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[TalkToMeNow]

Originally Posted by TTCChloeOrConner 

I wish I could change everything.

I didn't even have high expectations... All I wanted was a drug-free, vaginal birth.

I wish I wouldn't have chosen the c-section. Stupid doctor. Stupid peer pressure.

I hated every single aspect of the c-section. ALL OF IT.

I'll lay in bed sometimes and imagine the doctor slicing my stomach open... I imagine the anesthesiologist putting that huge needle into my back... It makes me sick.

I'll be damned if I don't go for a VBAC and have 72 hours of labor before I go for the c-section next time. Hmph.

Hugs. I know you did the best you could in the situation. Didn't you stop progressing at 3 cm for a really long time? You probably didn't have much choice other than a c-section at that point. I mean, being in the hospital. I would have done the same thing.

[TalkToMeNow]

Originally Posted by IwannaBanRN 

It was really difficult to go from 5cm dilated to my body forcing Levi out in 10 minutes. I get weird looks when I say that my body pushed Levi out. No on seems to understand the body's natural urge to push. Most of everyone I know IRL has had hospital births with epidurals.

Well, my hospital birth with an epidural was the first time I felt the urge to push. Go figure. With the other two, I pushed because I was done being in labor and my midwife said I could. This time, I was not in pain during transition, so I wasn't begging to push and get it over with. But when my epidural wore if, it really was time to push. My body was pushing on its own. I would have preferred to wait and go back to the no pain. This was me pushing: "No! I'm not going to push. I don't want to! Make it stop! Oh god, I'm pushing!"

J, maybe it's not the worst part because you are actually getting to do something. True. And Mal, yes it is for the birds. I'd been fine never feeling that again!

Those of you who said you'd probably have an epidural if you were in the hospital- interesting. I've been thinking that for me, having a natural birth means partly not having the opportunity to have drugs. With dd1 and dd2, I set it up that way. With this one, I didn't. But, going drug free wasn't as big of a deal to me this time. So I gave myself the opportunity to have pain meds. And, if I have another, I'll probably do the same thing. Hmmm...

[CDsMom1031]

Originally Posted by TalkToMeNow 

Originally Posted by TTCChloeOrConner 

I wish I could change everything.

I didn't even have high expectations... All I wanted was a drug-free, vaginal birth.

I wish I wouldn't have chosen the c-section. Stupid doctor. Stupid peer pressure.

I hated every single aspect of the c-section. ALL OF IT.

I'll lay in bed sometimes and imagine the doctor slicing my stomach open... I imagine the anesthesiologist putting that huge needle into my back... It makes me sick.

I'll be damned if I don't go for a VBAC and have 72 hours of labor before I go for the c-section next time. Hmph.

Hugs. I know you did the best you could in the situation. Didn't you stop progressing at 3 cm for a really long time? You probably didn't have much choice other than a c-section at that point. I mean, being in the hospital. I would have done the same thing.

I was at 3cm for 7 hours before opting for the c-section.

But there's a friend of mine who has been in the hospital for over 48 hours right now and is at 7cm, 100%. She was under 3 for a solid 36 hours before her body started progressing.

I wish I had her will power. She also has an epi though, so I'm sure that makes it "easier".

[IwannaBanRN]

Originally Posted by TalkToMeNow 


Well, my hospital birth with an epidural was the first time I felt the urge to push. Go figure. With the other two, I pushed because I was done being in labor and my midwife said I could. This time, I was not in pain during transition, so I wasn't begging to push and get it over with. But when my epidural wore if, it really was time to push. My body was pushing on its own. I would have preferred to wait and go back to the no pain. This was me pushing: "No! I'm not going to push. I don't want to! Make it stop! Oh god, I'm pushing!"


 

That's different, though. I was referring to when epidurals are still in effect during pushing.

[MsVyky]

I was 3 cm for nearly two entire days. I was 2cm before the onset of labour, ctx started at 7 pm saturday. Was checked Sunday afternoon - 3 cm, Checked at 3 am on Monday morning- 3 cm. Threw a shitfit from being exhausted and angsty Monday around lunchtime and flew from 3 cm to complete in 5 hours. 

I was ready to give in. Monday at lunchtime, after 36 hours of labour, I was tired and ready to transfer. I called my midwife one last time to come check me and see where I was at and thank maude at the time she checked, I was 6-7 cm. 

I am elated by my birth experience. Yeah, it was hard. It was REALLY hard. It was painful, and there were a few times where I honestly wanted to die. I crawled around on the floor making animal sounds, laid in my bathtub and sobbed and threw protein bars across my living room. I yelled at my husband, I yelled at my baby. I called my midwife names. I was an AWFUL client, I'm sure of it. But I got to do it all on my terms. The difference between that and my hospital TOL cum C-section is night and day. Knowing what it feels like to push a baby out gave me confidence in my body I was sorely lacking before this. Some people dream of climbing a mountain or rowing a boat across the ocean. I wanted a successful VBAC, and that moment when my midwife told me to reach down and touch my baby's head as it emerged was thrilling. The moment I felt her body slide out into my husband's hands gives me chills just to think about it. 

I just want to share this photo, because it says more than I can ever say with words

[IwannaBanRN]

Love it, Vy! I am in awe of all VBAC moms here. You've all done what SOOO many women think they can't do or are too afraid to do because a doctor pulled the dead baby card on them. I know for me, and I'm sure everyone else on this board are so proud of you for persevering! Even if it meant potentially being a horrible client. I'm sure she's been called lots of things by women in labor. LOL