My dd just turned 3 and we have always had challenges with her sleeping. We coslept until Feb when we moved her into her own room. Typically she will wake up at some point and i'll finish the night in bed with her. She has slept through the night in her own bed only about 5-10 times since Feb.
I'm 33 weeks pregnant and have been really struggling with lack of sleep - it's not uncommon for her to be awake for an hour or two in the middle of the night, and she is a restless sleeper in the early morning hours so sometimes I wake up and have a hard time falling asleep. She gave up naps a long time ago so most days I can't take naps, and I'm so exhausted recently.
DH works night shifts 5 days a week so about 2 weeks ago I started bringing dd into my bed when I'm ready for bed and letting her sleep there the rest of the night. We both sleep SO much better - she sleeps through the night more than half the nights when she's in my bed, I don't have to physically get out of bed, and when she does wake up she tends to go back to sleep a lot faster.
I realize I really need sleep for both my health and the baby's health and so I've been keeping her in my bed because I need to do what works and we've been trying since feb to get her used to sleeping alone and it hasn't worked. Now there is only about 7 weeks left until the baby comes and I'm worried about what will happen when the baby is here. If I keep her in bed with me and the baby, will the baby be waking her up constantly? Will she see the baby breastfeeding at night and get upset (we nightweaned when I first got pregnant)? for the 2 nights a week DH is at home, it will be a tight squeeze (we have a queen and buying a new bed is not an option because we are likely moving to another continent next year so it doesn't make sense - we do have a cosleeper for the baby so that will give us a little more room)
Should I just continue to do what gets us both the most sleep? Or should I do whatever I can in the next 7 weeks to get dd in her own bed to make things easier when the baby comes (although she might possibly regress anyway and end up back in our bed regardless of what happens in the next 7 weeks)
Any experience cosleeping with a newborn and toddler? Any tips?