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Joy that's cool, I will look into it! Hopefully they're cheaper than buying both pieces of the other ones?

 

 

post #242 of 425

We're not doing a monitor at all, at least not at first.  We have a small house with everything on the same level (we have an upstairs, but we don't use it) and the baby's room is smack in the middle.  If we decide we need one later, we'll go for it then. 

 

I think I finalized most of my registry, which I'm excited about.  I'm leaving most clothes, bibs, and so on off because my mom said people buy that stuff in bulk anyway, so it's not like we won't get it if it's not on there.  If our kid is a boy, my SIL can forward us tons of boy clothes, so we'll be in good shape either way, I think.

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Originally Posted by LilyTiger View Post

We're not doing a monitor at all, at least not at first.  We have a small house with everything on the same level (we have an upstairs, but we don't use it) and the baby's room is smack in the middle.  If we decide we need one later, we'll go for it then. 

 

I think I finalized most of my registry, which I'm excited about.  I'm leaving most clothes, bibs, and so on off because my mom said people buy that stuff in bulk anyway, so it's not like we won't get it if it's not on there.  If our kid is a boy, my SIL can forward us tons of boy clothes, so we'll be in good shape either way, I think.


I didn't think we were going to do a monitor, I know my sister never used one, but my FIL gets so excited about certain things with the baby, I go along with it just because I don't want to disagree with him on, so I registered for one.  He's got fond memories of baby monitors I guess.

 

I've also just about completed my registry and I also left bibs, pacifiers and the like off. However, I did register for some clothes, but all SUPER plain clothes, shirts, pants, onesies, all in solid colors only, just to give people an idea of what I like.  I really don't want a bunch of 'baby' clothes.  I think babies look SO cute in plain, solid color or simple pattern/design clothing.  They're so perfect and precious, I don't want to distract with ruffles, buttons, characters, etc. on clothing. I know people are just going to buy us what they think is cute, and I appreciate that they're even thinking of us at all, but I don't think it will hurt to kind of point them in the direction of what we like.

 

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I just finished our baby registry last week and ironically it has ONLY "small" not overly important stuff (such as clothes, onsies, blankets) and no big ticket items since my MIL is having a shower for us in a couple of weeks when we are visiting in Michigan (it's the only time we'll see them).  Since we're flying, we can only bring back what we can fit in extra suitcases....And since we live in Canada and shipping costs are ridiculous, we plan to buy all the necessary large gear ourselves (such as car seat, bassinet and stroller).  We'll get just the absolute basic necessities since we're moving again in the fall and my family on the east coast will have a 2nd shower for us at that time.  That will be our chance to register for anything big that we've been missing....
 

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I think babies look SO cute in plain, solid color or simple pattern/design clothing.  They're so perfect and precious, I don't want to distract with ruffles, buttons, characters, etc. on clothing. I know people are just going to buy us what they think is cute, and I appreciate that they're even thinking of us at all, but I don't think it will hurt to kind of point them in the direction of what we like.

 


I completely agree!!  I'm so afraid of being bombarded with baby blue "boy themed" stuff next week that I've used my registry as an opportunity to direct people towards my preference to solids, browns, neutrals and organic skincare products (and IF it's printed then I'll take a safari or rockstar theme, please).  I would really just love to score a few varieties of cloth diapers (since they are a large investment and we'll need a good amount of those) off our list though...

 

post #245 of 425

i haven't even started a registry yet. i'm having this weird anxiety about it (same thing happened when we got married). i know logically that people will want to get us stuff (and will, whether we're registered or not!) and that a lot of times, people will want to get us what we need/want. i guess i'm feeling self-conscious because of recent things my mom and my sister said about my cousin's wife's registry..."oh, claire wants all ORGANIC clothes." etc. blah. guess i'm worried about being judged for our choices. which is dumb.

 

i guess i'm also feeling a little superstitious since we have our anatomy scan on thursday...waiting for the "green light" so to speak. i felt the same way about buying maternity clothes, i waited until after our NT scan. 

 

agree on all the thoughts about baby clothes...and the idea of putting a few things on the registry to sort of "guide" people is a good one.

 

colleen

 

 

post #246 of 425

Veritas and NewMumJoy, I totally agree.  The only clothes on my registry are plain color block oneseis and a few neutral sleep sacks.  I'm really not into overly frilly babies (I've never understood the baby headband phenomenon) and especially if it's a girl, I'd like most of her day to day clothes to be just plain little sweet onesies.  I'm not against the grandparents buying a few girly things after she's born -- I totally understand that people will want to do that.  But I'm trying to prevent the entire wardrobe from being truck overalls (if a boy) or frilly dresses (if a girl).

 

Waffler, I totally had that feeling too.  We put an expensive BOB jogging stroller on there and I can picture my dad sort of rolling his eyes at us needing a $350 stroller.  But DH is training for some really big races and I jog/run frequently and it makes sense to get one.  I do worry though what people think of my choices for bamboo and wood rattles instead of plastic.  It feels a little elitist, but it's what I think is best.  Oh well.  You just have to go with your gut and not worry too much I guess.

