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post #81 of 87

aww sandy hug2.gif I've been there before -- complete with tiny tree and hardly enough money to get a holiday dinner together. Year before last, I was in graduate school and unemployed...I know that bummed out feeling of being happy it is the holidays but sad at the same time because it isn't the big family, tons of treats and snacks and presents and music celebration you had wanted it to be. Perhaps since it is your first Christmas with just the 3 of you - start a new little family tradition. Anything fun and cheap - cutting and hanging paper snowflakes, baking cookies together, whatever you can think of to make it feel special and Christmas-y for your family of 3. 

Bladder infections are the worst - I'm so sorry that one hit you especially right at Christmas. I know you're feeling relief now from the antibiotics, but I strongly recommend getting a box of AZO and keeping it in the house for those exact painful middle-of-the-night UTI moments you described. That stuff turns your pee neon orange, but brings relief QUICK. 

Wishing you and your family a fun and peaceful holiday. 

post #82 of 87

I hope you all have a wonderful day and even if it isn't exactly what you have envisioned - that good comes from it.

Janelle - Big hugs to you!

Sandy - Agree with what Meredith said about everything. Make your own traditions.

Lindsey - That picture could almost grace the cover of a card! Nice shot!

Maryamrose - knitting and chinese food and netflix sound wonderful lol

Today is Sabbath for my family. We are just relaxing, dinner is cooking itself in the roaster. We'll probably play some board games and watch a movie. Not sure, might tye dye with the kids or do a craft.

 

I am having to get up 3-4 times a night to pee. Is that even normal at this stage in the game? lol

post #83 of 87

Merry Christmas everyone!!   And Happy holidays to those who don't celebrate Christmas!!  I hope you can all take time to enjoy your day whether you are with your family or by yourself or with in-laws where you don't wanna be :P

 

Here is my Christmas picture -- my hubby playing fruit ninja on kinect lol:

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I have had a good time so far, and my hubby has been good with including me so far :)

 

Hugs to all!!!

post #84 of 87
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Sandy, hug2.gif  We've had our share of Christmases that were very humble... and in retrospect, they are the best Christmases.  I think being poor makes it more special... one Christmas was so hard we had just moved from one state to another and were living in this tiny, dumpy rental house.  It snowed a ton and Portland just isn't a city that has any budget to deal with snow, so the whole city basically shuts down.  We spent a ton of money of heating and energy costs-- and had barely anything for presents, etc.

 

I worried a lot about it, but the kids remember it as one of the best Holidays, ever.  They loved the snow.  We made a lot of cookies (sugar and flour are cheap during the holidays!), and drank a lot of tea and swiss miss, and watched movies from the library (we usually don't watch any movies) on a tiny TV we bought from good will for 5 dollars. 

 

Our house was small, and cozy! The snow made everything beautiful, and it didn't matter what we had, because we had lots of time for each other... 

 

So I hope in the future you can look back on this Christmas as something magical, and maybe a little unexpected.

 


I hope you heal from the UTI, soon! 

post #85 of 87

Sandy, Christmas can be so hard when you don't have the money to do it up the way you feel is the "proper" way. I really struggle with Christmas because my husband HATES it, and hates presents and gift-giving and disappointment and whining. I grew up with Christmas... for awhile... until we ended up also incredibly poor, living in a house that was one giant heat sieve and spent a fortune on heating costs. My family lived in that house for 7 years, and by about year 3 my mother gave up on Christmas. We never had the money for presents, a tree was an extra, and if we had a Christmas dinner it usually had to be donated by someone, like the church. I don't remember any of the traditions that we used to celebrate, and to me Christmas/winter is depressing, a let down, usually induced a lot of ranting about commercialization. 

Also doesn't help that my parents eschewed traditional Christianity and follow a semi Jewish....something-or-other.... so the idea of talking about Jesus, born in a stable, yaddah yaddah just seems totally wrong (because if I know it's not true- he was not born in December- isn't that the same as knowingly lying to my kids?)

 

Anyway, this giant thing is to say that I feel that making your own traditions is important- a lot of baking, creating, family time, coziness, homemade advent, something less about the trappings of the day and more about the build up? We didn't do ANY of that this year because I was working so danged much and I never had the energy or the time to bake or do anything creative or family oriented (unless cleaning the house counts?) and I need to do some serious advanced planning for next year because I've realized it's all up to me. If I don't want it to be about the presents- or lack of, in our case!- then we need to make it about something else.

 

All that said, our Christmas went well. Lots of food and family time. I still don't really "get" Christmas so it feels weird to me, but it was enjoyable.

 

Sounds like decent Christmases were had by others as well- hope it went well for everyone!

post #86 of 87

Thanks to everyone for the kind and supportive posts! We ended up having a very nice Christmas. DS and I had spent the week leading up to Christmas making decorations and ornaments and popcorn garland for the tree, as well as baking, and that was a lot of fun. We had a great day, and opened presents from relatives, so DS got some new toys to play with, and it was fun watching him. My parents are coming on the 30th and I'm really looking forward to it.

 

The hardest thing for me this pregnancy has been setting limits for myself. I am SUCH a people pleaser and hate disappointing people, but I get so easily exhausted and burned out this pregnancy. It's hard to stop myself from wanting to do everything for DS and DH and wanting to do it perfectly. The worst of it is, DH really has no sense of empathy for physical limitations or illness, so we get into a lot of fights about this.

 

The baby is moving and and kicking a lot, which brings me so much happiness!

 

I hope everyone had an amazing and happy holiday!

post #87 of 87

 

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Also doesn't help that my parents eschewed traditional Christianity and follow a semi Jewish....something-or-other.... so the idea of talking about Jesus, born in a stable, yaddah yaddah just seems totally wrong (because if I know it's not true- he was not born in December- isn't that the same as knowingly lying to my kids?)

 

LOL Grace - you made me laugh.

 

 

 

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