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post #361 of 425

Oh, Boots, sorry about the pain! I'm not really sure if I want to get those done at all. My new ob mentioned that she would start at 37/38 weeks, but I think unless I am having contractions or indications of labor I'm going to tell her I'd rather not do it at all. I didn't say anything when she mentioned it during our first visit and she didn't bring it up yesterday.

post #362 of 425
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According to Dr. Google, a little spotting is normal after cervical checks. Mine is very light pink so I'm not too worried.

 

I think the cervical check itself and not the dilation hurts, dilation just happens with your contractions, etc. Talked to my friend more and she said also since I am barely effaced it probably hurt more.

 

I do want to keep doing them because I really want to know what's going on down there since there has been mention of induction, and I wouldn't want to consider that unless it was looking favorable. I'm considering doing evening primrose oil (and sex) to hopefully speed along the effacement/softening.

 

My doc also told me FTMs tend to efface before they dilate much, fwiw.

post #363 of 425

I really don't understand the point of cervical checks, I've never gotten them done "routinely" with any of my pregnancies.

Dialation/effacement can change pretty quickly or slowly, so a fingertip today could be 4cm tomorrow or you can walk around 2-4cm for weeks with no signs of labour.

post #364 of 425

Re: cervical checks

 

My doc doesn't do them at all unless asked for the reasons Tizzy mentioned, but she did ask if I wanted one on Monday since I had that crazy week of cramping and pelvic pain and so forth.  Hearing that I was completely closed and thick was helpful in a way.  Even though I know I could open up overnight, the probability is that this kid will probably stick around in there for another week or two at least.  That gave me a little mental stability to plan a few things.  So I think in general they're kind of worthless, but in Boots' case or just if you're sort of interested in knowing what's happening but willing to recognize that it doesn't mean much either way, they can be somewhat helpful.  I won't be getting anymore unless I start having tons of contractions or something.  Knowing what I know now is enough for the next few weeks.  I'll let the other signs tell me what I need to know.

post #365 of 425

I just had an "optional" cervical check done at today's appointment as well:  cervix is softened and only dilated a "fingertip" too.  I wanted to know my current state b/c my contractions/cramps/pressure were starting to get uncomfortable earlier this week.  And w/DH out of town until Tuesday, I thought this information would help me adjust my activity level over the weekend.  Although I know things can change overnight, at least I feel secure that labor is not imminent for me (at the moment).... and I won't be so nervous about leaving the house....  :)

post #366 of 425

Funny coincidence - I had my first cervical check today, too! My mw did it because she was already doing my Group B swab, and she knows I'm thinking about going to my brother's wedding in two weeks, so she offered to check to see how things were looking. I also got a surprise quick ultrasound, I think mostly because she had a student shadowing her. I decided I was okay with it, since it was really quick, and it confirmed that baby was head down. He's been so wiggly the last couple of days I was getting a little worried. As of now, mw says I'm about 1 cm dilated and 25% effaced, with a very soft cervix, and baby has not dropped. (That, I could have told you!) She thinks he's probably six pounds-ish now, and will probably be born pretty close to his due date, which is good, because dh is traveling next week, and then there's the wedding. Of course, things can and do change quickly, so there's no guarantees. But it's nice to hear my body's starting to get geared up for labor, but hasn't gone into overdrive yet. I'm going to decide to take comfort in that!

 

Also, I now at least have some diapers, pads, and a labor dress, and some receiving blankets (though they need washing) so I'm a little less panicked about labor. Still more to do, though!

post #367 of 425

I've declined cervical checks so far since I have a polyp on my cervix that will bleed. I will probably get one at 39 weeks (when I have an appointment with a midwife rather than a male OB) though if I have signs of labor before then, I imagine I'll agree to one.  

 

I'm 20 days from my due date and... not ready! So hopefully this baby is content to stay in for awhile longer. He doesn't seem to be working his way down & out yet (though sometimes I swear he's trying to break out through my belly). 

post #368 of 425
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post #369 of 425

Ahh, Boots what a great fun thread (how did I miss that one??).... I love your nursery pics, love the grey, and the decals and the books!!  I caught up on the posts and noticed that some of our other friends have posted pics of their nurseries there too - absolutely lovely!!

