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post #61 of 425

Just checking in to say I'm reading along, still feeling very so-so most the time, so not posting much. 9 weeks today!

 

Veritas - I don't think it's too early, but it probably depends on how good the ultrasound machine is. Good luck!

 

boots - I hope you are right and it is nothing - keep us posted!

post #62 of 425
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Hey Veritas, I had the same experience where they told me I was 7 weeks at my 8 week ultrasound. They were still able to find the heartbeat with the microphone on the vaginal ultrasound wand.

post #63 of 425

Yay, good news!  I so want to be able to hear it.  Just a couple more days!

post #64 of 425

I had my birth center visit today (which went mostly ok) and the midwife found the heartbeat on the doppler. She heard it, my partner heard it... I did not! I think I was listening too hard and missed it somehow. But I trust both of them, so I guess we've got a nice fast heartbeat! It only lasted for a couple seconds I guess, so the embryo must've moved away from the wand right away. 

 

They also got a heartbeat on my transvaginal ultrasound around 6 weeks, with a retroverted uterus even, so 7 weeks isn't too early to potentially see/hear the heartbeat. 

 

I'm starting to feel like I might be having a baby?? 

post #65 of 425
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Eleuthia, glad the heartbeat was normal, sorry you missed it! It does happen quickly. My uterus is retroverted, too, and no problems finding heartbeat.

 

Yesterday's ultrasound went well, the baby is doing well and measuring exactly 9 weeks, hb 175. Really it was more to look at my ovaries and see if they're fine. I do have a cyst on one side but that's not even the side with the pain, so we'll see.

 

monkey, sorry you're not feeling great. :(

 

 

post #66 of 425

Sorry you're still not feeling great, Monkey.

 

That's great, Eleuthia! I'm sorry you missed it, but it should be a relief that the others heard it. Makes it a little more real, right?!

 

Boots,that's great that the appointment went well. 

 

Sol_y_paz, I don't know if you saw my comment from the other day, but I hope things are going well with the surgery/in preparation for it.

 

I had a little nausea last night and was so worried it would evolve like the time I got so sick. Now I know which crackers work best for me (stone ground wheat), and probably what triggered it this time (bbq sauce and a certain veggie burger). I think I also know what signs to look for when I'm eating. Thankfully it passed.

I hate the idea of wasting food, but I think I'm just going to have to stop eating what gives me problems when I discover it, even if it is when I am in middle of a meal. 

post #67 of 425

 

Eluethia, sorry you missed the heartbeat :[

 

Boots I'm glad your appointment went well.  Ovary problems can be scary, I've had some issues over the years and it is definitely disconcerting.

 

Andaluza, I feel you, sometimes I just have to stop eating in the middle of things and just know I'm done.

post #68 of 425
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I had a little nausea last night and was so worried it would evolve like the time I got so sick. Now I know which crackers work best for me (stone ground wheat), and probably what triggered it this time (bbq sauce and a certain veggie burger). I think I also know what signs to look for when I'm eating. Thankfully it passed.

I hate the idea of wasting food, but I think I'm just going to have to stop eating what gives me problems when I discover it, even if it is when I am in middle of a meal. 



Me too! I usually eat leftovers for days, but right now I am giving myself permission to just do whatever it takes to get through these couple of months.  For me, that means eating out a lot more than usual and not eating the same thing more than once (so far, I can only handle things once or twice before they disgust me!)  This is just so weird-- it's honestly not what I imagined pregnancy to be like at all :)

post #69 of 425
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Lakeruby et. al, isn't it funny, I had no idea what pregnancy would be like, either. The thing that gets me the most that I wasn't prepared for is the fatigue. I had NO idea I'd be so exhausted in early pregnancy even when I get extra sleep.

 

 

post #70 of 425

Hi guys... I'm checking in too.  I've been quietly following along since the beginning of this thread, but haven't been sure what to say until now.  We had our first midwife appointment yesterday and got to hear the heartbeat (I'm 10w5d)!  So wonderful.  I've been managing my symptoms fairly well, but definitely have been hit hard with morning sickness (for me evening sickness) these past couple of weeks.  At this point I can count on throwing up between the hours of 4 and 10.  Hopefully as my first trimester comes to a close so will the sickness.  

 

Im glad to hear everyone is progressing well!  So exciting. 

post #71 of 425

Yay for hearing a heartbeat, justchanti!

