I talked with my mw today. Upthread I mentioned that I would like to UC, but dh is not on board (even though we've done it before and it went great). However, in my heart I'm still planning a UC, so I'm going to stick around this thread as it gets into full swing.
I am also doing mainly UP. But I know my dh will not be comfortable with this either, so I talked with the mw we use and her and I agreed upon three visits only. One at 13 weeks, 25 and 36. I'm comfortable with this.
At my first visit with her, I will explain my desire for a UC and be very honest about the possibility of not calling her. I will also talk to her about if she is her, just staying in the other room while I birth and simply be there for my dh's peace of mind. I know she will be fine with all of this. (She's also a friend and whom I mentored under when I was training to be a doula).
So all of this feels very good to me.
Now to get the convo going I'd love to hear why you ladies believe in and are comfortable with UP/UC. My reasons are:
1. I trust birth.
2. I have a lot of knowledge about pregnancy and birth and feel totally comfortable in using it on myself. I trust me.
3. I have a lot of knowledge about nutrition and feel comfortable in my ability to guide have excellent nutrition during pregnancy; which I do believe can make all the difference in the world.
4.I don't trust the medical community, in general, but definitely not for pregnancy and birth (unless a true emergency arose).
5. Spiritual beliefs lead me to UC/UP
Those are my main reasons. There are maybe a couple of more, but these are the ones that stand out to me as most important for me to UP/UC I'd love to hear your reasons for choices. Not for debate, for interest and support only.