Originally Posted by BennyPai
She looked me in the eye and said, "You've really got your hands full." I nodded, and she went on, "That's three over there and you have another on the way. I'm not passing judgement, but ..." and she trailed off.
My kiddos were being relatively well-behaved: quiet, not fighting, not making a mess or running around. At that moment, they were even all seated and waiting patiently.
I'm rarely able to think of a good response at times like that. Driving away, I imagined telling her, "I'm thankful every day that they are full and not empty." My children are not some overwhelming inconvenience. I have welcomed each child into our family with love, and I couldn't imagine life without any of them. Who is this woman to think she can consider judging me for growing a family?
Oh, gosh, I KNOW. I continue to get people feeling "sorry" for me since I have 5 girls and only girls. The cleaning woman at the hospital asked me what my other kids were (gender), and when I told her all girls, she said, "Well, at least they are healthy."
Now I just laugh when people say things like that, and I ask, "Why?" That one question never fails. Since I say it laughing, it doesn't sound mean, but it always puts them on the spot, and they always backpedal.
Don't be afraid to ask someone "why" when they say something like that . . .it makes them take responsibility for saying something out loud that they should have just thought!