I need some (very gentle please) perspective here. This got kind of long - guess I needed to vent a bit too..
Ds1 (5) has been telling me for months that he wants a red tractor with a wagon and a canopy exactly like the one they use for wagon rides at his farm school. we talked about how Santa might not be able to find an exact replica (because this is the kid that will notice every tiny detail that is different) and he's told me the elves can make anything. So I've found a red tractor that is similar and bought a wagon that I was hoping to transform into something - it has no sides or canopy but I was hoping my husband and dad could help me with that.
My dad got very excited about this project while I was at their house last week and kind of took it over and wanted to keep the wagon to work on - which is fine with me as I still wasn't sure what I was going to do and he is very handy and I knew he could figure out something wonderful and it would be so special. I talked with my mom today and she told me they ordered 2 more wagons and tractors and are making the same thing for ds2 and my nephew for Christmas. My dad felt like if he was making something so special for ds1 that he should do the same thing for all the grandkids.
I understand this, I really do. I know I should just say thank you and appreciate the effort. But I am so upset by this! This is supposed to be ds1's special Santa present and now everyone will have one. They are only getting one big present from Santa this year and now I have to either figure out an additional present for ds2 or something completely different for ds1. (And find a place to store another 2 more large tractors. we already have 4 similar tractors with attachments from them!) I picked ds2's present specifically based on the fact that he needed something with wheels that he could roll around like his brother's tractor so there would be no fighting about it. Plus, my nephew will be opening his tractor from them on Christmas Day at our house so ds1 will see that too.
This is a constant problem. I've been trying so hard to declutter but it's impossible because my parents keep bringing toys into my house! They are wonderful, loving, doting grandparents, but everytime they come, they have more presents for the kids (and 2 of everything since we have 2 boys and they don't want them to fight over everything). we see them pretty often so it happens a lot AND I can't really get rid of anything because they are looking for it after. They live in a house jam packed full of stuff - for them if one is good, more is better! For my mother's blessing, my mom gave me 15 things for my necklace. I would have much preferred just 1 or 2 that were truly special instead of just a random butterfly because it looked pretty...
I know I sound ungrateful and I feel guilty now. I'm 8 months pregnant and overwhelmed with hormones and I'm getting sick and it's been a rough few weeks. I'm lucky to have these types of problems. I just thought I had Christmas figured out and now I need to figure something else out.