my dd will be 8 next month. she is very smart, very creative, and extraordinarily hard on herself if she makes any mistakes. e.g., she got 3 words wrong on a spelling test (never more than one wrong before), and was sobbing hysterically. she will sometimes whack herself in the head (rather hard) if she makes a mistake, even though i have gently urged her to not hurt herself. her teacher is very gentle, and supports my dd as best she can.
i talked with her piano teacher, because the fear of making mistakes was preventing her from practicing. she would sink to the floor and cry if she was making errors. now, she seems to accept (very reluctantly) that mistakes are part of learning piano.
i allow her to see my mistakes. i let her know that all people make mistakes, and we learn from them. please, how can i support her and allow her to be herself while not letting perfectionism cause too many problems? thank you for any ideas.