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[cwill]

Originally Posted by jesusfollower 

We're still hanging out here. My mom has been here since Tuesday evening. Nothing. I'm praying for a Christmas baby! Had a terrible headache yesterday and took my first Tylenol since getting pregnant.

Christmas is the only day I would rather not have the baby.  But not for any real reason because we're not religious at all.  I'm trying to get over that hang up.

It's snowing today and now I'm having visions of going for long, but not too long hikes in the snow tomorrow and Monday while DH has off.  There are a few advantages to remaining pregnant.

Dinner tonight with friends with a new babe of their own (fun!), then back to seclusion until the little one arrives, I think (hope!).

[Ruthiegirl]

I am still hanging in there too.  Lots of heavy contractions and almost went in Thursday night, but my uterus is just playing games with me.  

Tonight is really the only night I hope to not go into labor simply because I will have to call in support from a friend who has children of her own.  I know she would be here in a heartbeat, I would rather not have to do that to her.  Better to spend a sweet Christmas morning with her own little people.  

But for now, just living with contractions and trying to be patient.  

[Azadehhast]

I'm back! I just discovered there is Internet here, and I'm so pleased, because I've been missing you all!

And I'm not pregnant any more! Labour started around midnight on the 21st, and went on and on and on because baby was malpositioned and I had the strongest bag of waters ever. Transferred to hospital and ended up with a c-sect 12 hours after that, when baby's heart rate was dramatically decelerating. So 50 hours labouring, including two full nights, and baby born just after 1am on the 23rd. Totally the hardest, hardest, hardest experience of my life!

But we have a perfect, strong and healthy boy! We've named him Winter Rhys, and he's oh so wonderful. And I'm SO happy not to be labouring anymore. Oh my god.

Hooray for the other recent babies!

[Azadehhast]

Ok, back to grumble grumble (and cry a bit, because I think I've slept 4 hours since labor began, and I kind of can't not cry).
We're still in the hospital, desperately looking forward to going home tomorrow (happy Christmas!!). I have the sweetest, lovey-est baby ever. He came out after that crazy birth, cuddled skin-to-skin with DH while I was being put back together, and was instantly looking to nurse, and soaked DH's chest from rooting about. His first latch was perfect--this baby KNOWS how to feed! Only, he doesn't sleep unless he's glued to me...he feels lonely alone in the stupid hospital cot, and flails and fusses on DH. Tiny babies NEED their mamas, and should sleep with them! So, finally, we just cuddled down to sleep, and the damn nurse comes in and freaks that he's sleeping quite safely next to me in bed, insists we put him in the cot, so he gets upset, won't sleep, has to feed again. And so if I want him to sleep, I'll just have to stay awake for a 5th night in a row. How I can't wait to go home

Also....ok, just plain whining, but I had the labor that lasted for all of eternity, and after pregnancy and that, I'm just so desperate not to feel physically miserable anymore, but now I've had a stupid hole cut in my belly, and I'm totally feeble, and my legs are so so so so swollen. I'm going to feel human again someday, right?

[lotus1]

Congratulations Azadeh and welcome Winter Rhys!!

That sounds like such a long time to be in labour. You've been through a lot and you will feel normal again!

Hope you get to go home soon and get some rest!

[onetwoten]

nak

*hugs* It does get better. We have a baby too who won't sleep except on us, and we're still navigating the waters, but it gets easier bit by bit, and suddenly an hour of sleep ends up feeling like you've gotten 4, and then baby looks up at you and smiles after screaming bloody murder, and suddenly it's all worth it again. 

FWIW I was at a pretty baby friendly hospital and I slept with her not on me, but I was flat on my back, with my legs spread a bit, and she slept in between my legs with her head pretty much on my crotch, so she was slightly reclined. She loved it and was one of the only positions she's sleep in. The nurse came in, and just stood in the doorway with her mouth gaping open. DH had to tell her there was no way we were moving a sleeping baby. 

I can't imagine how sleep deprived you are mama. The day I went into labor, I got up at around 10am- which sounds like lots, but means I probably got about 5 hours of sleep that night. I didn't sleep all day, then got about 2 hours or nap time at dinner, then fell asleep at 1130- and woke up an hour later to my water breaking and contractions. I labored all night/day long, had her at 3:22pm, and then didn't get a chance to nap either, and she cried pretty much all night long. I finally napped about 10am the next morning... so I'd been up 48 hours with about 3-4 hours of sleep in total, plus laboring in there. That was bad enough, so I can't imagine how bad you feel. The sleep will come eventually. 

