I'm hoping to connect with some of you who may have experienced something similar. I left my husband (moved out on 11/27/11) recently. My 5 year old DS has been having a very tough time with going to and staying with his dad.
To provide a little background, I am a total attachment parenting mom. I BF until he was 27 months, cloth diapered, wore him, we still co-sleep, etc. His father has never really been very engaged. I'm not saying he doesn't love his son, but he has always put his own needs first. I remember trying to get him to read various books and articles about the importance of bonding at an early age, but he would never read them.
My DS has really been doing wonderfully. He goes to an amazing Reggio preschool, and they feel he is handling things well. When he is with me at my house (I moved out), he is fine. He sleeps, he eats great, he plays. When he goes to his dad's he gets REALLY sad at bedtime. He's been OK for one night, but after that he wants to come back to me. I feel terrible. His dad has bought all of these things to try and make his house a place our son wants to be, but DS doesn't care about any of that. I'm not sure what to do. I don't want to stand in the way of DS having a relationship with his dad, but when he's crying and not going to sleep until 9:30-10:00 at night I worry. I know some of this is the fact that he is a five year old boy, but I also think he just feels more secure with me.