I'm a SAHM of a 20-mo. old DD and have a sister with a 17mo. old DD. Here is my conundrum. My sis and her husband have been having marital trouble (they've always had "issues", but this one was serious), and DH and I convinced them to go to counseling with our pastor. The counseling is going well, but I'm running into issues with babysitting. You see, when they decided to start going to counseling, I agreed that I'd watch their baby for them while they were at their appts. since they're only about 10 min away from my house. I suppose it's partly my fault for not laying out ground rules beforehand about the conditions of this babysitting especially knowing their tendency to take advantage of people (his parents are their unpaid daycare), but now I'm starting to go batty and I'm not sure how I'm going to end this. For one thing, the counseling has turned into never-ending counseling. I was thinking this would be once a week for a couple of months, but we're drifting far past that. They also have a tendency to drop her off WAY early and pick her up hours after they are done. I know they are off getting lunch and running errands and whatnot while they've got free babysitting. They also drop her off in the morning in her pajamas, NO breakfast, and crab at me if I haven't fed her lunch when they get back to pick her up, even if DD and myself haven't eaten yet either. Last week, they didn't even call me ahead to let me know what day they were coming, they just showed up unannounced. I had a friend over and we ended up playing tag-team babysitters instead of having a few hours to knit together, which is what we get together for. On top of this, her DD is extremely hyper and does not listen, so I spend the next day working this monkey-see-monkey-do out of my DD. All of this I could almost let slide in the name of supporting their going to counseling, but the thing that has been setting me off lately is that they bring their baby over when she's SICK all the time. Every time they do it, DD gets sick and I casually mention it to my sis and she says something like "Oh yeah, I noticed my kid had a runny nose the night before, but I figured they share everything, right? *Chuckle, chuckle.*". Excuse me, are you ^$&#*^$*&# kidding me?????!!! My daughter gets a cold and then I get no sleep for 2 or 3 nights while she wakes up snot-puking and I'm supposed to just act like it's no big deal?!! The worst part is that she's a nurse and should totally know better!
All of this ranting to say that I think I'm finally done being walked on. However, I feel like I'm partly to blame for not saying anything before, and I'm stressing about how I'm going to break it to my sister that I don't want to babysit anymore. She is SUPER sensitive and I'm not sure how I can tell her why I don't want to babysit anymore without causing a big thing. We're having Christmas at our house this year, and I don't want it to be weird, but I can't keep going with this craziness every week. My DH has to listen to me rant every time and I guess it's just not really fair to anyone. I guess what I'm asking is, can anyone give me a virtual hug and help me with wording?