An argument with DH - give me your perspective - Page 2

[Adaline'sMama]

My DH would have been upset that I slept the night away with his 2 month old, but right now he would LOVE a night to himself. I kind of get the "you are my wife" thing, but mainly because I have been the one who got really upset when he stayed overnight at a friends and didnt tell me until the last minute. If plans are made, thats one thing, but dont call me up at 10 pm and tell me you arent coming home. However, the fact that he told you it was ok on the phone, but then gave you grief in the morning was not cool.

[CherryBombMama]

I think since the odds of the OP leaving that late when both her babies were sleeping were slim to none, her dh probably felt like her mind was made up. I'm trying to think like my dh, and that is what he would have saw. If it were MY dh, and if we were in this same situation, he would have known better than to argue with me on the phone, while I am in front of my mom, that late at night. 

Sounds to me like the dh just did a, "Ok, I guess you made up your mind" kind of response when the OP informed him of staying the night, then he probably had all night to stew about it, then was extra upset over the fact that she stayed away even longer than she had stated. 

I think its more of a situation where his feelings were hurt, not that he is trying to control her. 

At least, that's my 2 cents :)

[cresentmoon]

Sounds like mother in law jealousy.  He's not as close with them? He's saying THIS is your family.