12/19 Weekly Chat Thread « Back to Group Discussions

[Knitting Mama]

Important Dates:

Sol_y_Paz, appointment 12/19
Ninetales, appointment 12/19
ainh, appointment 12/22

Aimee, dating ultrasound 12/22
Thebyr, CNM appointment 12/27
monkeyscience, birth center tour 12/27
Sallyrae17, ultrasound 1/4

andaluza, ultrasound 1/5

LilyTiger, ultrasound 1/5
eleuthia, birth center visit 1/10

dovemama, ultrasound 1/12

Mama Chickadee, appointment 1/18

It's after midnight on the east coast, so instead of posting about my new appointment I figured I'd start the new chat thread.  Did I miss anyone's appointments? I have my dating ultrasound coming up on Thursday morning, and I am very excited for it. I feel like I am right and I will be 7.5 weeks or so then, but it will be nice to have confirmation!

I'm feeling pretty good right now. Nausea comes and goes, as do cravings and aversions. Some days I can eat whatever, others, I can hardly hold down crackers. I think stress may be the biggest reason I have issues when my niece is here, even though I love her and she's an awesome baby. Just taking care of an infant and a toddler and being pregnant is stressful, I guess!

Edited by Knitting Mama - 12/22/11 at 11:41am

[~Demeter~]

I'm walking around all day nauseous. Doesn't matter what I eat or don't eat.. I'm hoping this doesn't escalate!

Hubby bought me steak tonight and I had that for my late dinner. It was delicious and definitely hit the spot, we don't eat steak very often and it was so worth the splurge. I think this right around the time with my last baby that I craved steak as well, must be something important going on around now that I need extra protein and iron? lol

I'm a little wistful for all of you with early u/s appts... it's always so nice and reassuring to see baby and heartbeat, I'm still not sure what the heck I'm doing in terms of care. Who I want to see... and I really don't know how to announce to family that we're living with right now. It'd be kind of obvious something is going on if I start going to the doc/mw regularly, you know. I'm not ready to spill the beans yet at all. I haven't even told my kids yet... and usually they are the first to know besides my husband. I think a part of me also doesn't want to announce yet just in case something happens. I don't want to go through others disappointment in me if it's unnecessary... and the pity that follows isn't much better. I miscarried 2 years ago around this time and that's exactly how it all went down... I was pretty freaked out and surprised about the pregnancy and really needed a support system but wound up with disapproval and disappointment instead and then I miscarried and it was just rough all around. I'm really aiming to feel zen about the direction this pregnancy takes... whatever happens, I'm ready? :)

[IntuitiveJamie]

CM- looking forward to finding our your edd. I feel like I've been waiting for it for weeks.

Demeter- I'm intentionally not planning on getting any mw care until sometime in 2nd trimester. I'm doing most my own prenatal care. I wouldn't worry too much. But I do hear you that not having a decision made feels a bit unsettling. Also, the telling of the family sounds stressful. So do you think you will still be living with them once this babe is born?

My goal this week is to quit feeling so yucky. Keep my boys occupied and get to Xmas day. Then I can really relax or feel yucky if need be, b/c dh will be home for a week and the kids will have new things to keep them occupied for a few days. The excitement will wear off after that, but at least for a couple of days I can really just do nothing. Or maybe I'll feel good. Who knows. I'm just so so so glad we are buying xmas dinner and I'm not making it! Smartest idea ever this year!

Here's to a good week for all of us!

[~Demeter~]

I'm really unsure where we'll be once babe is born, part of me feels like we'll likely be here still... but wistful for our own place. I'm glad we're out of the situation that we were in and that we had a safe place to land but really, really crave my own space already. As much as I know it was necessary to come here to move forward, it feels like a few steps backward in life... you know?

I slept wrong and must have had a muscle spasm in my sleep... my back is all twisted up this morning!

[BaileyB]

Demeter I also have been craving red meat and usually do around this time. I am glad cuz that should be a good sign for me! I had a 1/3# hamburger patty for late supper followed by a plain hot dog bun with ketchup. Also I can completely understand wanting your own space. I am definitely someone who need my own space a lot of the time. We lived with DH's parents for 6 months when we were waiting to move into our house and they are great to live with but it was still annoying to not have our own space.