 

dh and I had a conversation last night about various parenting topics, and it went better than I expected, overall. He's totally fine with having a sidecar crib (I didn't bring up co-sleeping in our bed, because we have trouble enough finding room for just the two of us in our bed!). He kind of wanted me to put a definite endpoint on the baby sleeping in our room, but we left it vague. I said probably by a year the baby could move out, but that we'd really have to see. I'm not wild about co-sleeping with a toddler, anyway, so that should probably work out. He's totally fine with exclusive breastfeeding, and said he figured I'd want to do that. He's also good with no CIO, as he doesn't want to listen to our baby cry, either. He was much less enthused about cloth diapering, though. He said he gave that about a 10% approval rating. He mostly just thinks it's gross. I'm not 100% sure I want to cloth diaper, so we'll see. I just feel horrible about all the landfill space. He says he figures we still have a lot more space for landfills. It's really strange - he works for renewable energy (wind power) and is very proud of that, and is in to all sort of "green" civil engineering type stuff, but a lot of day-to-day stuff just doesn't interest him. He loves paper towels and all other sorts of disposable cleaning/cooking items, he doesn't worry at all about cleaning chemicals, and is very dubious about my use of good ol' hot water to wipe down the table and counters. I guess he's much more "macro-green" and I'm a lot more "micro-green," which can be kind of frustrating. But anyway, we'll see about the diaper thing.

 

I was very hesitant to bring up circumcision with him. Honestly, I very much considered never bringing it up, since we're having a birth center birth, so no circumcision there. And I figured he'd probably honestly never think about it on his own. But I decided that wasn't the best way to handle it. So I brought up that I didn't want our sons circumsized, because I didn't see why we should cut perfectly healthy skin off our baby's body, and he was mostly okay with that. He asked if there wasn't some "medical reason" they normally did it, and I told him no, the AAP recommends against it, and it's not routinely done outside of the US. I did mention that there was some slight reduction in the risk of AIDS transmission for circumsized men, but that that really didn't justify it. I also mentioned that while our sons could always be circumsized later if they chose, you can't really uncircumsize someone. So he was pretty much on board (he isn't even sure if he's circumsized, though I'm 95% sure he is, so it's not a big identity thing with him), but I also threw in the kickers that a.) they don't anesthetize newborns for circumcision, and how would he like that done to him, and b.) circumcisions are occasionally botched, causing serious damage or even loss of "man parts". That definitely horrified him, so it looks like we won't have to rehash that discussion.

 

The delayed/selective vax issue started out somewhat well, but sort of degenerated into a stalemate because I didn't have a lot of facts handy to back me up, and dh pretty much assumes that if they give kids vaxes, they must be 100% safe. So we'll see how that goes after further research.

 

Anybody else have these kinds of discussions with their dh/dp? Any other issues I should think about bringing up before baby comes? (We've already argued about homeschooling a couple of times, so we're trying to shelve anything that isn't immediately relevant.)

post #72 of 425

My husband surprised me the other day by expecting me to breastfeed for 3 years.  I definitely plan to breastfeed, but didn't think I'd make it past a year or so, but he felt pretty strongly about it!

 

As for the diapering thing, I'm not sold on cloth...I know it's good to keep disposables out of the landfills, but cloth diapers use a ton of energy resources too - water and power for washing, plus energy for the delivery services if you use them.  Either way, there's an environmental impact.

post #73 of 425

I found that I was doing laundry a lot more often than before just by virtue of having a young baby, and since I didn't separate her diapers from her laundry (because EBF poop washes out so easily) the added cost was the same with disposables or with cloth. Buying cloth diapers saves a TON of money over the diapering years too, so factor that in (unless you end up addicted and buy way too many diapers ROTFLMAO.gif). Since we make our own detergent, we save a lot of money that way. And, I have to say, cloth diapered tushies are just way too adorable for words. Just some food for thought.  smile.gif

post #74 of 425

B and I have talked about parenting styles and we are mostly on the same page, and where we aren't he is super supportive of what I'd like to do. BF'ing is definitely in. I told him I planned on cloth diapering, and he wasn't as sure about that, but is okay with it, I think some of his concern is because he currently does all the laundry, and I fold it, and he is a bit hesitant about the poopy diapers. He is also fine with baby-wearing, minimal "baby stuff", and cosleeping (although I'm thinking sidecar, I move too much.) As far as circumcision, when we were first dating I thought, it is going to be hard to convince this guy to not circumcise a boy (not that I usually think that when I date someone, I just KNEW with him that he was the one), I don't even know why I thought he was that type, I guess because he initially comes off as very set in his ways and sort of mainstream.  Turns out he is not only the most supportive and understanding and patient man...he is uncircumcised and is completely grateful to his parents "for not mutilating my penis."  That turned out to be an easy conversation. thumb.gif

post #75 of 425
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Originally Posted by Veritas Vitae View Post

