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[jill the pill]

My DD didn't sleep last night...I mean not at all.  Its 9am and I am still up with her and trying to make my 2yr old breakfast.  I'm almost beyond tired at this point and my emotional health is in the gutter.  DH is no help because we work in retail and this is our busiest week of the year.  I know it will get easier but this sucks!!!

[Jaimee]

So sorry Jill!!  Do you have anyone to come relieve you for a few hours so you can get a break or a nap?

[jbk21]

Ah SE.  I don't know that area very well.  I went to school in Cincinnati (UC for a year then Miami for 3.)  That's great that your job is so awesome, and that you can still be home 5 days a week.  That is a pretty great situation!  

[Jaimee]

Saw this on KellyMom's FB page and thought I'd share:

Five Myths about Postpartum Depression:  http://psychcentral.com/lib/2012/5-damaging-myths-about-postpartum-depression/

[KayPea]

Thanks for this, Jaimee. This is excellent, and very validating.

My old doctor needs to read this. When I finally approached her about my concerns with PPD, when DD was 10 months old, her only question to me was "How much do you cry?" When I told her a couple times a week, she said "You're fine" and that was the end of the conversation.

[Abraisme]

I'd say that it's pretty ignorant to try to make a diagnosis based on how often a person cries.  It's really a subjective thing.  If I cried a few times a week, something would be very wrong.  Under normal circumstances I cry maybe 1-2 times a year, but then I have friends that cry all the time and they're not really depressed.  Stupid medical community.
 

Originally Posted by KayPea 

Thanks for this, Jaimee. This is excellent, and very validating.

My old doctor needs to read this. When I finally approached her about my concerns with PPD, when DD was 10 months old, her only question to me was "How much do you cry?" When I told her a couple times a week, she said "You're fine" and that was the end of the conversation.

[TalkToMeNow]

Originally Posted by Abraisme 

I'd say that it's pretty ignorant to try to make a diagnosis based on how often a person cries.  It's really a subjective thing.  If I cried a few times a week, something would be very wrong.  Under normal circumstances I cry maybe 1-2 times a year, but then I have friends that cry all the time and they're not really depressed.  Stupid medical community.
 

Originally Posted by KayPea 

Thanks for this, Jaimee. This is excellent, and very validating.

My old doctor needs to read this. When I finally approached her about my concerns with PPD, when DD was 10 months old, her only question to me was "How much do you cry?" When I told her a couple times a week, she said "You're fine" and that was the end of the conversation.

Seriously! I cry when I am frustrated, overwhelmed, tired, angry, or happy. So, a lot! I'm a crier. And I'm not at all depressed.

[jhsmama11]

I scored borderline PPD on a screen I was given at my 2 week check up but my midwife and I decided to wait since there's so much change and sleep deprivation. The symptom she was most concerned about was whether I was feeling like I was a bad mom all the time. That was interesting to me, rather than the usual depression symptoms.

[Jaimee]

Here's another great article... this one especially for FTM's:  http://www.ncregister.com/blog/to-the-mother-with-only-one-child

Dear mother of only one child, don’t blame yourself for thinking that your life is hard.  You’re suffering now because you’re turning into a new woman, a woman who is never allowed to be alone.  ...  When I had only one child, she was so heavy.  Now I can see that children are as light as air.  They float past you, nudging against you like balloons as they ascend.

[MrsKatie]

Yay! So glad this thread got revived!

Jaimee - thanks so much for those links.
 

Originally Posted by TalkToMeNow 


Seriously! I cry when I am frustrated, overwhelmed, tired, angry, or happy. So, a lot! I'm a crier. And I'm not at all depressed.

Me. Too.  Any big emotion, and I'm a goner.  The worst is that I cry when I am confronted and have to stand up for myself.  I remember when I was a nanny for twins, their mom called me out one time because, (very) long story short, I couldn't skip my (vitally important) internship to come babysit last-minute and not during my regular hours.  I was talking to her about it, and she was all pissy, so I started crying.  Even though I was ONE HUNDRED PERCENT in the right and she was just having a hissy fit because I'd let her grow too dependent on me by making myself super available almost every other time she'd needed me at the last minute.  So.  I'm crying and it felt like I was saying she was right and I was wrong, cause she didn't get emotional.  Gah!