[Kimcarrots]

I believe the worst part of me cesarean birth wasn't the operation - it was the (one night) hospital stay!  It was hot, I couldn't sleep, I had a catheter in, they kept checking my vitals - OY! I'm getting PTSD just thinking about it!

Your body will come back my dear and quicker than you think!  My girl was born on the 7th and I am feeling great - walking and baking and back to normal (other than the sleep deprivation!).  

I would suggest some kind of a belly binder - this helped me be more mobile since my hands were free - even a stretchy cloth tied tight around your middle will help.

Rest, nurse, cuddle, B vitamins, some iron, and probiotics to rebuild your intestinal tract (I am also drinking Kombucha to do this but yogurt helps too).

Happy healing and loving on that little one!

Best,

Kimberly

Originally Posted by Azadehhast 

Ok, back to grumble grumble (and cry a bit, because I think I've slept 4 hours since labor began, and I kind of can't not cry).
We're still in the hospital, desperately looking forward to going home tomorrow (happy Christmas!!). I have the sweetest, lovey-est baby ever. He came out after that crazy birth, cuddled skin-to-skin with DH while I was being put back together, and was instantly looking to nurse, and soaked DH's chest from rooting about. His first latch was perfect--this baby KNOWS how to feed! Only, he doesn't sleep unless he's glued to me...he feels lonely alone in the stupid hospital cot, and flails and fusses on DH. Tiny babies NEED their mamas, and should sleep with them! So, finally, we just cuddled down to sleep, and the damn nurse comes in and freaks that he's sleeping quite safely next to me in bed, insists we put him in the cot, so he gets upset, won't sleep, has to feed again. And so if I want him to sleep, I'll just have to stay awake for a 5th night in a row. How I can't wait to go home
Also....ok, just plain whining, but I had the labor that lasted for all of eternity, and after pregnancy and that, I'm just so desperate not to feel physically miserable anymore, but now I've had a stupid hole cut in my belly, and I'm totally feeble, and my legs are so so so so swollen. I'm going to feel human again someday, right?

[Kimcarrots]

Sorry - I should also say - "I'm back to normal" but my scar isn't - numb and such.  I plan to start massaging it soon.  

But I had pelvic floor damage with my other three births and I planned this cesarean so I knew what I was getting into.  So "normal" postpartum is different for me.  With my tears I'm usually not walking and baking now - not even sitting.  So this is nice for me.

Again, happy healing!

Kim

[mammamo]

Congrats!!! Azad and ((HUGS)) Hope you get to bust outta the clink soon ;) It's awful in the hossy!!

I'm still pregnant, I assumed I would be...at least through Christmas. DH doesn't want to go back to work tuesday so I *have* to go into labor soon.

[jesusfollower]

Merry Christmas to everyone who is celebrating today! Azedehhast, I was so glad to hear from you... sorry for the hard experience, but I'm so glad you have your baby! Yay!

Can I be next? Please, please? =) (I know there are mamas who *should* go before I do, so let's just have a big birthing party!)

[LilMomma83]

Congrats Azadeh! Some sleep will really help...

So my little girl finally gained (2oz up from her lowest weight) I typed a detailed update in the thread I linked earlier...basically she needed a small latch adjustment and lots of work to keep her awake so I am back to being super tired - I've been an all day buffet lol...but its worth it knowing that she is gaining now.

Our relatives are gone so I can relax more...even though I let my nipples hang out, sat on the sofa and regularly retreated to my room to sleep it wasn't quite the same as having the house to ourselves.

Oh, I also did not buy enough newborn diapers! DD keeps leaking out the legs because I am having to use smalls and she isn't quite thick enough in the legs for them! Oh well!

Come on babies.........

[dsb76]

Congrats Azedehhast on your baby!

If you haven't checked it out all ready there is a nice cesarean forum with a thread on what to expect after a c-section.  I thought it was useful to read about other people's experiences.

I am so glad the holiday is over.  Schlepping a 2 year old and 2 babies plus food and gifts even just across town was exhausting.  Plus Max spits up constantly and always looks so uncomfortable after eating :(

Today is the aftermath.  It looks like a tornado of paper, trash, small toys and dirty baby clothes hit the downstairs.

