DD just turned 3 and I'm 33 weeks pregnant. I was really expecting dd to wean herself during my pregnancy (my milk dried up months ago) but she is clearly not ready to wean. I'm not really excited about the idea of tandem nursing but I'm less excited about weaning dd when she's clearly not ready, and I'm guessing it's unlikely at this point she'll wean before the baby gets here. Even if she does, I'm guessing she will ask again anyway when the baby is born so it seems a little futile to try hard to wean at this point.
Right now, DD nurses before bed and for a long time (about an hour) as she's waking up in the morning. She almost never asks to nurse any other time. I would love to continue just nursing her these two times but I have a feeling once my milk comes back and she sees the baby nursing constantly she is going to be asking a lot more.
I would appreciate any advice about tandem nursing, specifically if your older child wanted to nurse more once the baby came and how you were able to set limits with your older child.
Also, only my family and a few friends know i'm still nursing and they respond very negatively and just give me weaning advice. DH has been telling dd that once the baby comes she'll have to stop because mommy's milk will be for the baby. I don't think DH really wants me to tandem, he thinks it's just time for dd to stop. How did you deal with negative comments from others, especially close family and DH/DP?
Were you reluctant to tandem? How did it work out?
How did it affect your older child's transition to the new baby?