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I sympathze w the registry struggles. I started a registry early on but haven't touched it since. I just don't want to think about it until after our anatomy scan. I guess I'm a bit superstitious during pregnancy, who knew? In fact, we haven't done anything baby specific yet, no maternity clothes, nothing. We did recieve our first baby gift from DH's parents, they sent us a Baby Bullet Babyfood maker. :) Honestly, I don't know if we'll need a registry. Being so far from friends and family, I'm not sure we'll be having a shower and I think those who want to send gifts will just give us what they want to give. But I agree w you on the anti-cutesie stuff. I'm not a fan of characters or baby specific themes. I LOVE graphic prints, stripes, color-blocking. I also don't want a bunch of crazy, gaudy plastic toys. I prefer natural materials- wood, cotton, etc. Basically think Dwell Studio and I'm happy. How to translate that to my midwestern fam is another matter. Ultimately, I'm grateful to anyone who thinks of us. We'll see how it goes. But I do know that the rest of this pregnacy is going to be very busy! My to-do list is not getting any shorter!

post #248 of 425

Ah, I totally feel with you on the superstitious or uneasy thoughts about stocking up on all this baby stuff already.  I'm with ya!  Especially since this is the farthest I've ever made it in pregnancy and all things have been going really well (almost too well).  I try not to think too far ahead and just enjoy each healthy day that I have for what it is.  I do know though that those worries are really going to creep in however, when we come back from our shower to have all these baby things accumulating around our house!

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I started a registry early on but haven't touched it since. I just don't want to think about it until after our anatomy scan.


I had the scan 5 weeks ago and still just don't want to think about it.   There is no good excuse for me.  It just seems so overwhelming.  

 

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I had the scan 5 weeks ago and still just don't want to think about it.   There is no good excuse for me.  It just seems so overwhelming.  

 



I'm not actually planning to deal w it until someone asks me for a registry. Then I'll put one together, otherwise I still know what I want/have researched all the major necessities. I'll probably just buy what we need as we go. We're not minimalists, per se, but I think we'll see how far we can get w as little as possible. All that LO really needs is a full tummy, dry diaper and tons of cuddle time. Everything else is for us anyway, right?

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I have been struggling with putting organic clothing/bedding etc. on the registry because I feel like people will evaluate me harshly for it. I also really want bamboo towels for the baby (soooo soft) but they are so expensive and I keep adding them then deleting them. I just don't know that it would go over well.  Essentially, the registry is a shopping list for me...things that B and I would buy if other people didn't feel the need to, so I tell myself I shouldn't feel bad about it, but in the end, some of that stuff I may just get on my own.  

 

I did decide against the jogger because B got a horrible case of plantar fasciitis and claims he will not run anymore. Really, he only ran so he could run with me (right when we first started working together, he later told me he hated running, but wanted to spend time with me). I prefer swimming to jogging and if I want to jog, he can just watch the baby.  So instead we registered for a cheaper lightweight stroller and a baby bike trailer, since our town is small enough to bike just about anywhere we want to go. Combined they are still hundreds less than the jogger. 

 

LeAnn, I'm with you on trying to keep the number of baby items down, I feel bad for the number of items on my registry, but honestly, the majority of it is books and small clothing and diapering items.  My friend was ticking off a list of things I should consider adding and I kept shooting them down.

post #252 of 425

I say add the organic things to your registry! No one is obligated to buy those things and most registries have a completion discount for the items you aren't given, so you can get them after your shower, etc. if you want. 

 

I've started 3 registries but they're private/not shared with anyone yet since I'm not sure which one to go with and I'm still deciding on items. I haven't added many clothing items (other than some Star Trek onesies, haha). 

post #253 of 425

I'm in the same boat.  We have an Amazon list just for ourselves, but I hardly would have this "public" registry (let alone one this soon) if we weren't having a shower next weekend, in our circumstances.  I have so many items on that list that I don't really need that I feel silly, but wanted to display my tastes/preferences and give people a variety of things to choose from (style, budget, etc.).  I'm hoping it makes their life easier, I am so uncomfortable about being lavished with gifts in the first place!  

 

Veritas - you have nothing to lose by having those special items in your list and you won't be judged negatively for it, again it's just really a "helpful guideline" and our chance to "ask now or forever hold your peace!"

post #254 of 425

LilyTiger, finally reporting back...the Radian seems to fit in the Fit, no problem, even in the middle seat. my husband and i are about the same height (5'9"ish) and ride somewhat close to the pedals (we have a stick, so i like being able to clutch confidently :P). he moved the seat to behind the passenger's seat and we did move it up slightly but not so much to make the front passenger uncomfortable. 

