of 15

DD is at 18 pounds now, and...  Yeah.  Major hurtage going on.  I have her in the Ergo, but she probably spends at least 4 hours a day in it (just on me, that's not counting the 2 hours she's spending on DH in the evening).  She requires being carried.  A lot.  Sigh.

 

I honestly don't think ANY carrier is going to be long-period comfy in a front carry with these big babies.  I carried DS in the Ergo about the same number of hours per day, but we switched to mostly back carrying at around 7 months with him, and he weighed the same as DD does now.  But DD is WAY too floppy still for a back carry.  I've tried, and -- NO.  Not working.  She's still way too little, she'd sink too low, and trying to use the infant insert with a back carry won't work when I'm on my own (which is most of the time).  DD is short but dense, as DH says.  And that means putting off the back carry for a while.

 

I'm seeing my chiro tomorrow though.  My back and hips are killing me.  I can't imagine trying to put DD in the Moby.  I ditched it at about 12 pounds.  Too much pain.

post #10 of 15

I loved my moby-style carrier and used it until DD was almost past one, but Mal weighs that now (20lbs). The ergo is working well for us so far, but it bums me out not to be able to use the moby more. I think the ergo is good because it puts the weight on your hips, right?  I'm also curious to see what else might be good for such a big guy.

post #11 of 15

Mirah is about 14 pounds now, I'm guessing. I mostly use the Boba wrap (not the carrier but I would love to have one) at home - it's still working really well for us.

 

I just keep the RS in my car for when we're out and about because it's the fastest to get her in and out of. We do tummy-to-tummy with feet out. Any more than about 20 minutes though and it's killing my shoulder, no matter what I do.

 

I have a Babyhawk mei tai that I think I will get the most use out of. Right now she's too big to have her feet in, but not quite big enough to spread her feet around me when she's in there. I've been really wanting a Beco or Boba SSC with buckles because as much as I love the Babyhawk I hate putting it on in a parking lot and dragging the straps all over the ground.

 

post #12 of 15

I still use the moby with DS; i tie it really tight. He is now 15.65 pounds.  I suspect that I won't be using for much longer.

post #13 of 15

I love my moby style wrap. I was using it with DS1 until he was about a year old, and only stopped because my 6 month pregnant belly was getting in the way. I only ever front carried too, and would wear him for about 2 1/2 hours when we were at Church every Sunday.

 

I've been using the Moby style again with my 16+lb 3 month old and he loves it. I did try the Ergo with him a few times recently as the moby one is a pain to put on in a parking lot. The Ergo felt a bit weird to me and not as secure. I kept feeling like it was going to fall off my shoulders even though I couldn't get it any tighter, and I also felt like it didn't support DS2 enough as it didn't come all the way up his back like the moby does. With the Ergo I had to keep one hand on his back to keep him steady, as at only 3 months he is still too floppy. I never felt like that when wearing DS1 in the Ergo as an older baby (we got it after DS1 was a year old) so I think it will work well once DS2 is a little older.

 

DS2 is definitely a bigger and heavier boy than DS1 who didn't cross the 16lb barrier until after he was 6 months old, so I know I won't be using the moby as long with him. I think I'll also have to try and master the back carry once we switch to the Ergo full time as I'm already carrying a heavy enough load with my milk filled bewbs, and am still on the hunt for a nursing bra that will support them properly without hurting my shoulders (being a 34J is NO fun!)

post #14 of 15
Thread Starter 

For mamas who are still using their moby's with bigger babies, do you have the jersy knit stretchy kind or a woven kind?  I've heard the woven kind is easier with bigger babies but haven't wanted to buy one to find out.

post #15 of 15

Mine is the jersey knit kind (homemade) and I really like that I can get it to fit tight and feel supportive. It also spreads the weight over my whole upper body right now with DS2 weighing in at just over 16lb. I know some people have had issues with it stretching and thus loosing support, but I haven't had that issue with my homemade one.

  Return Home
  Back to Forum: August 2011 Birth Club
Mothering › Groups › August 2011 Birth Club › Discussions › Babywearing BIG Babies