Please hang in there, this may get long. Let's start with my DS. I decided to nightwean him around 18 months. He would take a pacifier so it was fairly easily done with very little crying. He was so busy during the day that he ended up weaning entirely by 19 months. I would have nursed him longer but it was so trouble free I was just thankful to have nursed that long.
Enter DD, she will be 19 months tomorrow. We have many, many sweet moments. I love when she grabs her boppy pillow and drags it over to me smiling and giggling. That said, actually nursing is fairly unpleasant. She pinches and kneads and chews. I have tried a million things but she is really only happy when pinching skin. She won't take a lovey or anything else to mess with. We co-sleep so she starts the night in her crib and then at first waking moves into bed with us. She won't take a pacifier so I am the pacifier from about midnight until we get up. With my son he would nurse and we would both fall back asleep. With DD she bites if my nipple starts to slip out and with all the pinching and kneading neither one of us gets much rest. Frequently I can't take it so I make her unlatch. This leads to screaming and flailing like she is being tortured. It lasts 5-10 minutes max I think...feels like forever. She will hit, kick and generally flees to my DH. I feel awful but then, she falls back asleep. I feel like it's CIO even though both DH and I are trying to soothe her. What do I do? I want sweet memories of nursing not battle scars.
Any advice? Support? Commiseration? I'll even take a flaming if you think I am doing something wrong :)