 

also that was my first time in a buy buy baby and i didn't realize that it's owned by Bed Bath and Beyond (which once you go inside is pretty obvious, it's set up very much the same). anyway, the point is, they honor BBB coupons and will price match any competitor (the Radian at BBB is $340 and on amazon is around $280). i will probably just register on amazon but figured it was worth mentioning. 

 

colleen

 

post #255 of 425

Waffler, thanks for checking.  My husband has decided that $300 for a car seat is too much, and we're getting an infant seat from his sister, so we'll just push off the decision for what to do about toddler/kids until later.  I'm glad it fits though since I'm still debating it and I think we'll have two small hatchbacks for a while yet.

 

I knew Buy Buy was associated with Bed/Bath, but the coupon tip is a good one.  I haven't stepped foot in one of those stores and am trying to see if I can avoid it.  DH is on car seat and stroller duty and those are really the only things I would bother looking at in person.  I'm being such a lazy expectant mom...

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I had never heard of Buy Buy Baby until recently, here on MDC. I guess it doesn't exist in my area? Can I just say, I find that name to be a complete and total turn off to the store? Ugh.

 

Anyway, just thought I'd say hello, and I empathize with the registry concerns. I'm not registering for much in the way of organic clothes, because I feel they're just too darn expensive, but I do have other "green" things on there, and a note requesting no bottles/pacifiers/plastic toys. I finally decided that, well, if they don't like it, they can chose not to buy me a present, or they can buy something else. If they need to judge me based on my registry, they obviously have too much free time!

 

Anyway, the grandmas have started buying things for the baby - I now have 7 newborn-sized outfits! I keep looking at baby clothes, but I am trying really hard to restrain myself (mostly working), because we don't currently have money in the budget for clothes, we have no place to put them, and I'm pretty sure the grandma gravy train isn't going to be stopping any time soon.

 

I've also been reading a book on Elimination Communication, and I'm warming to the idea somewhat more, although I'm still pretty daunted by the idea of trying to read my baby's cues. OTOH, I have noticed that both my mom and SIL seem to be pretty aware of when SIL's kids are about to go/just did go to the bathroom in their diapers, so maybe it is something I will pick up once he's here? Still thinking about my options, anyway.

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Does anyone know if getting an arm's reach co-sleeper and a pack and play with infant bassinet are both needed?  Baby will outgrow both so fast I feel and it seems like both accomplish the same thing.  

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I had never heard of Buy Buy Baby until recently.  Can I just say, I find that name to be a complete and total turn off to the store? 


Totally agree!   And yay for grandmas! smile.gif


Edited by Sol_y_Paz - 4/9/12 at 10:47pm
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ok, i guess i shouldn't be so freaked out but a buy buy baby coupon arrived in our mail on monday. logically, i know that we're being marketed to but....

 

LilyTiger, i hear ya (or your husband). my sister in law is going to give us her bucket seat and base, which she bought from someone off of craigslist which makes me feel a bit nervous (not sure she knows the history of it). plus it expires in 2013 which is cutting it close (though not sure how arbitrary those expirations are? am i a sucker for wanting the safest?). was your sister in law the original owner of their seat? so considering all that plus the feedback from Aimee, we're just going to bite the bullet and go with a new seat. 

 

agree about Buy Buy Baby comments! i hope to never go back :)

 

sol, i think it would be useful to have two places for the baby to sleep, at least in our situation because it'd be nice to have someplace to put the baby down both downstairs and upstairs.

 

colleen

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As a CPST I would never ever advise using a seat from someone you don''t know and trust implicitly.  There's no way to know if it's ever been crashed, abused, checked on a plane, or had the straps machine washed or cleaned with harsh cleansers.  All those things make a seat unsafe.  You're basically trusting a stranger with your child's life.

 

As far as expriation, it's not going to explode one day after the expiration or anything.  But the company is saying they wash their hands of it after that date.  They'll no longer issue recalls, test for safety, or claim the seat will work as it should.  Expiration dates also serve the purpose of nudging people to buy newer seats - the technology on these things improves every year - and gets seats with missing parts, manuals, and such out of circulation.  In addition, they're made of plastic.  And they sit in hot or cold cars (or both each year) for years at a time.  The plastic does break down over time.  Each seat will probably be different, but when you don't know if it will get brittle and give out after 6.5, 8, 9, or 10 years, you don't want your kid to be the one to find out.  The time frame given is what they know to be safe.  Make sense? 

 

Just my 2 cents.

post #260 of 425

Well, despite the off-putting name, we had a great experience registering at Buy Buy Baby, which we went to right after Babies-r-us. The store had informed and courteous salespeople who seemed to enjoy what they were doing and treated us well, was bright and clean, had tons more options than Babies-r-us, and offers individual sessions in their sections to learn more about items such as strollers and car seats. Their goodie bag after registering was also much more useful than the one we got from babies-r-us.  These are things I care about more than the store's name. It's part of bed, bath and beyond, so maybe the naming team was just too tied to the bbb consistency in the naming to realize the strange implications (my mom thought I was saying the homonym bye bye baby, which is worse, I think). 

 

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