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post #21 of 26

Hi friends,

My youngest of 5  is 3 and is not potty trained and I am not at all worried about it. Actually it is easier for little ones to wear diapers, in my opinion.

Sometimes as Mom's we are in a hurry to cross things off of our lists to move on to another milestone. The list never ends it just keeps going and going.

Try to enjoy each moment and phase knowing that it will all work out. We can all try our best not to judge other Moms whose children may be doing things at different times.

Please don't feel bad if your toddler is still wearing a diaper.It will happen, and if it happens at the right time all will go smoothly.

 

post #22 of 26
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Just wanted to post a brief update. Last night and this morning my son peed in the potty. YAY! Three weeks from his third birthday. I am excited but also reminding myself to be patient, not push him too fast, and not have huge expectations right away. However, for the first time ever, he "gets" that he is supposed to pee, and he has actually peed. I feel like we have crossed a huge gulf. Thank you everyone for your support. I will keep you posted on his progress.

 

 

post #23 of 26

Yay Sandy! Mine just started using it yesterday as well! He only will at home and if he is bare butted, but he has been pooping and peeing by himself. Put anything on his butt though and he will go in it. It is a start!

post #24 of 26

OMG, are you me?  Seriously, I read your post and I did a double take thinking, is this a post I wrote and forgot about?  My dd turned 3 in late September.  I was pregnant and crabby all summer and didn't have the energy or patience to deal with potty training accidents.  Dd had been using the potty occasionally and even seemed almost trained some days/weeks, but I was pretty casual about it.  I figured she would regress anyway in October when her baby brother was born, so I thought we'd just work on it a couple months later.

 

Well, now it's a couple months later, and dd has lost all interest.  She's in preschool three days a week, and she will keep a pullup dry at school, and her teachers take her to the potty a couple times during the morning.  But at home she won't tell me she has to go, or she refuses when I take her, or she just pees in her pullup.  The biggest problem....she has no interest in pooping in the potty, or maybe no awareness of when she needs to, and I never seem to catch her when it's happening and take her to the toilet. I have very little tolerance for pooping accidents at the moment, I hate cleaning up the mess.  I know I'm making it worse if I get upset, so I try to stay calm, but I'm just getting so frustrated!  We have tried the one-day method where the child "teaches" a wetting doll to use the potty (this method worked great for my older ds), we've tried star charts, we've tried giving m&ms for using the potty....dd just loses interest with all these things after a few tries.

 

My dd is also bright and articulate and in the 90th percentile for height, so people assume she's 4 and it's getting embarrassing that she's still in diapers.  Her teachers are very supportive and not judgmental at all....but I'm just getting impatient!  I didn't want to have 2 kids in diapers, but here I am.  Dd did tell me a few days ago that she wanted to be like the baby, that she didn't want to use the toilet.  So maybe I just need to back off.  I just don't know what to do anymore!
 

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Originally Posted by ArcticRose View Post

DD turned 3 last month. I am completely fed up with the whole potty training issue. She knows what the potty is for. She knows we want her to pee and poop in it. She can and has done so... a lot. But... she won't do it consistently! Today was a good (bad) example of this. She won't use the potty if she has any clothes on, so she runs around naked all day. She peed in the potty twice this morning, but this afternoon she refused. I asked her to sit on her potty and that made her mad. I coaxed her (gently) into sitting on it while she drew for a while. When she was done drawing she got up and went in her bedroom... and peed on the floor!! I really had to fight to keep my cool. If I thought she didn't understand, I wouldn't get so irritated, but I know that she knows.. ya know?
What really frustrates me is that she was doing great 6 months ago. She never peed on the floor. She still had to be bare butt all day, but it was working. Then I had a baby and all bets were off. She stopped using the potty at all. If she was naked, she just peed on the floor or, if especially fed up with the baby getting attention, she'd pee on her bed. I backed off the potty training and put her back in diapers full time. I figured it was a simply regression and she'd get over it. And I'm sure she will... it's just taking a lot longer than I expected.
I'm not sure if I should just give up and put her back in diapers or let her pee on the floor. There is no in between. She doesn't care if she's wet or poopy. She would sit in poop until her butt was raw if we let her. We use cloth diapers during the day when she's diapered, so it's not that she can't feel it. I've tried bribery. I've even tried anger (not intentionally) but it didn't have any effect. She just doesn't want to use the potty unless she's in the mood to use it.
She is a bright, articulate little girl. She's in the 90th percentile for weight and height.. which doesn't help the embarrassment factor, since she looks older than she is. She counts and says her abc's (but only when she thinks no one is listening, lol) I think she may just be avoiding the potty because she knows it irritates me. I tried to hide it, but she knows.
Soooo frustrated!!


 

post #25 of 26

My DD1 will turn 3 in a week or so. and she just started going a couple weeks ago. We had tried everything to get her interested, but no luck. We read books on the potty, about the potty, new stickers, etc. She is the most independent child in every area of her life, so to a point it was a bit frustrating. One morning after her bath she said "Set the (kitchen) timer and I will wear my big girl panties until it beeps". I set it for 1 hour. Then she wanted her diaper back on after the timer beeped. The next morning she asked again to wear her big girl panties, but "No timer! I will tell you when I need to go to the potty". (This was a big risk on my part ;-) Sure enough she told me she had to go, used the potty, and has never looked back! She still wears diapers for naps and nighttime. You never know what will help. The last thing I would think to help us with the potty would be the kitchen timer on the oven!

 

Good luck. There were many days where DD2 (16 mos) seemed way more interested in the potty than DD1 (almost 3).

post #26 of 26
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Originally Posted by alittlesandy View Post

Just wanted to post a brief update. Last night and this morning my son peed in the potty. YAY! Three weeks from his third birthday. I am excited but also reminding myself to be patient, not push him too fast, and not have huge expectations right away. However, for the first time ever, he "gets" that he is supposed to pee, and he has actually peed. I feel like we have crossed a huge gulf. Thank you everyone for your support. I will keep you posted on his progress.

 

 


 

You're right not to push it. What finally did it with my son was turning 3yo and "I'm a BIG boy now!!" - literally he said that 1000000000 times on his birthday. The next morning I said, very nonchalantly, "You know what else big boys do? They use the big boy potty!" And then I dropped it. He decided 10 minutes later that he HAD to wear big boy underwear. So he did. And hasn't worn a daytime dipe since.

 

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