For the past month or so my go-to response for discipline is to threaten spanking because, well, it works. It works quickly and quietly with no argument. Situations basically go like this: DD and DS1 are running around screaming. I ask them nicely to please stop. They continue. I ask them more pointedly to stop and drop the please. I tell them loudly to stop. Then I yell "Stop it now or you'll get a spankin'!!!" Running and yelling stop immediately.
....OK, I'll be honest. It started that way. Now I pretty much just jump straight to the spanking threat esp as it gets to the end of the day and I'm worn out. And its for basically everything. DD isn't picking up like I asked her to, threaten a spanking and she moves. Arguing, back talk, fighting, yelling, running, throwing....whatever behavior I want changed.
I need a new line. I don't like throwing that out there all the time but I really don't know what else to do. Part of the problem is that I'm burnt out and, like I said, it works. I need to recharge. But I also need some for of discipline that's going to work and not include threats of physical punishment.
FTR-I have yet to actually spank after I threaten it. I don't actually want to spank my kids, I don't think its a good form of discipline. So if I need to remind DD again to pick up I generally say something like "You remember what's going to happen if you don't get to picking up, right? Move it along now!" and that's the end of it. But again, its just a continued threat and I don't like it. I'm not at all proud of the parent I've been lately.