DD is 2.5 and very sensitive. She is very determined, and I just don't know what I'm doing wrong. I feel like I can't take her anywhere anymore fo fear of her tantrums. I stopped taking her to the grocery store months ago because she would throw fits when she wanted to walk rather than ride in the cart, or when it was time to leave after riding (or not riding) the mechanical horse at the entrance. She screams, hits and flails her body and it is embarrassing and it hurts. Today we went for her WCV at the peds and on the way out she wanted to stop to play with the toys but the office was closing, I explained to her that we had to leave because everyone was going home but she insisted. I had to carry her screaming from the office and into the hall where she lay down on the floor and kicked, screamed and cried. There are other offices in the building so I encouraged her in a calm voice to stand up and walk with me. She screamed and screamed and finally I had to take her by the hand and walk with her--more or less pulling her. I hated every second. I ended up walking firmly with her to the car and putting her in and closing the door as she screamed. I sat and waited in the driver's seat until she settled and climbed into her seat.
What am I doing wrong? I am mortified at these screaming fits and feel like such a failure as a mama. These episodes reduce me to tears and I just don't know what to do anymore. I try to talk her through what we will do at each step, but I feel like she has my number and I'm totally ineffective at parenting her. Please help.