The talk went very well. His mom was particularly understanding because she had not designed the cards and thought it was a little odd. She said she came home from work and his dad had ordered them and was filling them out. I guess the photo they chose was because people did not like the other options that we took. So it was his dad that basically did all the stuff, but his mom didn't entirely realize the situation either.
They feel really bad, especially his dad. They understand where we were coming from and are glad we shared our feelings with them. He said he hadn't sent all the cards out yet and would be happy to make a new one that did not say "from Elliott" and even choose a different picture. He said he wanted to make it right. He felt really bad. I felt better just talking to them and knowing (hoping) that something similar wouldn't happen again in the future, so I told him to go easy on himself. I suggested that rather than order new cards and go through the hassle and expense, they send the rest of the cards out later so that our cards will arrive first. He said that was fine, but he was also willing to change it if we weren't happy with that solution.
We said that Elliott's firsts were sorta our thing and that as happy as we are that they love him so much and are so happy he is here, we would like for them to check with us first for similar things later and that things like his first birthday were for us to do.
All was said very nicely and I am very happy with how it went because I feel that we were able to fully explain ourselves AND they seemed to understand AND they felt really bad and wanted to change things. Plus, I feel like it was the first time I have really expressed my feelings to them so it may be the start of more openness too.
So they are still going to use the card with our permission, but people will get ours first and they aren't going to send out the extra pictures, which by the way, they recognized were our pics from our camera and we didn't even mention that.