For what it's worth, we never used the crib. Like seriously never ever. DD slept (and still sleeps) with us. We didn't have a changing table and I never would have used it anyway - we change DD on the bed or on the floor wherever we are. We have two diaper changing stations, one upstairs one downstairs and use waterproof pads just in case. No changing cushion or anything. We also never used the (absurdly expensive) stroller we bought brand new. Dumb dumb purchase. I wore DD everywhere we went, and I still do. DD never tolerated the pack n play, so that became a giant laundry basket. Wasted purchase.
Things I would have purchased again - arms reach co-sleeper or other bassinet, dresser for clothing, swing, bouncy seat, jumperoo, glider or rocker, and carseat. The jumperoo can wait, but I was definitely happy to have the swing for moments when nothing else would calm DD, and the bouncy seat was great for grabbing a shower and having DD in the bathroom with me. Actually we have a second one for downstairs so that if DD was tired of being worn we could put her down safely.
We have a lovely nursery that we are changing over to house two children. We are doing away with the crib/toddler bed and bought a used loft bed. The plan is to put a mattress on the top and also directly on the floor. DD will get the floor bed until she is old enough to move up to the top, at which time our new addition will get the floor bed. I don't regret the nursery exactly, because it really was fun to set up, but it was a giant waste of money since we barely used anything in it, and now we need to completely change the setup.
Check out the family safety portion of the forums for great advice on carseats. We bought the Chicco KeyFit because it was the best reviewed of Consumer Reports. We moved on to a convertible when DD was 4 months because she HATED the bucket seat. (True Fit - LOVE LOVE LOVE it. We have one for each car). The bucket seat was also incredibly big and bulky to lug around - we got the larger version (which technically DD still fits into weight wise at 2 years old), which was a big mistake because there is no way you are carrying a 30lb child around in a bucket seat that weighs 15lbs. I don't regret buying the bucket seat because for the first few months it WAS convenient to strap her in while in the house and not in the car, but I NEVER left her in it when we went into stores or anything, so it sort of defeated the purpose. We will use it again this time around because we have it, but I think if we were to do it over again, I would have bought a convertible from the start. Oh, and the travel system was a waste because as I said above, DD HATED strollers too, so we never used it!
Edited by 1stTimeMama4-4-10 - 3/7/12 at 8:53pm