Jamie I am probably going to do most of my own prenatal care too. Even before we were officially TTCing I was feeling that I couldn't stand the thought of being poked and prodded and analyzed this time.

Ugh! DD is sick and crabby! Its 9 and I still haven't had breakfast and I got up at 6ish. My stomach hurts I am so hungry. I'm not usually a big breakfast person so it is hard to get use to needing breakfast ASAP in the morning.

[andaluza]

Hi Cecilia's mom, thanks for starting the new weekly thread!  I can really understand why the childcare sounds stressful for you! I hope you find a happy balance soon!

Also, I mentioned in the last thread my important date, which is Jan 5 for ultrasound, but I didn't know how to get it added to the front of the thread. Can you do that? 

Wow, Demeter, I can't fathom how people with whom you had shared something so personal could be so insensitive when the pregnancy didn't work out. I am sorry you had to go through that. We shared right away with close family, since this is our first (and despite our ages, we are the first on both sides to ttc), we couldn't contain out excitement, and everyone knew we were trying. I have since questioned the wisdom of that, but I decided that I would need support if something doesn't work out (we are far from all family and don't have many close friends here, either). No friends know yet. I do wish that we had been more assertive with the people we told that we wanted to keep it only in family, but my elderly father-in-law has since told half the village where he lives and my sister-in-law (guess where she heard it??) wrote something on my facebook wall about the pregnancy (which I immediately deleted and wrote her a personal message). The saving grace is that I suck at facebook and don't have any work people on it, so hopefully no one saw the fleeting message. Since they are in another country, it seems unlikely that the news will get out around here without our knowledge, but I guess once you let the news out, it is impossible to control it fully. Sorry about your back!

I hope you start feeling better, Jame! I hope you have a peaceful week, too!

Bailey, I hope you get some food soon!

I am having more waves of slight discomfort with my stomach. Sometimes it feels like indigestion or a pit in my stomach. I had a banana with breakfast and that seems to have sparked a bit of nausea, but it's not a full-blown "I wan to vomit" feeling. I also did the Detect5 pregnancy test this morning and the test line did appear on the 10000 level (which I calculated it should by now based on my blood beta on 14dpo), but it's super light. The control lines themselves are very light on the higher levels, which is annoying, but I guess good because otherwise I would be more anxious with the light test lines. This is not something I would recommend anyone purchase. I had bought it in my ttc phase from early pregnancy tests.com when they had a sale. Since I only got one beta, I decided I would take it to give me more peace of mind, but it hasn't done so, necessarily. Plus, I don't think blood and urine betas are really the same thing, which I didn't know at the time. I just need to focus on work this week, family next week, and then work again until my ultrasound on Jan 5 (soooo much easier said than done!).

Have a great week, ladies!

ETA updates from people who posted since I started writing!

[LilyTiger]

Aimee, both Andaluza and I have U/S on Jan. 5 (unless hers changed). 

I'm feeling pretty good so far.  I re-slipped a disc in my back on Monday, so this week was completely shot as far as productivity goes, but I'm back on track today, hoping to increase my exercise (because I've already gained 4(!!!) pounds) and get on track with a project I'm working on. I'm assigning myself little assignments for each day. 

Food aversions are making me cranky, and there seems to be no rhyme or reason to any of them.  Right now nothing sounds palatable, but I need to eat before I feel even worse. 

Otherwise though, I'm doing well.  Excited and nervous as I move through the 7th week.  My second period would be arriving on the 20th, so I'm hoping once that milestone goes by, I'll feel a little more secure.

[LilyTiger]

Whoops, cross-post with Andaluza!  Heh.

[IntuitiveJamie]

Bailey- I am same way. I do not like to eat before 10am usually. Having to wake up and eat is almost torturous!

[Knitting Mama]

Originally Posted by LilyTiger 

Aimee, both Andaluza and I have U/S on Jan. 5 (unless hers changed). 

Gotcha! 