 

So I'm now a bit envious of those who have decorated nurseries for the little ones to come!  I wish we weren't moving so soon after baby's birth - or so frequently, that we are forced to keep our home & furnishings so "minimal".... I've always loved interior design and I feel like a huge passion of mine is stifled due to our nomadic lifestyle (it's for DH's work that we relocate so often).  Never in a million years did I envision my home to sport nothing but a used bassinet in our kitchen and a pack-n-play in our bedroom for my first-born..... *sigh*

post #370 of 425
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Aww, Newmumjoy, thank you! You are totally welcome to join the Bajingo club. The deal is it started as a TTC #1 in our 30s thread, so then we had a pregnant thread, and now there's a moms thread too! It's a great group of ladies and since it took us awhile to conceive I've been around there for awhile! We just had a new "member" from the July DDC join at 38 weeks then have her babe and we're so glad to have her. :) Let me know and I will add you as I am threadkeeping right now.

It must be really hard to move so much, honestly if you look at the list of life stresses it's really up there! How long do you usually spend in each location? I bet you will have adorable stuff for your baby even if you can't create a more permanent space, and of course tons of love.

post #371 of 425

Boots, your nursery looks great.  I like the book display a lot.

 

NewMumJoy, I'm envious, too.  Our baby's room is sort of...sad.  I had in mind to decorate it in yellow and blue and, for now, it's just blue.  We had the walls painted and that's it.  And, because we set up the crib in our room there isn't even a crib in there.  I planned on yellow curtains, maybe a rug, some art work, etc.  Well, at least you've got a good excuse for your non-nursery - I just procrastinate.  But, as she won't be sleeping in her room for a long time, I guess my new goal is to to finish it...some time next year?  Maybe I'll have the energy/desire to tackle some art, crafts, or sewing projects in a few months.

post #372 of 425

Boots - I love the nursery pics! The children's books look great on display.

 

I'm jealous of all the awesome nurseries, too. I'm using mine as motivation to get the rest of the house unpacked and organized, sort of save the best for last. I just have so many projects I want to do for the nursery, most of them will have to happen after baby is here which will be an interesting challenge. :) Can I sand a dresser w my baby in a wrap..? 2whistle.gif

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So I FINALLY started (not finished) packing my birth bag... and holy wow, the pads I'm packing for myself are basically as big as the diapers I am packing for my baby. Those newborn diapers are soooo tiny! Will he really be that small?!? I guess I'm just used to my 20+ lb 7.5 month-old-nephews. I know he'll be littler than that, but I forget just how incredibly little most newborns are. I also finally (mostly) assembled the cosleeper today, which was both harder and easier than I thought. I still need to wash the sheet so I can finish fully assembling it, and I have no intention of attaching it to the bed right now - I have a hard enough time getting in and out for my every-two-hours bathroom trips. But at least I feel a little more prepared. I finally got all the stuff together to make homemade laundry soap, and I made a batch last night. The first two rounds of washing with it are in the washer and dryer right now. If all seems well with them, I will get brave and wash my baby stuff in it. I'm not sure what I think will go wrong - basically the same recipe is in a million places on the internet, so I can't believe it just completely ruins clothes - but I'm nervous about it. Plus, how do I know if it's really working, other than things obviously still being stinky? Then again, how do I really know my regular detergent works, anyway? Most things that are visibly dirty, I don't expect my regular detergent to work on - I usually use a stain remover on them.

 

Anyway, that's enough stream-of-consciousness rambling from me. How are you ladies? Sounds like there is some more nesting going on out there. It won't be long until somebody has a baby! I think a lot of us are due mid-August, though.

 

Oh, one last exciting thing - I am GBS negative!! I am so excited about this, because I am a terrible stick - small veins that roll around and all that jazz. My birth class teacher did recommend that if I end up in the hospital, I ask them to use ultrasound to find a vein for the IV. Apparently some places do that. But I don't think the birth center has that capability, so it is a relief to know I shouldn't need an IV there.

post #374 of 425
Second time mom and just wanted to put a warning out there - you know how much cervical checks hurt? Yeah, membrane stripping is that x1000. I swear it was worse than labor. I know lots of you will be asked if you want it and it CAN help put you into labor if your body is ready, but I won't be doing it again unless everything else has failed and I am way overdue.
post #375 of 425

Thanks for that tip 1stTimeMama!  I'm 3 days away from EDD and have a doctor's checkup this afternoon - I know that he's going to suggest it and I've been told from several sources to avoid it if possible (I even requested to avoid it in my birth plan)..... Although I'm getting quite impatient!!  My next appt w/doc wouldn't be until next Friday and I would love to have this baby this weekend.... July 28 has been the magic date stuck in my head, since my BFP!!!!