I need more coffee (maybe with a shot in it - kidding)

[Ruthiegirl]

Congratulations Azedehhast!!!!!!   Rest, rest, rest -- that sounds like a long, tough labor.  

Today is my due date and I am shocked to be here -- after weeks and weeks of strong contractions, I really thought I would have gone into labor by now.   I am feeling okay -- big and tired, but fine.  Now that Christmas is over, I just want to have this baby and start the next big phase of our lives.  I have an appointment Thursday and I know my ob will start talking induction or at least non-stress tests.  I keep telling myself to be strong-- no inductions!!!!!  

But for now, I am headed to the pool for some exercise and then a nice nap with my 3 year old.  And waiting, waiting, waiting....

[Azadehhast]

Oh, thank you so much, everyone! Yesterday was such a rough day, with too much physical activity, too much frustrating condesention from hospital people who apparently think every new mother is a total moron, and much too much exhaustion. But my milk came in in the morning, Winter nursed little and slept TONS, we came home around lucnchtime (!!!!!!) to find my mom had stocked the freezer with a weeks' food and cleaned the house before going home, and then I held my little lovey baby in my arms and slept in my own bed, and I think I've gotten around 6 hours now. I feel so much better! SO much better. Last night I just wanted to sob and sob, but that would make me hurt more, so then I wanted to cry all the more. Oh, sigh......what a wonderful baby and husband I have.

Hugs to everyone-- mamas still waiting and mamas recovering from busy celebrations, and everyone else.

[BennyPai]

Congratulations on becoming a mother, Azadehhast!

  I'm glad you're back home to enjoy your family and snuggle that sweet baby boy.  When my first was born in a hospital, we ended up staying for three days -- the constant interruptions alone can take away so much opportunity for rest.  I hope you will get plenty of rest, and that you will heal as quickly as possible. 

Welcome to the world, Winter!

P.S.  Those postpartum hormones may also be partially responsible for those tears.  I was a sobbing mess every time the pediatrician tried to talk to me about DD1's innocent heart murmur -- my DP had to take over for me to avoid us being bullied, and I'm so glad he did!

 ... Still no goings-on in my neck of the woods.  40 weeks, 5 days today.  During dinner last night my contractions picked up and were very strong.  It lasted through the night, but it has slowed down today.  Ugh. 

[jesusfollower]

Well, looks like tomorrow will be the big day for me. I have pre-eclampsia. I'm actually kinda torn about it... on the one hand, I hate that I'll have to be induced and have more interventions than I wanted. On the other hand, knowing that the waiting will be over is wonderful!

I'm just a little nervous about pain. I really wanted to do this without any pain medication, but I know Pitocin contractions are going to be stronger and more painful than natural ones. I'm going to do my best, but I'm also going to be realistic and realize my plans may not be feasible. I do have a very supportive OB and hospital. Hoping for the best!

[LilMomma83]

I'll be thinking of you Jesusfollower!!!

[BennyPai]

Originally Posted by LilMomma83 

I'll be thinking of you Jesusfollower!!!

I'm thinking of you, too, Jesusfollower, and one of my favorite birth mantras:  "I will soon be holding my baby."  --You will soon be holding your baby!  

My contractions started getting stronger again tonight:  a cruel manifestation of prodromal labour.  I am officially ignoring the contractions, etc. until active labour presents itself in an in-my-face manner.  We have our 41 week visit with the midwives tomorrow.  I'm going to log off and try to rest.

[mammamo]

Jesusfollower- wishing you all the best!

Bennypai- that's how I am too, I don't even tell my DH anymore if I'm having contractions because he's getting his hopes up and I *know* it's not real yet. *sighs* Poor guy doesn't think anything is going on down there, lol.

[SierraBella]

Originally Posted by jesusfollower 

Well, looks like tomorrow will be the big day for me. I have pre-eclampsia. I'm actually kinda torn about it... on the one hand, I hate that I'll have to be induced and have more interventions than I wanted. On the other hand, knowing that the waiting will be over is wonderful!

I'm just a little nervous about pain. I really wanted to do this without any pain medication, but I know Pitocin contractions are going to be stronger and more painful than natural ones. I'm going to do my best, but I'm also going to be realistic and realize my plans may not be feasible. I do have a very supportive OB and hospital. Hoping for the best!

I hope everything goes well for you! I'll be thinking of you!