B and I have talked about parenting styles and we are mostly on the same page, and where we aren't he is super supportive of what I'd like to do. BF'ing is definitely in. I told him I planned on cloth diapering, and he wasn't as sure about that, but is okay with it, I think some of his concern is because he currently does all the laundry, and I fold it, and he is a bit hesitant about the poopy diapers. He is also fine with baby-wearing, minimal "baby stuff", and cosleeping (although I'm thinking sidecar, I move too much.) As far as circumcision, when we were first dating I thought, it is going to be hard to convince this guy to not circumcise a boy (not that I usually think that when I date someone, I just KNEW with him that he was the one), I don't even know why I thought he was that type, I guess because he initially comes off as very set in his ways and sort of mainstream.  Turns out he is not only the most supportive and understanding and patient man...he is uncircumcised and is completely grateful to his parents "for not mutilating my penis."  That turned out to be an easy conversation. thumb.gif



That's awesome! You should let him know that diapers really aren't much more trouble than normal laundry.  my son's dad handles it most of the time and he says it's no problem for him.  I've never found it a big deal either.  For the first year or the most part of it, you can just throw the whole diaper in the wash ( before they start any foods). Then after that get a diaper sprayer, you just spray it off in the toilet, its fast and easy, then you can throw it in the wash.

post #76 of 425

pennywhistle- there is always EC (elimination communication) that would make a HUGE positive impact on the environment vs cloth or disposables.

 

Part of the reason I chose cloth was because of the nasty chemicals in disposables, and I once imagined all of my first daughter's diapers in one huge pile. I have seen various reports that say one is better than the other but I feel like in the end cloth is more environmentally friendly. think of all the water and petroleum use din the production of disposables. every single diapers has to go through that. Yeah water is used in the production of cloth diapers but not petroleum and other chemicals, plus you can get a low water usage washing machine and that makes a difference. You are washing your clothes anyways. I have also read that cloth diapering uses as much water as a potty learned person uses flushing the toilet in a year. Plus you have transportation costs for every pack of diapers. With cloth they get delivered to you once. Plus personally I have found cloth works so much better..and it is super cute.

post #77 of 425

Even just doing casual EC helps-- we were never really entrenched in 100% EC, but I got in the habit of putting my daughter on the potty right after she woke up from about 3 months onwards, because she was consistently waking up dry, and going within a few minutes of waking. Even using one or two less disposables or washing one or two less diapers a day helps!! Plus, she's 21 months now and really loves going potty, so I see doing casual EC as a great bridge to potty learning in that she doesn't have that distrust of the potty that so many toddlers get, because she's been using it essentially her entire life.

post #78 of 425

I'd love to do EC, but am very not convinced that I could do it. But it is something I want to learn more about, so thanks for the reminder!

post #79 of 425

I always like to point out that EC is not necessarily an all-or-nothing thing. You can do it part time or casually!

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pennywhistle- there is always EC (elimination communication) that would make a HUGE positive impact on the environment vs cloth or disposables.

 

Part of the reason I chose cloth was because of the nasty chemicals in disposables, and I once imagined all of my first daughter's diapers in one huge pile. I have seen various reports that say one is better than the other but I feel like in the end cloth is more environmentally friendly. think of all the water and petroleum use din the production of disposables. every single diapers has to go through that. Yeah water is used in the production of cloth diapers but not petroleum and other chemicals, plus you can get a low water usage washing machine and that makes a difference. You are washing your clothes anyways. I have also read that cloth diapering uses as much water as a potty learned person uses flushing the toilet in a year. Plus you have transportation costs for every pack of diapers. With cloth they get delivered to you once. Plus personally I have found cloth works so much better..and it is super cute.


Hi, Thursday!  This is my twin sister, Thursday Girl, everyone. joy.gif She's my own personal natural mothering guru who has studied to become a birth doula and is now possibly considering (once her new kiddo gets older) becoming a midwife.  She likes to check in on how I'm doing here on Mothering, she introduced me to it. heartbeat.gif  

 

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