 

Any BTDT Mamas have other suggestions for natural, effective DIY ways to get labor started that have worked (walking, DTD, spicy food, EP oil, RRL tea... anything else??).  My doula said to avoid castor oil as some of her clients just suffered the diarrhea but no labor from it, or that their labor started but then stopped....

post #376 of 425

My understanding is that the only real labor kickstarter with any scientific basis is sex.  The orgasm produces oxytocin to stimulate contractions and sperm contains prostaglandins to thin the cervix.  But even in that case, it won't work unless your uterus has built up enough oxytocin receptors, for example.  In your case, you're far enough along that may have an effect.  The other stuff (walking, bouncing on birth ball, etc.) can help by pushing the baby's head into the cervix, which can help with effacement, but again won't do much if you're not ready.  The problem with asking for personal stories (which I still do all the time) is that there's no control group (obviously), so there's no way of knowing when the woman would have gone into labor in the first place.  Very frustrating.  I'm still hanging out on the birth ball because it opens the hips, but I'm not expecting any miracles over here.

 

Are you having any contractions or anything exciting like that?  It's so crazy that it could be any day now for you!  I'll keep my fingers crossed for tomorrow!!!

 

(And everyone has to excuse my compulsive posting today.  I'm editing and therefore have to take a break every three paragraphs to scan the interwebs... Ugh.)

post #377 of 425

I really thought Borage oil capsules worked for my 2nd baby, but as LilyTiger says, it's impossible to know if it was just the right timing anyway. I believe the Boarge oil is stronger than EPO.   There's a third one that I cannot remember at this moment.

 

Regardless, I don't think I'd be impatient like that again unless I was getting close to the 42 week "deadline".

post #378 of 425
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Originally Posted by NewMumJoy View Post

Thanks for that tip 1stTimeMama!  I'm 3 days away from EDD and have a doctor's checkup this afternoon - I know that he's going to suggest it and I've been told from several sources to avoid it if possible (I even requested to avoid it in my birth plan)..... Although I'm getting quite impatient!!  My next appt w/doc wouldn't be until next Friday and I would love to have this baby this weekend.... July 28 has been the magic date stuck in my head, since my BFP!!!!

Any BTDT Mamas have other suggestions for natural, effective DIY ways to get labor started that have worked (walking, DTD, spicy food, EP oil, RRL tea... anything else??).  My doula said to avoid castor oil as some of her clients just suffered the diarrhea but no labor from it, or that their labor started but then stopped....

I'm mostly a lurker but just wanted to suggest blue/black cohosh. There's a lot of info online about it. Just like everything else though, it won't start labor unless your body is ready...I tried it with my first and she was still three weeks overdue. eyesroll.gif I've heard that it has worked for some though.

Incidentally, when I finally decided to have my membranes swept with both babies, I went into labor about 12 hours later. Coincidence? Probably. But who knows... redface.gif
post #379 of 425

Wellllll, it doesn't look like baby's going to come this weekend (at the moment).... I had my checkup today and doctor confirmed that I'm still only a "fingertip" dilated, although baby is really low and in good position.  Cervix is "softened" but he didn't tell me the % of effacement.  Yesterday, my BH were really strong and frequent, and there was so much tightness in my back and bladder that it was hard to walk (thus getting my hopes up).  Today I was on my feet all afternoon running final errands w/DH after my appointment and all that's resulted are some very sore knees and feet!  I'm getting oddly sharp "twinges" on my bladder now and then (that would make me yelp in pain), but I think it's just the baby's movements - since he's so low now.  I'm not really feeling enough "menstrual-y" "crampyness" to make me think of labor, yet.....

 

I do have RRL tea and EP oil here, but I don't think I'd get my hands on the Borage oil or Cohosh anytime soon.  (And yes, I do totally get that my body has to be "ready" to some degree for anything to make a difference).  But...... DH is around and definitely available - so sexytime is totally on the weekend agenda, hehe!!  thumb.gif

post #380 of 425

Well, NewMumJoy, if your baby doesn't end up coming (although I hope it does), at least you will have a good, sexy weekend! Enjoy! thumb.gif

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