I've been struggling with Cecilia's sleep lately, but not in the traditional sense. Mostly what I am struggling with is letting her sleep in too late. The reason it's a struggle is because she is very set in time between nap and bedtime-- she won't go down for a nap any less than 4 hours after getting up and she won't go to bed any less than 8 hours after nap. So it's 8:30 am now, and if I were to wake her up, she'd nap around 12:30, probably get up at 2:30 (if I woke her), and then bed at 10:30 pm. I hate having to wake her up. I feel like her body knows how much sleep it needs, and I shouldn't interfere. I keep hoping she'll wake up naturally, but I guess I have to accept that I have to wake her if I want her to shift towards an earlier schedule. It's a self-imposed schedule, by the way, I don't really like the idea of 'scheduling' babies, LOL. I just wish bedtime was more mutable, that it didn't take her 8 hours to finally be tired again. She's not even two yet, for crying out loud! But every time we've attempted a less-than-8-hours-later bedtime, it's resulted in disaster.

[andaluza]

Thanks, LilyTiger for remembering my date, too, and Cecilia's Mom for adding us!! 

[BaileyB]

CM When did she go from 2 naps to 1? DD is 10 months and I thought it was around 12 months but I wasn't sure.

[Knitting Mama]

She was about 10 months. It's different for every baby, from what I hear.

[Lisanne]

So many appointments! I probably won't be seen until February and that seems so far away. I'm still not feeling too bad, but the morning sickness didn't really hit until 5 weeks with both girls so I'm not worried yet. I seem to feel worse in the afternoon and I'm really hungry all the time. I'll have to figure out how to hide the belly that I'm sure I'll get quickly if I keep eating like this. This is a busy week with babysitting almost everyday, the dentist and a couple hours in the office on Wednesday, and then Christmas.

[BaileyB]

Every once in a while she will take her first nap really late and I will think she is only going to take 1 nap but then by 6 she pretty much collapses into a nap and wakes after 7 and it totally screws up bedtime. I am excited for when she is down to 1 nap though. Maybe she will go to 1 nap when she gets caught up on her sleep when her cold is gone. She is having a terrible time sleeping with such a stuffy nose and cough. I think yesterday she took like 3 or 4 tiny naps and she can hardly drink any of her bottle. DO you co-sleep with CC? I am wondering because of her late bedtime. My friend and I both put our kids to bed at 9 or 10 and a lot of other mom's we know think that is crazy and put their kids to bed at 7. I'm glad to see we aren't the only ones with late kids' bedtimes.

[BaileyB]

I totally hear you Lisanne on the busy week. After having such a busy summer and fall I was looking forward to 'hibernating' this winter but I haven't slowed down at all. There is hardly a day that DD isn't taking one of her naps in the car on the way to something. I have realized though that once this new baby is born it will be a lot harder to go anywhere on the fly, so I am kind of enjoying running errands with DD and taking her out for lunch just the 2 of us, since I know it won't last long.

[Knitting Mama]

Originally Posted by BaileyB 

Every once in a while she will take her first nap really late and I will think she is only going to take 1 nap but then by 6 she pretty much collapses into a nap and wakes after 7 and it totally screws up bedtime. I am excited for when she is down to 1 nap though. Maybe she will go to 1 nap when she gets caught up on her sleep when her cold is gone. She is having a terrible time sleeping with such a stuffy nose and cough. I think yesterday she took like 3 or 4 tiny naps and she can hardly drink any of her bottle. DO you co-sleep with CC? I am wondering because of her late bedtime. My friend and I both put our kids to bed at 9 or 10 and a lot of other mom's we know think that is crazy and put their kids to bed at 7. I'm glad to see we aren't the only ones with late kids' bedtimes.

Yep, we do cosleep. We have a sidecarred crib that went largely unused for the first 18 months of Cecilia's life, but I've started putting her in it when she goes to sleep lately. I don't care if she moves to cuddle me when she wants to, but I want her to be comfortable sleeping in the sidecar as well as in the bed so that when this baby comes, she can be between us and Cece can be okay with being on the side. I would love for Cece to go down at 7, but that won't happen until she stops napping altogether (on the rare days that she doesn't nap at all she goes to bed early), and I am SO not ready for that to be a full-time thing! 

[Sol_y_Paz]

Ultrasound today, saw the baby today and heard the strong heartbeat, I started crying I was so happy.  

Edited by Sol_y_Paz - 12/22/11 at 8:27am

[Willovia]

Originally Posted by Sol_y_Paz 

Ultrasound today, saw the baby today and heard the strong heartbeat, I started crying I was so happy.  

 Now that's enough to make me cry...
 

[andaluza]

¡Felicidades, Sol_y_paz!    Only 17 days til mine!!